Please pray for my family, my wife and I are going through a very rough patch that has lead to a temporary speration. Please pray the Lord's will be done in our marriage and that we both find strength in Christ for forgiveness and restoration. We both need healing in our hearts from past hurts that are effecting our marriage.
Thank you and God Bless,
Matthew
Dear brother I will pray for you!
browny
what god has brought together ,let no man ,nor demon nor circumstance tear apart ,,in jesus name
You've got it, Matthew....I know from experiences in my life that it is hard to see beyond the immediate pain, but the Lord will take you much deeper, if you let Him....
Thank you all for your prayers, it does hurt and I have probably cried more tears in the past couple of days than I have my now 4 years of marriage but I know the Lord is in this. I told my wife it hurts but its exciting to see the end result of it all. My faith and hope and joy is in the Lord and honestly I need the help whether my wife stays or goes and vise versa.
I will pray for you. I have been in this situation myself and all I can say is the pain is deep and does linger if allowed to. With GOD my husband and I were able to look past our selfish attitudes and heart of who was right and who was wrong. With JESUS we were able to over come the attacks of the enemy who desired to tear us apart and have us be just another statistic. In ourselves our marriage surely would have ended then and there but that is not how our story ended and I give thanks every day to GOD for helping us die to self and live unto HIM. The one thing that helped me so much was I prayed and still do often that JESUS would help me to love my husband as HE does...
God bless you brother and keep your heart soft before the LORD. Seek HIM and rely on HIS strength in this time.
God Bless
maryjane
I want to thank the prayer warriors that wrestled in prayer for me in a joint effort. My wife and I are going to be staying together and I found out today that a large part of why my wife was hurt and broken was because of a miscommunication. I spoke with a councelor today and it was honestly a relief to talk to someone about my problems but as I was driving home my dad told me my mom talked with my wife and that things didn't line up as far as what I even did wrong.
When I confessed my sin to my wife she went to the worse case scenario and was greatly hurt by it and so become resentful and bitter. It is a HUGE weight off my shoulders and marriage that my wife and I are on the same page, I am still getting help along with my wife getting help as well and we are so much happier to know we are on the same exact page. Satan is a tricky one that loves using even a simple miscommunication to destroy a marriage.
To the newlywed my advise is clear and please take this to the bank and cash it, COMMUNICATE with your spouse and never assume something, make all conversation and yes arguments clear and concise making sure everyone is on the same page. I love you all and I greatly appreciate having a group of people I can come to for prayer knowing you folks aren't just going to say "oh sure sure I'll pray" but you are people of action and do what you say.
This whole experience has been an eye opener on the matter and I know that God has taught me many things through it, though it hurt greatly at the time it was taking place. :)
Thank you again
God Bless,
Matthew
Praise God, brother. That's great news to hear that you'll be staying together! Marriage is a wonderful blessing from God and Satan can be unrelenting in his the attacks he brings against Christian marriages. It is a battlefield where we need Christ's power, as in our flesh we are weak. But praise God, we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us and gave himself for us. I know that myself, I have sometimes become embittered against my wife, which the Bible says I should not do, and have continually been needing God's help and wisdom, to know how to love my wife in the way that Christ loves his church. It seems like you have definitely been learning this as well, as we all need to.
God's rich blessings to you and your wife today! :)
In Christ,
John
Praise God!
Yes, praise the Lord!!
Prayers and sympathy are with you from myself. Hopefully this break will cause both of you to come together and become stronger.
Brother i'm sorry I missed your post. Sounds like the prayers were answered and once again God is glorified, turning lemons into lemonade. I appreciate your honesty and consider it a rare commodity these days. We all have struggles in marriage, as it seems so efficient a test of our flesh. May God bless you and you wife in your commitment to your marriage which is foremost a commitment to Him. May it be a ministry for all of us, who are married in a day, when it is so desperately needed.
Lyle
God bless you, Matthew, and your wife.
I have observed that marriage puts maturity on a fast track. You either grow or you wither and die. You grow up fast because you have two different individuals who have covenanted with God to support each other til death separates you. And the devil will work overtime to prevent this from happening.
So glad to hear there is improvement in your situation, Matthew.
Will pray...
I appreciate all the prayers, I would ask if the Lord leads you to, to continue those prayers but in a different direction. My wife and I are still dealing with issues in our marriage and emotional baggage we both having been carrying around and it has been extremely rough at times. However we have decided to work through them which is something we never really did in the past which has brought us to this point in time.
My personal hope and prayer is the Lord to soften and mend both of our hearts and bring my wife and I back together in a loving and healthy relationship. Its going to take time to reconnect what has been severed and time to heal. Please pray for protection for the adversary as he multiple times through bring up past hurts and rumors has tried very hard to take my wife and I in the wrong direction, we have stood our ground in Christ Jesus but at times this gets weary.
Three days before this all happened my wife was on a trip and I began weeping at the thought of losing her through an accident of some kind. The Lord told me "If you don't open up to her, you will lose her." that day I plead the blood of Jesus over my family, my wife, and myself for protection and shelter from the storm so my faith is in Christ Jesus that He knows what He is doing in the chaos of it all. I have learned many things through this experience and I thank the Lord for sending me on this journey and giving me a chance to repent. Again thank you so much for your prayers they are greatly needed and appreciated.
My wife is leaving me.
I am praying for you Matthew. I know that it feels like being torn apart. God has grace for you. He has had grace for me in this type of pain, so I know he has a store of grace for you. Trust in Him and pray. I will do the same. Keep praying.
Travis
Thank you for your prayers and words of encouragement, they are appreciated. Somehow and someway my pastor has convienced my wife to meet with me and him tomorrow morning. I hope and pray for some kind of break through.
Oh Brother...will pray for this situation,
stay strong.
browny.
This is killing me, seriously. I am at work because no one could come in for me so I could figure things out and get emotionally and mentally straight. My heart is aching and broken, I am writing this to get it out because my phone died so I have no one to talk to. I am so mad and frustrated and hurt right now that seperationi and divorce are even an option for my wife. I have to sit here and stew about it all to just like satan wants, well I have just about had it with satan, I have just about had it with him throwing my past in my face, and pressing the wrong buttons and whispering lies to her.
She is hurting so very much because she can't forgive me, she told me point blank she doesn't want this marriage anymore, I told her I still love her and she said sorry I feel that way. I am getting personal help with a counselor but she is still leaving and it doesn't make sense. I am trying so hard to be patient with her I am trying to hard to have faith but its so very hard right now. I feel so much shame and I just want her to forgive me. She knows the truth but she presist I don't want to see her destroyed.
Mercy, Lord, Mercy this is to much to bare, I can't handle this I need relief from my enemies. Jesus be my strength be my refuge and please forgive me, please forgive my lack of faith, please forgive my weakness and my anger. Amen.
Still praying....you are not alone - many here have experienced the same pain...
Dear Brother,
I too continue in prayer for you and your wife. That what satan plans for evil the Lord will turn it too good. That God will come and intervene in this situation and glorify Himself. Stay so very close to Him Brother. Psalm 27 always is a good one to pray and for comfort & encouragement.
Sheri
Dear Matthew,
God's will is that your marriage would be healed and restored. There are many believers that are praying for you and your wife.
I know from experience that when it seems like all is lost that the Lord can do what seems to be impossible by changing our hearts and making all things new.
Mike
I read, and the emotions wrought by your words brought tears to my eyes.
May the Holy Ghost come and wrap you up in His mighty arms and hold you close to His loving heart.
May the hope of God and love of His dear Son, be very near to you in your mind and in your heart.
I'm praying for you.
Doug
God bless you, Matthew. I know full well what you are going through having been my brother's listening post the past three years - his wife said the same things your wife is. This is telling - they do not know each other but the issues appear similar, the unforgiveness, the anger...
Through this experience my brother came to know the LORD in a new way and it has changed him.
God bless you, Matthew...just keep looking to the LORD and allow him to speak to you - He does not want your marriage to be broken, either.
"Be still and know that I am God..." God is heard in the stillness, not in the roaring....
Praying that God will restore your marriage.
God Bless
Nellie
Praying for you brother and wife. May the love of God be shed abroad by the Holy Spirit. I'm praying for the love of God to saturate your hearts. May the love of God surpass all emotions and hurts and pains... wipe the slate clean Lord by love and forgiveness. Bring them back together Lord.
I just saw this today, brother, and i am praying.
God bless you,
Lisa
Thank you all for your prayers, I have talked with my wife and we are starting to work things out. My wife wants a friendship and open lines of communications but right now what she says she needs the most is space and time to heal. This is difficult for me because I want to rush in and be that source of comfort and healing unfortunately I am the cause of the pain so my presence doesn't give that healing effect but makes matter worse.
Please keep praying for this relationship not every strand is severed but it was getting pretty close. I know God can mend and heal what is broken and I know that He will do it in His timing. For now my wife wants to return to a dating relationship where I see her for a couple of hours a day, we spent 5 hours today together with the kids and about the 4th hour she started acting depressed and distant but the first couple hours were great. When she is ready I am going to pursue her like she wants ie flowers, surprises, and just a friend.
God Bless,
Matthew
May God strengthen you and soften her, so that healing can begin.
Hi Matthew, Just a short communication to let you know that I will be remembering you and your situation before the throne of grace.
Charles
I thank you for all the prayers and encouragement again. My wife came back from her trip and is refreshed and seemed happy again. While on her trip she sent me a text message and told me she is ready to forgive me and work through this. I was so overjoyed! She did say she still needs space and time but now no longer has seperation and divorce in mind but now has an end goal of staying happily married with her. :)
We are currently trying to purchase a house and we are hoping and praying everything for that goes through so we can have our own place and privacy.
God is SOOOOOOO Good! He amazes me and I love that even though my faith is weak He remains faithful and strong for me. Please continue to pray because there is still a long road ahead of my wife and I as we begin to patch up our relationship.
God Bless,
Matthew
I was asking God to change your wife's heart while she was on the retreat, Matthew, so this answer encourages me as well. Will keep praying for you - God bless!
Praise HIM!!
Matthew, I just came across this thread. I now also lift my heart to join in with the others in prayer for you and your wife.
Keep in prayer, keep in faith, and trust God to heal you, your wife, and your marriage.
Jason Smith
Standing in Oregon '07-present
The Lord has/is teaching me a lot with this experience, one is "What does it look like to lay down your life for your wife" and two "What does patience look like"
It's funny how we cling to the title Christian but when finally called to be one in action its like pulling teeth. Or how we love being called a husband or a father but when crisis happens we immediately cringe at the loss it may cause. I sinned greatly against my wife, she has chosen to forgive me but she still has lost her trust in me to her and rightly so.
The road I walk down now is something that I chose and is now a road I must walk down because I took a wrong turn. But I have decided in my heart to stop looking for a short cut to her trust but will take the long winding and broken road. To take responsibility and earn the right and privilege to be called a Husband, A True Husband, A Godly Husband. I am writing this now mostly for me in hopes that it will be before me as a reminder of my commitment to the harder road I must now walk. Your prayers are greatly appreciated. :)
Have been praying...
Bro, all I can say is patience my brother, and a very obscure trust. Hold on to what u have bro and longsuffer.
I have been there, and u must ride out the storm
Hey brothers and sisters,
My wife and I are visiting our pastor this morning for counseling and I would appreciate and have always appreciated the prayers given over this circumstance. My hope and prayer this morning is Satan's lies are shut down and we see some real healing and breakthrough in the defenses of satan. Thank you all so much for your support.
hi, noone likes to be around someone who is down so you must trust God enough to let your light shine and shine with joy. your wife will be your first priority after your relationship with Jesus...before church or work or sermon index or football or golf or hunting and altho you don't want to smother her,you must inclde her in everything and honor her opinions with joy.praying...jimp
Thank you brother jimp, what you have said is the lesson I am learning now. I took my wife for granted and now I am so worried about losing her. Before all this happened God touched my heart and I began weeping for my wife and asked the Lord protect her and our marriage, He is faithful all the time. These past couple of days I have been overjoyed after work and its all because I get another to show my wife my love to her. Its all the Lord though because without Him I would be a blubbering emotional idoit.
God bless you, Matt. Will keep on praying. And thanks for the update.
ginnyrose
Please continue to pray for me and my wife, I received a letter from my wife today saying she is divorcing me. Right now my only concern is my two little ones being in that enviroment and that I get full custody of them to take them out of that enviroment. Do I want reconciliation? Absolutely. But I can't force her to stay. Pray for my little ones that God covers their little eyes and ears and protects them from the storm to come.
God Bless,
Matthew
*Edited* To show grace and repent of my evil tongue
WOW! I have been praying and was rejoicing that things seemed to be improving. Only God....
I thought things were getting better too, unfortunately she blindsided me with this yesterday evening in a letter...
Matthew I am just lighting on this thread now and I had no idea that things have become obscure in your relationship.
Emotional neglect is what usually causes a woman to seek elsewhere whether it be with another man or a woman, whoever is there to comfort and understand her will be her strength.
I hope you have pushed everything out of the way and are Praying and Fasting. You shouldn't pass another piece of meat through your mouth until all has been recovered. God will strengthen your body when your at work.
When David lost the city of Ziklag to certain raiders that came down and plundered the city and took his wives and children and all the men's wives that were with him, they didn't stop to mourn, they pursued the enemy and chased them and killed everyone of them that took what belonged to them and recovered all.
If you need help take a couple of people, dedicated to such things and pray through that you too may recover all.
BE FIERCE, WIN, REJOICE!!
I will admit that I probably am not the husband of the year that our marriage is failing because I am a skerw up, I have asked for forgiveness, I have repented and I have learned from my mistake but according to her its all too late. My only Hope now is she continues this path of destruction and hits rock bottom. I still deeply care for her and love her but she calls me a control freak and "overbearing."
*Edited* To show grace and Repent of my evil tongue.
The best thing to do brother is to agree with her.
If she is accusing you of something it means that she is willing to talk about it, but you need to bend, and bend a lot if your to win her back.
If she says that your a control freak, except the fact that your a control freak, that is how she is seeing you, accept it, and tell her humbly, "I want to change this, I don't want to lose you, will you help me change this". And mean it with all your heart.
If she says that your overbearing, than except the fact that your overbearing, that is how she is seeing you, except it as a fact and are you willing to bend to her?
If your fighting with her, your going to lose her. If you get on the offensive your going to lose her. If she says something offensive and you lose your cool, your going to lose her. If you love her, learn to shut-up because she has left because of something that you are not doing.
Don't come on here accusing your wife, she is finding fault with you, that is why she left. Eve left Adam and Adam accuses his wife. It's the old old story.
At this point you don't call her a liar even if she may be one. God wants to save her and your marriage. You don't want her to go further into destruction so she may come to her end, that approach is foolish. That is pity talking.
If she is accusing you of something, take it and humble yourself to wanting change and keep your mouth shut.
I remember a testimony a couple gave who were married and had children and he left her for another man. She got to praying for him. She believed what God hath put together let no man put asunder. Well, he would bring his lover home with him and she tell her husband, "I don't care who you bring home, your my husband and no man is going to separate us." That was her attitude. In the end, he got so sick of himself that he ran back home to his wife.
The moral of this story is that you have to get your word from God as to what to do and be fierce in your faith in the closet and be firm in what you believe God is telling you and at the same time be kind and gentle.
Dear brother,
reading and following your story....just want to let you know I am praying for you.
browny.
You know what Approved, as much as I hate to admit it you sir are correct. This whole situation has made me lose focus of the real important matter and that is saving my marriage. I love my wife very much but I can't accuse her any more even if I have that and can say it, I don't want to be an accuser of the brethren. My biggest thing is my children right now is my children.
I am overbearing and controling because I have absolutely no control over this and I need to give it to God He is my strength, My source, my everything. Here lately I haven't let Him be that for me, I have been selfish and judgmental. Last night when I sat and stewed about stuff I called my wife late at night and was upset with her I should have never called her with anger in my heart, I talked to her today and I was calm and gentle and told her that there was grace for her still. She thought I was bipolar because of my mood swing from harsh to gentle. If my end goal is saving the marriage I need to be gentle and not take the offensive. My only hope is she comes to her senses and I will just have to trust that Godly councel finds her ears and she actually listens.
Dear Matthew, I agree wholeheartedly w/ Approved. Please listen carefully to what he/she is saying. Please let all legalism go and lean and press in heavily to the gentle, longsuffering heart of our Saviour . Stay on your knees long enough to see yourself as God sees you in all your own failures and you will feel his very love and forgiveness toward you. You will then obtain a different perspective on your wife. If He can forgive you? know what I mean? Try also in that time to remember your calling as a husband through the word of God and allow Him to minister that truth to you for the saving of your family. And remember He asked you to sanctify her by the "washing of your words." Gentle words brother, healing words, wise words. Remember the story of Hosea and Gomer even. Satan comes to kill, steal and destroy the most sacred covenant on earth, marriage. The very picture of His relationship w/ us. God will defeat him if you allow him too. He is closest to the humble and contrite hearts. He resist Pride. I'm am talking from experience. Husband & I 28 yrs. Many a bad day. My prayers are w/ you. Looking forward to a praise report. God bless you.
Hey Matthew, This is message that is sobering but it's also encouarging. I pray that you listen to it. I have heard it twice this week. It's one of those message that we need especially us men.
http://www.tscnyc.org/media_center.php?pg=sermons
It's called the Candlestick.
Just wanted to let you know you are still being brought up in my heart.
Have you been carried through the fire yet? The fire is in your own heart, in the hands of the great surgeon.
May I give you in love a hint of my refining fire, w/out the ugly details?
I just want to say whether your the victim or the victimizer God is still no respector of persons.
Marriage in my opinion is great training ground for our great calling. A great "mission field" so to speak.
I was the victim and not only I (that's the hardest part, you've no idea). But I'm not perfect either.
I shared how His love is born in my experience in the closet. And how I thank God now for the trial.
Again, your marriage, your mission field. Hope to hear from you soon.
In his calling, -k-
hey there,
I just posted and then read your post to Joyful Heart. So encouraged. Hang in there, it's more than worth it. Transformation is a beautiful thing. I was going to ask you to read that post from JH when I was thinking and praying for you. The Holy Spirit Is always the same.. He has to be present in our lives to do His work in those around us. Whether your the victim or the victimizer:) Glory.
God's love, sis -k-
The evolution of this situation has got me leaning on Christ more than I ever have, its tough because naturally I am a go getter that will fight for what I believe in and want. Unfortunately that has been my greatest downfall in this situation. God wants control and He is in control, I really do need to just step out of the way and let God be God. I don't really know what to do as far as the divorce part but I do know I have no desire to pursue one myself so my wife is going to have to figure that one on her own (and pay for that one on her own as well). I told her the other day I am not going to have legal representation that if she waylays me and takes everything I am defenseless. Which we all know I am not because Christ is my defense.
God bless you bro.
I hate to hear that things are still elevating but at the same time and through experience have seen the greatest victories occur when there is no other way to save the situation but by the wonderful mercy and grace of God.
Yet it still causes a little fear to even speculate.
But you sound like someone who searches His Word and knows the mind of Christ and I'll keep praying for you to have a blessed breakthough when you are WORKING this thing out between our precious Lord and yourself.
He will get the victory if you let him and Oh so blessed you will be.
I'm praying and believing in a new report coming from you soon.
Keep leaning on His mercy, love, power and grace.
God definately wants to bless you brother and through you, your family.
Your in our hearts and prayers.
God can make a way when there seems to be no way.
Why is it that we have to allow God to change our own hearts over and over again even when it seems we're dealing the most unencourageable?
Such has been my lot.
God's love sis -k-
PS Going through a very difficult valley myself. Asking God for more than I think I've ever asked him for.
Hope to give you a good report in return.
I am still broken and hurting from all this, but resolving to remain graceful and honor my wife so I won't give details. Just know my days seem dark and the cry of my heart is "Where is relief?" the enemy is attacking strongly and heatedly and the small blip of hope that resides in my heart is fading. Yet my love for my wife still remains strong no matter the circumstance because Christ has placed that love in me for her. I praise the Lord for my health, my children, and the eventual restoration of my family. God is good even in the darkness.
Still praying....
Quick update, nothing has gotten better in fact it seems I am starting to get hit with the storm even harder, Satan is furious and seeking to destroy. At this point in time it looks like he will succeed as long as my wife doesn't repent. I am still in prayer but again I resolve in my heart to not file for divorce. It's rough and my heart has went from broken to simply calloused towards this situation. I spoke with my wife tonight and told her I can't have a relationship with her until she repents. I am trying hard to keep reconciliation the one and only option but Satan and her are making things rather difficult. I appreciate your prayers they are greatly needed now in the midst of this war.
I will say I have taken my focus off the situation and placed it on Christ Jesus, this I believe is where I went wrong in it all. Like the church of Ephesus I lost sight of my first Love, my Beloved Jesus Christ and so I am honed in on Him and His Glory. If it's the Lord's will to work things out then He will do it in His timing not mine.
God Bless,
Matthew
Thanks for the update. How well I know that we would like a quick fix, but God's ways seem to take time. May He strengthen you and give comfort. May you yield to what He is trying to do in your life. And may He soften your wife's heart. You remain in my prayers....
Thank you so much, Christ is ministering to my heart daily and that has brought me joy. My greatest grief is that of all the relationships my wife has abandoned and severe her relationship with Christ is what really needs to be established.
My heart broke this morning as Christ showed me His Love for my wife, the mercy He shows her and wishes to further show her. But the Holy Spirit whispered to my heart four words that brought tears to my eyes, I wept not for my Beloved but His because that is what my wife is HIS , I heard "The Storm is coming"
Please pray the Lord have His way with her, his wayward child. That her eyes might be opened and she turn to Him once again. He spoke to my heart a beautiful message of forgiveness, a message of grace, but also a message of warning. My wayward child come home to me, I miss you, I love you, I want you. I miss the joy I felt when you sang your Love songs to me, I miss your laughter, I miss the peace of your heart. I am still yours and you are still Mine, try as I may to chase other lovers I find no other but you. You were made for me for my pleasure and my joy and my glory.
Pray I stay strong and sensitive to the Holy Spirit as I take my children to church today. As the storm approaches please pray my strength gives way and Christ fills me with His. That the Lord shines light on my wife's heart and makes her clay once again, that the Lord opens her ears that she hear the whisper of her conscience once again and the Holy Spirit once again, and opens her blind eyes and the Lord places His Salve on them and they see once again.
And finally that the Lord continue to break my heart for her salvation to cause me to press deeper and deeper into prayer for her.
Matthew
After reading your post I was very moved by the love and Christlike heart you have for your wife. I know that it is a testimony of Christ working in your own life that you are now able to walk this path in your marriage. Please know through the coming storm that God is with you and loves you also no matter what. Hold strong to HIM because HE alone can see you through. I am in prayer for your family and especially your wife. Are there any strong Christian sisters in her life that would be willing to go to her and speak to her about her present rebellion? I pray God would send someone and that your wife would be open to hear HIS truth.
God bless
mj
I see growth in you, Matthew, in the year that I have been on SI. Praising the Lord for that in the midst of your trial. Have been praying for you and will continue. This is not just about your wife - it is also about your children. The greatest gift you have to give them is a daddy who walks humbly with Christ....may God continue to hold you up...
As crazy as this is and as hurtful this situation seems and feels, I would just like to praise the Lord this morning for this wonderful opportunity to grow and minister to others. I know many whose going through relational problems and many of them have asked me "How do you do it?" commenting on my positive attitude and my pious in handling the situation. I am not saying that to brag or boast because ALL credit is His and that is exactly what I tell them! :)
God is GOOD ALL the TIME, in times of trail we can question this and trust me I have question the necessity of it all, I have gone through the why mes and all the other hang ups we go through. I know that CHRIST is the Victory and that my beloved is HIS and He not once gave up on His bride, not a single time! He withdrew His Spirit at times not because He withdrew but the because His bride withdrew through sin. His promises are true yesterday, today, and forever and if He can Heal woman who suffered from bleeding for so many years by her simply touching Him then SURELY He can heal my wife's broken and wayward heart (and mine).
HE is supreme, He is the boss man, He is a loving Father, He is Judge, Jury, and executioner, He is the Glorious one, He is the Awesome One, HE is my Salvation, my Rock, my Fortress, my shelter from the storm. HE IS WORTHY because HE IS! :)
I love you all with the Love of Christ and I thank you so much for your prayers and encouragement, you are all my dearest brothers and sisters, if I could I would personally hug every one of you!
I know the road is long, I know that my children are in a poor situation, I know that its an uphill battle both ways but if my God is for me? Who dares stand a chance against me? And who I am? that He would even care about me and my wife? :) Thank you Lord for all you are!
Thank you, last video you suggested was a great help as well I will watch it when I work tonight :)
Thank you brother Approved that was a great encouragement and ignited in my heart even more trust and peace in the Lord as I walk through the storm.
I don't fully understand but I am grateful the Lord is with me on this path, I don't fully know the fullness of Glory that will come of it but I do know no matter what amount that does come from it is worth the pain and striving because Christ is worthy.
Lord Jesus, become my heart's desire, become my heart's focus. No matter what happens in this storm Lord take the throne of my heart and remove anything that could take your place, including my wife. You are the only one worthy of my heart, the only one deserving of my devotion. Soften me for your kingdom and make me sensitive to Your gentle whisper. Walk past me as I sit in the cleft of the Rock that I may have a small glimpse of Your Glory. Continue to show your beloved mercy by giving her another day and another chance to turn her heart back to you. Lord Jesus give me dove's eyes fully looking to You in everything. Amen.
Brothers and Sisters God is SOOOOO Good! :)
I will praise Him in the Rain and when the Sun is shining bright!
Quick update for those praying for my family, yesterday picking up my children my wife finally showed remorse for her actions. She finally came to a place of what seemed to be brokeness. I am not jumping the gun on this though and letting my guard down but I told her the door of reconciliation is still open and that its her choice.
Saints pray that all roadblocks to repentance for her are removed and that its a clean break. I am at a place of "I will believe the repentance when I see it with definite action, so restoration is still on hold until she takes it, basically the ball is in her court. But yesterday for me is proof of the Holy Spirit in her, convicting her heart. I give all glory to HIM! I am a weak man with nothing to offer but what Christ has given me.
Satan is going to get real fierce if repentance is the path she is choosing. Pray hard and let our knees look like Camel's!
"The battle is raging, the Devil is Raging I don't want to be sleeping, while the battle is raging!"
I am grateful for this report....of course we want repentance and restoration between you and your wife, but it is the growth in you that seems most remarkable to me.....surely will continue praying...God bless you!
I have been praying hard and long about this situation, my heart has been broken, I have lost my temper, I have said hurtful things, I have lost my cool, I have over stepped my boundaries. My wife wants nothing to do with me and has no desire to reconcile our relationship to any degree. Is it proper for me to move on with my life without her? Is it proper for me to get my life back on track if she isn't apart of it?
Please note, I have no desire to seek a relationship with anyone in a romantic way except our Lord Jesus and even right now that's hard to do because of this situation.
I come to a few conclusions that I think have helped me,
1. I can't force her into a relationship
2. God is in Control
I am trying so hard to follow the example of the Word of God, I see when Israel became wayward God let them go until they hit rock bottom and wanted Him back. I fear this is what I must do for my wife.
I have no answers, Matthew, but I am praying....You are very right in your 2 conclusions....May God continue to hold you up...
How are you doing, Matthew??
Well not really sure, I am certain that my marriage is through though in the sense that things have only gotten worse. (Of course when things get worse it means the Heavenilies are battling that much harder).
Today however was a strange day because my wife hurt her ankle and thought it was broken and so I showed some concern for her as I thought I should and she responded with tears.
My prayer for her now is the Holy Spirit causes the wine she is drinking to become bitter gall in her mouth instead or something sweet, so that she can return to the better wine of Christ Jesus.
I understand....will keep praying...don't give up. Pls keep us posted if you are able....
Update for the prayer warriors praying for my family. First off THANK YOU for your continued prayer and support in all of this.
My wife in her own words plans on getting a divorce, yet has some reservation to going through it all, or at least that is what I heard in her voice yesterday on the phone. I have expressed with her many times my desire for restoration of our family, that Christ loves her and that I love her. She told me it would be much easier if I hated her guts instead of cared about her so much, I simply told her it wasn't in me to do that.
Every night when praying with my kiddos, we pray for mommy that God soften her heart and fill it with forgiveness and love for this situation. I plan on going to a prayer meeting today and pressing in for my family.
Before I really wanted to give up because of the disrespect I was getting but since then she started showing me some respect and it has greatly helped. Last night was the first time we talked for a long while and didn't end up angerily yelling at each other or hanging up the phone, which was a great feeling.
I heard many ifs in our conversation which to me brings hope to my heart because before there were definites. Patiences has been the virtue of choice this experience and God has taught me patience to an even deeper degree. Please pray for myself and my wife to continue to heal what Satan tried to severe and to restore what Satan tried to break. It's only going to be by Christ and for Christ this marriage is going to work and be healed. Pray also for my family to have a heart of forgive should the restoration process begin.
Thank you again for your prayers and thoughts they are appreciated. In Christ ALONE!
Well, Praise God for "ifs" - such a little word can carry such big hope...continuing with you in prayer. Thank you for the update.
Hello mguldner,
Praying for you and your family.
Hi Matthew,
Reading your post when I am on SI.
And remember You in my prayers brother!
browny
Thank you all for your prayers! I can say God is moving in the midst of myself and my wife. He is so good!
Still some reservation but I see the light at the end of the tunnel though it's still far off.
She is in Christ's hands and I pray His will be done in her heart, that whatever needs healed God would touch it. I pray it is speedy for my sanity sake but I pray the Lord continue to fill me with mercy, grace, and patience in all of this.
I have learned a lot in all of this and my heart was broken but Christ has begun His healing touch and made my heart stronger and better than before. Keep the prayers up as I feel there could be a break through any day now but to receive the patiences to wait for this break through should it be something I wait a long time for.
Thank you for your prayers.:)
God Bless,
Matthew
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