Hi sister ginnyrose,
Chris,Would you give your wife a burial like that??? I would be utterly humiliated if I knew this is what my husband would think of me!
There!
ginnyrose
My wife actually agreed with me and said that she doesn't want much "ado" over her own body/funeral either. She wasn't worried "what I think of her" -- because she knows that there is only One in this universe that I love more than her! It wouldn't be "humiliating" because there would be no pride found in her death and her death itself is not something that we weep at.
I think that believers are often looking through the issue of "burial" (if it is indeed an "issue") through the lens of modern society. What was a typical burial (for those of us who are not earthly kings or queens) like prior to the 20th Century?
How was a typical human being (including a spouse) buried at the time of Abraham, Isaac or Jacob? What about the time of the prophets? How about the time of Christ? What was a funeral like in the 19th Century frontier?
Yes, Jesus was laid in a BORROWED TOMB. We can argue that this is because he and his followers believed that our Lord would not "stay dead." However, the point that I am trying to make is that the tomb in which Jesus was laid was that of a rich man. The tomb itself was not "typical."
Most people at the time could not afford a nice tomb. Most people were just buried in the ground. No box. No casket. No fancy funeral homes. No wakes. No fancy plot of ground at a cemetery. No fake flowers. No tombstones.
I knew a woman who was spending a lot of money preparing for her funeral. She had the casket picked out, the plot was purchased, a guest list was prepared and even a list of songs selected. There is nothing wrong with such things (as long as they aren't motivated by pride). However, I remember thinking that it reminds me of young women who prepare for a "wedding" but not for a "marriage."
My sister-in-law had a little boy who died about a year before my wife and I were married. The little boy, Caleb, only lived for a few months before he passed away. My sister-in-law and her husband were both in college at the time and struggling financially.
At the time, all of the family members were struggling financially too. Thankfully, the funeral home was very understanding and provided their services at a low cost. Caleb's body was laid in a small wooden box that looked like it was built by a carpenter during the 18th Century and placed in an unmarked grave at a local cemetery.
The family didn't feel badly about the funeral. They held great love for this child and that love wasn't confined to the box or plot where the box was placed.
Personally, I just don't think that God is so worried about it. I certainly don't think that a "Christian burial" is an "essential" doctrine of the Church. The Word of God speaks much more about things like circumcision -- and believers aren't required (or prohibited) from being circumcised either.
I do understand the arguments in favor of burial. After all, God buried Moses at a secret location. However, that doesn't make it a prerequisite for a "Christian" burial or necessarily a prohibition to cremation. After all, many believers were martyred WITHOUT being allowed to "make preparations." Again, personally, I don't want to be cremated; however, I won't lose "sleep" over it either.
I just don't think that it is vitally important. Otherwise, there would be much more about it contained within the Word of God. For us, perhaps there is something worth remembering from the the words of Jesus when he said, "Let the dead bury the dead."