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How Are You?
Gary Wilkerson
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Gary Wilkerson

How Are You?

Gary Wilkerson · 34:50

Gary Wilkerson teaches that while everyone has a life story filled with struggles and unmet desires, true healing and transformation come from embracing God's higher purpose and honestly sharing our hidden pains with trusted others.
In this heartfelt devotional sermon, Gary Wilkerson explores the universal human experience of unmet desires and personal struggles. He encourages believers to embrace God's redirections in life and to find freedom through honest storytelling and vulnerability. Drawing from biblical truth and personal testimony, Wilkerson challenges listeners to pursue a higher story centered on love and authentic community rather than earthly success.

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Turn me in your scriptures to John chapter 7 if you would, John chapter 7 and just a couple of verses. This is Jesus on the last day, this is verse 37. On the last day, the climax of the festival, Jesus stood and shouted to the crowds, anyone who is thirsty may come to me, anyone who believes in me may come and drink, for the scriptures declare rivers of living water shall flow out of his innermost being.

The innermost being, something can happen in the innermost being that transforms the externals of the life around us. Everyone in this room has a story. I'm going to use the white board if you can, I hope you can see it on the sides, you can see okay on the side over there.

Everyone has a story. This is you. You have a story.

Everybody has a story, and then everybody has a story that has a desire at the end of the story. This is your heart's desire. And you're moving along in your life and you, if you are honest, you want this to connect pretty well here.

My life story, I want a healthy life story, I want a victorious life story. And most of us have a very clear heart's desire. The reality is though, we all have, John Ortberg says this, we all have a story, but we never get the story we want.

Have you ever experienced that? Everybody has a story, but nobody gets the story that they actually want. The story has all kinds of twists and turns, difficulties, trials, tribulations, troubles. And so the story kind of goes like this, I'm looking for my heart's desire.

I want to be a great preacher. I want to build a big church. I want to touch millions of people.

I want to have these big, sweeping desires in my heart, and they're good to have those desires. But the reality is, you come across all kinds of failures and difficulties and trials and tribulations and sinful patterns that you have to overcome. And all of a sudden, this heart's desire that you once felt so strong about seems so far away now.

You have failed. You have struggled. You have marriage problems.

Your kids are addicted. Your church seems to be falling apart. Your sermons fall flat.

You have all of these different failures, and it seems like the heart's desire is further away than ever before. What is Jesus up to? What's he up to in the story of your heart's desire? Well, for me, can I tell you a little bit of my story? So I grew up in a home where my father was mightily used in ministry, and I'm so thankful for it. But it did tend to, like a lot of evangelists or pastor's kids say, it does tend to distract you at times.

So when he was on the road, sometimes two to three weeks every month, and then he would come home. He was quite, what's the word, like invested in ministry, and sometimes he would not be very focused on me or my siblings. And so we kind of felt he was distracted, or he was distant, or he was just didn't engage with us sometimes.

I would walk into the room, and I'd know what I'd have about maybe 15 seconds to say what I wanted to say. How was school today? Hey, Dad, school was great. And then he was like, I got to go, or I'm focused on something else.

And so my heart's desire was I'm going to be significant enough. I'm going to make an impact on the world strong enough that my dad will finally pay attention to me. And you know how many times we project onto God our Father the same things we think from our Father.

So God's going to be impressed with me. When I start preaching with fire in my bones, then he's going to be impressed with me. When I build a big church, then he's going to be impressed with me.

So this is my heart's desire. It wasn't a healthy heart's desire, but it was an honest one. And if I can be honest with you, maybe you can be honest with me.

Some of you have heart's desires that are more of our selfish ambition, trying to overcome, compensate, replace the pain in our heart to try to get to something that makes us feel good about ourselves. And so all these failures made me miserable. I planted a church, and it folded.

I went on a missions trip and started some orphanages, and two out of the three orphanages closed. I preach at conferences, and nobody ever invites me back, except for the ones that I organize myself. And I get invited back every time.

And so it's just this like, wait a minute, Lord. The trajectory's going the wrong direction. My heart breaks for some of you in this room here today because you've been feeling this, right? You've been feeling your heart.

My life is going in the wrong trajectory. The ambitions, the vision, the hopes, the dreams, they seem to be further away from me than when I first started. I was hoping this was my story, but nobody gets the story they want.

Everybody has some of these things in their story as well. Some of the stories I've been hearing recently from pastors and leaders. Talked to a pastor recently, and he said, can I speak to you alone? And we went to a room on the side, and he was trembling.

He said, I've been angry a lot. I'm angry at my staff. I'm angry at my wife sometimes.

I'm angry at my children. I'm angry sometimes when I'm preaching. I'm preaching with anger, and I can feel that rage inside of me.

And I prayed about it and asked God to help me overcome it, but I can't seem to break free from these chains that bind me. And he said, when you were preaching tonight, your message, it hit me. And just this memory came back to when I was, I think he said 10 or 12 years old.

And he was at a Boy Scout camp, and he got sexually molested at that camp. And he was so angry that that happened to him. That that rage stayed in his heart for year after year after year.

No matter how hard he prayed. No matter how hard he tried to overcome it. It was still inside of him, and he just had that anger.

And it was like, that moves me further away from being a man of peace and loving my children and loving my wife. I'm just moving further and further away. And just him saying that to me.

You should have seen his face. It was just like the relief. He said, I've never told anybody this story my entire life.

And as soon as he told me, it was like freedom came into his life. Telling the story. And he had a desire to have a pain-free life, a trouble-free life.

But sometimes things go south for us. Another woman told me recently, I was preaching at their church. And she said, she was like 70 years old.

She said, when I was a little girl, my sister and I would go to see my father. And my father would turn to my sister and say, you're so beautiful. You're just so precious.

And then he would turn to me and say, but you, you're fat and ugly. Isn't that awful? And he would do that time and time again. And now she's 70 years old.

A Christian. Loves Jesus. Tried to pray through this.

But nonetheless, still feeling the pain of that. Still hearing that voice ruminate within her mind over and over and over again. Right? Does anybody in this room have that at all? Something you remember somebody said to you? Does anybody in this room have sort of a, I don't know.

Is my life the only one that went this direction? Okay. Thank you. Thank you.

And so these feel like, so I list these as failures in my life. Can I tell you something the Lord told me? These are not failures. These are redirections.

You see, my desire was, I'm going to become a man of notoriety. I'm going to become successful. I'm going to become well-known.

I'm going to do something big with my life. But failure after failure, what I thought was failure, was actually the Holy Spirit redirecting my life. Where I finally realized this heart's desire here is actually my, I would call it my lower story.

I'll just write lower there. My lower story. It's the one that I wanted for myself, but God never intended for me.

And it was because of all these things happening that I realized, like, that's really not what God wants for me. And it took some struggles, and it took some difficulties, and it took some heartaches. And it took some pain, and it took some honesty to assess these things to finally realize that's really the lower story.

To become known. To walk into a room and people go, oh, there's Gary Wilkerson. That's such a low story, isn't it? Is that really our heart's desire? To build something big? To do something earth-shattering? To become known for that thing that we're doing? And all of a sudden the Lord gave me a higher, gave me back, He gave me a new heart's desire.

A brand new heart's desire. You know, I'll just share it with you. I just want to love people.

I do. That's my new story. And it took all this to get rid of this.

And He gave me a higher story now. And He gave that pastor... He gave that pastor a higher story. He gave that woman a higher story.

That really what we're after is to be loved by God. And to love God. To have a group of people around us that love us richly, deeply, truly.

And to love people around us with a pure heart. A heart after God. And so this is... You may have walked into this room and felt like, man, my story's just falling apart.

The things that I wanted aren't coming to reality. I want to say today, those are redirections from the Holy Spirit. Because He has something higher for you.

Something better for you. Something richer for you. That you never would have imagined in your own.

Now, I want to tell you something here today. That I encourage you. Not here today.

Or not tomorrow. But when you go home. I want you to try to engage in this next thing that I'm going to be talking about.

Everyone has a story. And not everybody gets the story they want. Nobody gets the story they really want.

The next thing I want to say to you is... Each of us have a story that we don't want to tell somebody. You following me? There's a story that you're afraid to tell somebody. There's a story that you're hiding.

It's the story you'd be most ashamed to tell somebody. Like that man who came to me and said, I haven't told anybody this. It happened to me when I was 12 years old.

30, 40 years of holding that story in. And when he told me, it was a relief. It was a freedom coming.

And everybody in this room has a story. And the story that you most don't want to tell. Can you think of that? I wouldn't ask you to come up here in a microphone and tell us all that story.

But somebody. Somebody that you trust. To sit down with them and say, I've never told anybody this.

But here's some of the struggles that I'm going through. Everybody has a story that they want to hide. But I want to say to you.

The story that you most want. The story you're most afraid to tell. Is the story you most need to tell.

That's the one that's in your heart. Because that's the one that's causing the shame. That's the one that you're hiding.

That's the one that you're putting on a facade. That's the one where you're not being really real. And so I want to encourage you to find somebody in your life.

Where you could tell that story to. In an unedited fashion. Not the preacher kind of story.

Preachers always tell stories. When I was 20 years old. 50 years ago.

I struggled with pornography. That's safe to say. 50 years ago.

What sinner are you struggling with now? You're still angry. You're still selfish. And so those stories are the stories.

We really need to tell somebody. But the Christian community has put on such a facade. We put on an external.

We don't want to tell people. Where we're afraid. There's a lot of reasons for that.

So let me tell you another story. Can we take a big breath. And let me tell you another story here.

The Talmud writes about ancient Hebrew Jewish history. And the Talmud writes about an event that took place in the first century. It was in the temple.

The Talmud calls it an ancient temple ritual. And every year they would have a huge festival in the temple. And people would come from Jerusalem, Judea, Samaria.

Even outermost parts of the world. They would come. And Jerusalem is up on a higher elevation than most of the region around it.

And then the temple has stairs going up to it. So you're up there. And this temple is this huge temple.

It's about. They say about 30 football fields. Could fit within the outer court of the walls surrounding the temple.

So it's this huge place. And people would come by this course. Thousands and thousands and thousands of people would come into the temple.

And the rabbis and the priests would stand at the entrance of the temple. So as people were walking into the temple. And there was this big huge temple around here.

The priest would say to the people coming in. Is it well with you? And the people would say. Many of them would say.

It is well with me. The Lord is blessed. Jehovah has been good to me.

We are giving thanks. And so the rabbis and the priests would say. Turn to your right.

And as you walk around the walls of the outer court. Begin to praise the Lord. Give him thanks for the good things he's done in your life.

Shout praises. Dance. Sing.

Just rejoice. And the people were so excited. They were happy to do that.

If when they asked that question. Is it well with you? If somebody would have said. No.

It's not been a year that I. I will still thank the Lord. But my heart is breaking. There's pain within me.

There's suffering. There's a memory of a voice that somebody said to me. I'm fat and ugly.

There's an abusive situation that took place. There's a marriage problem. That I can't seem to resolve.

My kids are out there in the world. And they're not following God. And it just breaks my heart.

It's like the experience. My wife and I have had just a few months ago. Our conference director.

Rob Lau who helped us lead this conference last year. Just two months ago. Passed away in his sleep.

A massive heart attack. His wife is now our conference director. Can we put our hands together for Lisa.

We love you Lisa. So grateful. For you to pick up that mantle.

And keep pressing on. And we miss Rob so much. I'm actually.

I don't know if you can dedicate a conference to somebody. But can we just dedicate this conference to Rob Lau. And just thank God for his powerful life.

So. Right. Your expectation would be.

If Lisa comes to the temple. And the priest says is it well with you. I'm going to say it's well with me because I love God.

But it's not well. Things are not good. I'm hurting.

So the priest would say turn to your left. And walk around the exterior walls. The interior walls of the temple.

And turn left. And grieve. Do what the psalmist did.

Tell God. Ask him how long oh Lord. Just feel free to express the grief.

That you have in your heart. Now you're a leader here. So if I were to ask you.

You come to the temple gates. And I say to you. It's all well with you.

A lot of you are going to say. Oh praise God. Hallelujah.

How are you? Oh I'm fine. Church is good. It's growing.

It's a good budget last year. Or maybe you. Maybe things aren't going so well that way.

But yet you're still internally you feel okay. But what if you were real honest? Does that make sense to you? What if you were really honest. And just said this is.

What if I were to ask somebody. How are you doing? And they actually said I feel miserable. My heart is breaking.

I'm hurting inside. And we wouldn't put on the facade. When I was a little boy.

My parents would take us to church on Sunday. And I don't know if any of you. Have been through this ritual or not.

It's like. Four kids. Two parents wrestling with four kids.

To try to get them up on a Sunday morning. And it's a weekend. So we want to sleep in.

Okay get up Gary. I don't want to go to church today. Why not? I don't like church.

Why not? Because Christians are mean. No they're not. Shut up.

Shut up. Get out of bed. And then.

My sisters would be fighting. And my dad would be saying to my mom. You're not dressed yet.

And she'd say. You try to get four kids up on Sunday. And go to church.

And he would say I will next Sunday. And they were like bickering and stuff. And we'd get in the car.

And they'd be like. Shut up back there. I'll turn this car around.

Please turn the car around. There's this awful feel in the car. And then you pull up in the church parking lot.

Get out of the car. Walk in. The greeters are there like.

Praise God how are you today? And the whole family would be like. Wonderful. We're just blessed.

We're so blessed. We're so happy. To be in the Lord's presence with all of you.

And I'm looking at my parents like. What are you guys. Schizophrenic or something? And we laugh.

But we do the same thing. Maybe not just driving to church. But when we're asked a question.

How are you? Or do you have somebody in your life. That you could actually turn left with. And say yeah I'm hurting.

I'm going to go this direction in my life. Now the ancient. Ritual.

Temple ritual says. That when the people who are walking around to the left. Would encounter the people who are walking around to the right.

As they would pass them. The people who are. Having a good season in life.

Would turn to those who are walking left. And say some very simple things to them. Saying we see you.

Was one of the things they were recorded as saying. We are with you. We are here for you.

We believe in you. We are praying for you. And just those.

Just those words. Sometimes there was. Some recording in the tomb which said.

Sometimes people would pass somebody. And they would say we are here for you. Pass somebody else we see you.

Pass somebody else we are praying for you. Pass somebody else it's going to be well. God is with you.

And all of a sudden they would turn around. And go like hey that's all I needed. I just needed a little bit of encouragement.

I needed to be honest. To tell my story. I need to go left.

And a lot of church people are willing to go left. But leaders are not as willing to go left. We want to protect our reputation.

We want to put on the facade. That all is well. And the problem with that is it gets stuck in our gut.

We have this pain. We have this sorrow. We have this sinful habit inside of us.

That we are not telling anybody about. We are struggling with certain things. And it gets repressed down inside of us.

And it begins to pop up in even worse scenarios. And before long you are falling into sin. Before long you have to quit the ministry.

Before long you are exposed. And I want to encourage you. Allow yourself to tell your story to somebody else.

Before the news tells your story. Tell your story to a friend that you can trust. That they can walk with you through that.

And help you through that. Pastor, leader, friend. You are not above the struggles of life.

You are not beyond getting hurt. You are not beyond being lonely. You are not out of reach of Satan's temptation.

To try to drag you down. And if you do life alone. If you walk into the temple.

And turn right and say. Oh everything is fine. But inside your heart is crumbling.

Inside the weight on your shoulders is overwhelming you. And you are just walking around in the right. Yeah praise God.

Hallelujah everything is fine. It is time to stop it. It is time to get honest.

It is time to quit hiding. It is time to put the facade down and say. I don't care what anybody thinks about me.

I don't care about my reputation. I don't care about my paycheck. As hard as that might be to say that.

I don't care whether I get disqualified from ministry or not. I am going to talk to somebody. Some friends, a counselor, a pastor.

Some supervisor in ministry. And I am going to tell them my honest story. I am going to tell them the hurt of my heart.

I am going to tell them the brokenness. I am going to tell them my marriage is in a painful place. I am going to tell them my kids are struggling.

And it is hurting my heart. I am going to share these things with somebody. Because pastors.

And Christian leaders. Are some of the loneliest people I have ever met in my life. Isolated.

A lot of us just. We just say to ourselves. I will turn right.

I will just keep praising the Lord. Because it is just me and Jesus. We can work this thing out.

And we sing those songs. He is all I need. He is all I need.

Jesus is all I need. It is a great song. But the problem is it is not true.

You are looking at me like. Put that on your heresy hunter website. He himself said.

It is not good for you to be alone. And we are telling him. I don't need anybody.

I just need you. That is pride. Now we need Jesus first and foremost.

Above, far, beyond anything else. But he tells us. It is not good for us to be alone.

He tells us in the New Testament 52 times. About the one and others of scripture. Belong to one another.

Share with one another. Be generous to one another. Pray for one another.

52 times one another. We can't just keep saying. It is just me and you Jesus.

It has to be me and you Jesus. But it has to be him saying. Other people are needed in our life.

We need to connect with some people. And get real with them. Because we are living in a difficult season.

In the pastoral ministry. With many pastors failing. And I say you can nip it at the bud.

If you start sooner. Before the problem gets out of hand. You can start sooner.

The loneliness doesn't have to cripple you. The fear doesn't have to diminish your faith. And confidence.

You can go on with the things of Jesus Christ. You don't have to say it is just me and Jesus alone. You don't have to fear.

You don't have to feel like you have a reputation. You don't have to try to be alone. You need people in your life.

You need people in your life. Tom Woods also says. One of the other rabbis said.

I thought it was kind of interesting. I don't think it is biblical by any means. It is not truth with a capital T. But it is truth with a small t. And he said.

It takes 60 people. Each one of them encouraging you. If you are going left.

It takes 60 people. To get you to a place. Where you are filled with hope.

And I don't know. Like I said it is not biblical. But I think it is kind of an interesting side bar.

It says something to me about. Number one. I don't have to meet the fullness of everybody's need.

Does that make sense? I don't have to. It is not up to me to solve all of your problems. I am just one out of 60 people.

Right. And somebody else has to come along and encourage. And then somebody after that.

So you need a big group of people. And you need a small group of people. To be most honest with.

But we need people around us. And that helps heal us. Another illustration.

Is what is called the rat park. It is not a good sermon. Unless you talk about rats.

In a service. So here is my illustration about rats. Scientists took a rat.

And they put him in a cage. And they had two water bottles. And they put cocaine and heroin in one bottle.

And water in the other bottle. And the rat would sip one bottle. And then he would go over and sip the other bottle.

And once he got on to the cocaine and heroin bottle. You know what happened? He liked that better. He would not drink water anymore.

He would drink the cocaine, heroin, laced water. Until he was addicted. Until he overdosed.

Until the rat died from the heroin. This was a study done maybe 50 years ago. About 10 years ago.

Another group of scientists said. That experiment was skewed. Because the rat was just in this cage by himself.

Let's do something different. Let's put the rat in a cage. With 30 or 40 other rats.

And let's put some white wheels. That they can walk on. And all kinds of fun stuff.

And they did the exact same experiment. And they put the water bottle and the cocaine bottle in there. And you know what happened? They drank the water bottle.

They didn't drink from the cocaine, heroin, laced bottle. And the conclusion of that was. Is that community.

Can solve a lot of problems. That we can't solve on our own. When we are isolated.

We need something. To help soothe the pain of our life. But when you are in a community.

When you have people around you. When you have friends. Pastors please have friends.

Have people that you can talk to. Pour out your heart to people. Can I share something.

That is usually not shared in mixed company. But I had a friend. Two or three weeks ago.

He said Gary you are my close friend. And I asked my wife if we could have sex. And she said no.

And I masturbated. And I just need to tell you that. Because I don't want to do that again.

I am so sorry. And I prayed for him. And we just had a really good talk.

And he had freedom. It was like the confession. Remember James tells us.

Confess to one another. Do we practice that anymore? Do we practice that confession? So this idea of talking to one another. And sharing our hearts with one another.

Is something that. I believe God wants us to have. A couple of last things.

We have. A very contrasting. Second part.

Of the service. We have. We have.

We have. We have something good coming up here. In just a moment.

And Nicky is just like me. He just sits here and kind of quietly talks. But.

Yeah. One or two last things. The.

So. So if you are here. And you have.

And here is your friend. And they are like a mature Christian. They can be trusted.

They are not going to like. You are going to tell them. Hey something sexually immoral.

Happened in my life. And then next thing you know. It is on the internet.

That is not the person you want to tell this. But here are some struggles you have in your life. And here is somebody who has been through the fire already.

And they are a trusted friend. They are somebody that you love. And you know.

That you can trust them with your story. Without it being revealed. And you want to pour your story into them.

You want them to hear you. Like my friend. I heard him.

And I was not condemning. And I was not like. Oh you are such a terrible sinner.

You need to go public with that sin. I heard him. And I prayed with him.

And we shared truth. And it was like he was pouring out. Some of his troubles.

Not that I was the container of it. But that I heard him. And that he was released from some of that.

The problem is. You can't pour your pain into yourself. What happens if you do that? It just stays there.

And the greatest receptor of our pain. Is Jesus himself. Psalm 53.

It talks about he bore. The word bore there in Hebrew can mean contain. He contained our grief.

The word grief there has to do with anxiety. Stress, pain, trouble. And we can pour it into Jesus.

But Jesus says it is good for you to pour that into other people as well. Because they can. As you share this.

There can be a healing that can take place. This is what happened when the prodigal son. And I am going to ask the worship team to come back.

When the prodigal son was out there. He had a story. He said it is just a failure after failure.

I wanted to. My story was I wanted to be rich. And I wanted to be famous.

And I wanted to make an impact on the world. But failure after failure. What he thought was a failure.

Was actually God allowing certain things to take place in his life. To redirect him to something that was good. When he was coming home.

He doesn't want to pour things into his father's heart. So he is saying about himself. I am unworthy.

I shouldn't even be a servant in your household. I failed. I just constantly went downhill.

And I am not worthy. But as soon as he comes. The father sees him.

And he tells his father the story. Same thing that he was contemplating before he came home. And he repeats the same story.

I am not worthy to even be a servant in your house. But father please take me back. What is he doing? He is pouring his story into his father.

And what does his father do? He is a container for it. I receive it. And the response is so important there.

So switching gears real briefly here. From somebody who is walking in and going to the left. Now maybe somebody here today is going to the right.

How good a container are you? Are you a person that listens well? Are you a person that is maybe judgmental? Are you a person that maybe hasn't. Maybe your own container is so full of things. That you can't bear listening to other's stories.

For some of you. You might get shocked. Oh no I can't believe you did that.

And all of a sudden they are put into a place of shame. And so learning to be a container. Or learning when you are going right.

How to bless somebody when they are going left. Because I believe with all my heart. That is what church is meant to be about.

Blessing people. Loving people. Ministering to people.

Helping them. Just one by one by one. We have got a lot of big crowds.

In America today. But do we have a lot of care? We have a plethora of content. You can go online tonight.

And listen to a million sermons. If you have the time to do so. You can download almost any pastor's sermons today.

They have a website. Or YouTube with their sermons. There is a lot of content.

But there is not a lot of care. And all I said to you today. Is maybe could be summarized.

In this one thing. Let somebody care for you. Be willing to let somebody.

Minister to you. You are always giving away. You are always pouring out your life.

But let somebody pour into you. And then be a healthy vessel. Be a healthy vessel.

To allow people to share. To speak into your life. And don't make it just about the crowds.

Make it about the individual people in your life. Get to know them. Share with them.

Speak with them. Listen to their stories. Provide an environment that is safe.

And clean. And holy. And healthy.

So that when they tell their story. Somebody told me a story of a church. I was speaking out in the west coast.

A very large church. She told me the story. It was horrific.

I cannot believe that happened to you sweetheart. Sister my heart breaks for you. What did the pastors and leaders of this church say to you? She said.

I never could get an appointment. I have never told anybody. They are busy preaching sermons.

But we need people. There is a group of elders down in the front. That care for this congregation.

I know that. They care for me when I walk in the doors here. And that is the kind of healthy church.

That you are seeing here. This church is healthy. Not just because it has good preaching and good worship.

It is healthy because it loves people. It was founded by my father. He said this is the church that love built.

That was the original motto. And we want to encourage you. To allow your church to be like that.

Would you stand with me please. I want to pray for you in closing. We are going to sing a few songs.

Nikki is going to come. And Cheryl. I will take a moment to introduce them.

While your heads are bowed and your eyes are closed. How many of you say. I have been turning right.

To put on a good show and a facade. But really I need to be turning left. There is pain.

There is sorrow. There is hurt in my life. Tonight I want somebody to pray for me.

Raise your hand. Let me pray for you tonight. All over the place.

More than half of you here tonight. Jesus I pray while your hand is raised. I pray Jesus.

That point of pain. A place of sorrow. Lisa here tonight is sorrowing.

The loss of her husband. We pray over her. Some are praying for prodigal children.

Some are praying for a marriage that is difficult. Some are praying for a very stressful situation. In their ministry.

A lot of hurt. A lot of pain. Some are so lonely here they are ready to give up.

Some feel like they may never have a real true friend. In their life. Father I just pray that all those things.

That seem downward trajectory. Are just rebooting us. Retooling us.

To bring us to the highest good. That you have had for us. The highest good Lord.

I just pray over these people. That they find that the delight of ministry. The joyful delight of ministry.

Is not how well we preach. Or how big a crowd we preach to. How big our building is.

Or how big our budget is. The joy of ministry is really knowing you very well Jesus. It is loving you deeply.

And being loved by you. And then out of that pouring out that love. Being a vessel.

To pour out love to everyone we meet. Whether they are a member of our church. Or somebody we meet on the street.

So I pray over these pastors and leaders right now Jesus. In my simple way. I have just tried to communicate tonight.

That you love them. And you want to have them open up their hearts. To tell their story.

In a way that could be very healing to them. That they could be healed of that broken heart. That they could be healed of that hurt.

And so right now while your hand is raised. In the name of Jesus. I pray healing over you.

I pray healing tonight. I pray healing of this next week. That this conference would be the launch of a journey.

For them to move into a greater realm of love. And joy and peace. And righteousness in the Holy Spirit.

We thank you for this. In Jesus precious name. Praise the Lord.

Thank you guys.

Sermon Outline

  1. I. Everyone Has a Story
    • Our heart's desires often differ from reality
    • Failures and trials are common in life
    • Many project earthly desires onto God
  2. II. The Lower Story vs. The Higher Story
    • Lower story focuses on personal success and recognition
    • Failures are actually divine redirections
    • God calls us to a higher story of love and community
  3. III. The Power of Honest Storytelling
    • Everyone has a hidden story they fear to tell
    • Sharing brings freedom and healing
    • Christian community often hides pain behind facades
  4. IV. Ancient Temple Ritual and Modern Application
    • Temple ritual invited honest sharing of well-being
    • Encouragement and presence from others bring hope
    • We need to create safe spaces for vulnerability

Key Quotes

“Everyone has a story, and the story that you most don't want to tell is the story you most need to tell.” — Gary Wilkerson
“What I thought was failure was actually the Holy Spirit redirecting my life.” — Gary Wilkerson
“The higher story is to be loved by God, to love God, and to love people around us with a pure heart.” — Gary Wilkerson

Application Points

  • Be honest with yourself and trusted others about your struggles and hidden stories.
  • View failures and setbacks as opportunities for God’s redirection rather than defeat.
  • Seek to love others deeply and build authentic community as part of your spiritual journey.

Frequently Asked Questions

What does Gary Wilkerson mean by 'lower story' and 'higher story'?
The 'lower story' is our selfish ambition and earthly desires, while the 'higher story' is God's purpose for us to love deeply and live in community.
Why is it important to tell our hidden stories?
Telling our hidden stories brings relief, freedom, and healing by breaking the chains of shame and isolation.
How can failures be seen as redirections?
Failures are not the end but ways God redirects us toward a better, richer purpose beyond our original plans.
What role does community play in healing according to the sermon?
Community provides encouragement, support, and a safe place to be honest, which is essential for spiritual and emotional healing.
How does the ancient temple ritual relate to our lives today?
It illustrates the importance of honestly sharing our well-being and grief, and receiving encouragement from others as part of spiritual health.

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