Engaging The Hand That Makes Marriage Effective

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Many, many times we can challenge one another, we can speak into one another, we can encourage one another and say, husband, you need to do this. Wives, you need to do this. Forgetting that many people are misbehaving not because they want to do so.

Forgetting that a man can do nothing except what God will do in his life. And so this morning I will be looking at that hand that makes matrimony effective. And I'm trusting God that after this retreat, each couple that are present in this meeting, you will learn to engage that hand for each other.

We thank God that we have spoken about the couple's altar this morning. When we pray for one another and pray with each other. We thank God that we have prayed for our children this morning.

But there is one matter that we want to look at this morning. Engaging the hand that makes matrimony effective. And when you learn it, you will see great results in your relationship.

It might look casual, but when I came to discover that though me and my wife were so close, we slept side by side, when I realized that there is He who is closer to her than myself. There is He who is closer to me than herself. Whose hand cannot but prevail over any situation around me or around her.

I found that if I would learn to engage that hand, it will allow that hand to work. You will see effortlessly the cry and the desire of your heart coming to pass on your spouse. So this morning, I don't want to presume that you just know about it.

I want to spend a bit of time because God is helping showing me that unless the Lord builds the house, those who build it, what do they do? They live in vain. And unless the Lord watches over the city, the watchmen, they wake up but in vain. Psalm 127.

Are you there? Except the Lord builds the house, they live in vain, they build it. Except the Lord keeps the city, the watchman wakes but in vain. It is vain for you to rise up early, to sit up late, to eat the bread of sorrows, for so He giveth His beloved sleep.

No, children are an heritage of the Lord, and the fruit of the womb is His reward. As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man, so are children of the youth. Happy is the man that has his quiver full of them.

They shall not be ashamed, for they shall speak with the enemies in the gate. Unless the Lord engages the hand that makes marriage effective. You know we read a passage the first night.

It says house and riches, they are the inheritance of fathers. But a prudent wife, where do you get it? It's from the Lord. A faithful husband, the Bible also says who can find.

So many men will speak big and bogus about themselves. But a faithful husband who can find is only from the Lord. So this morning, I want to persuade you and plead with you.

That for your matrimony to accomplish its divine purpose, there is that hand. The hand of the Lord that makes a marriage effective. I don't want just to mention it in passing, I want to study with you.

That it is the Lord that has to make your wife and make your husband what he ought to be to you. And what she ought to be for you. I want to ask you that take off from all that we began to deal with since yesterday night.

And the issues of prayer that God has raised already this morning. I want to pray that this will not be a cosmetic understanding. You will understand that word unless the Lord.

Unless the Lord builds a house. The builders of it, what are they doing? They are only laboring in vain. And unless the Lord watches over a city, the watchman.

They wake up, they may have vigils, but in vain. How does God intend for us to operate a godly marriage? In such a way that it will produce the maximum profit that God is looking for. Is it by power? Is it by struggling? Is it by bargain? Is it by negotiation? How are you going to maximize this relationship that God himself began to speak about concerning you? That would be the body of our discussion this morning.

We are going very progressively, but I am trusting that the Holy Spirit himself. Will not only make this a mere knowledge. It will become a compelling conviction in your heart.

It will make you to cry to God for your husband. It will make you to cry to God and wait for God for your wife. It will make you to actually cast the care.

The care of your wife, the care for your husband. You will cast upon him who is able to do it well. Some people may think that this thing that he is talking about now, it will make my husband irresponsible.

No. The truth of the matter is that only God can make your husband responsible. Only God can do something in that man's life.

And he will become the man of your dream. Even higher than your dream. And only God knows how to walk on the heart of a woman.

And she will become all she was meant to be for your life. And for your future and for the things that you are supposed to accomplish together. Only the Lord.

So, follow me back to our passage that we have been studying. Genesis chapter 2, verse 18 is the passage we want to start with. And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone.

I, I will make him and help me for him. Verse 21, And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam and he slept. And he, the Lord God, took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh inside thereof.

And the rib which the Lord God had taken from man made he, the Lord God, a woman. And the Lord God did what? Brought her unto the man. Permit me to ask you not to take that lightly.

Every wife that God allows you to have is a favor from the Lord. The Bible says, It is the Lord himself that said it is not good for him to be alone. And I want you to note that when the Lord God said it is not good for him, for the man to be alone.

The Lord did not tell the man. And say, you see that you are not good enough. Go and look for what? Help for yourself.

Go and make a help for yourself. Even though some people want to twist the scripture. They want to say, no, no, no, no, no.

God did it only once. And since man has blamed God for it. God has told though, everybody must find his own wife by himself.

And so I hear people that are very, very light hearted about marriage. They may even ask you to stand up in the congregation and say, brothers, open your eyes. Look for the one you like.

Woo her. Whatever you can use to woo her, collect her for yourself. They made it look as if marriage is a joke.

Some say, look, there's nothing about this will of God, will of God, will of God. It's love and agreement. If you love him and you agree with him, you marry him.

They take for granted that marriage is not what you see now. Marriage is a future that you have never known. And it will take him who knows the end from the beginning to guide you.

And to pick the one that is meant for your life. And I've had other preachers who said, all this praying, praying, praying, praying. No, settle down.

If you want to marry, marry. You need money to marry your wife. If you say you're a husband and you are not able to buy chicken and get turkey in the house, what kind of man are you? Others are telling wives and say, women, if you don't want your husband to catch another woman, dress well for him.

Smell well for him. Make sure you know how to roast coconut for him. Before he arrives, put flour on the bed.

Make him your king. Dress up naked so that he can see cinema. You see, all of this that men have thought will produce a strong relationship.

Not knowing that unless the Lord builds the house, all such labor are futile. Unless the Lord watches over the city. And I can see how so many wives, because they don't know the Lord who keeps.

They are busy with hunting their husband. Where did he go? Please help me watch him. Who sat in front of his car? The other time that he was talking to that sister, where was his eyes? Who served him water? Maybe they put something there.

When you enter into that kind of thing, you will soon die. The reason is because, look at your husband lying down by your side here. Do you know his heart? Talk to me.

Do you know when a man's heart has traveled 1000 kilometers away? You are not talking to me. See, when you are discussing with him, and he is nodding his head. Do you know where his heart has gone? Unless the Lord... So this morning, as we look at God's word again.

I want to bring you before him, who can make your marriage effective. And honestly speaking, silver and gold I actually don't have. But such as I have.

Such as we have discovered. Such that has worked for me. Such that has helped my own life.

Such is what we offer you this morning. It may look primitive. It may not look high sandy.

It may appear too simple. But I am telling you, it has worked. It is ageless.

It never fades. It will always work. May the Lord help you to settle down with it.

In the name of Jesus Christ. So can we go quickly and look at it very deeply. Number one.

The Lord has taken responsibility. I want you to know that. God has done what? Has taken responsibility to make for you a help meet for your life.

The Lord is much more than willing. He said, I will make a help meet for him. I want you to know that.

If you ever, ever went and knelt down. And said, God, what are you willing to do? God said, I am willing to make her a help meet for your life. If you will permit me to do so.

I want you to know that there is no wife. There is no husband sitting in this meeting. That is beyond that hand.

I want you to know that there is no brother. No matter how rigid it appears. That that hand is unable to make.

I want you to know that. If you will allow that hand to produce what he says he will make. You will come back in another time to give us testimonies.

I said, sir, since I allowed the mighty hand of God to make my marriage. I have seen a difference. That is the first thing I wanted to know.

How God has taken what? Responsibility. It suits my heart to share with you. That much more than your willingness.

Much more than your personal concern. God is much, much more eager. Much more willing to make your marriage to work.

I want you to know that when you carry the issues of your matrimony. To the throne of grace. Are you hearing me? You are not going to meet a reluctant God.

You are not going to meet a reluctant father and say, what are you troubling me about? Get away. No. If you stop quarreling.

If you stop fighting. If you stop arguing and you knew how to go to him and say, Lord, make him for me. Make her for me.

You will discover that there is a God who is more than willing. He is not reluctant. He is just waiting.

Allow me to do it for you. I will make. Number two.

Not only that God has taken responsibility. God has engaged his capacity to do it. He has done what? Engaged his capacity to do it.

Everything that we make your marriage. To work out. And to produce great results.

And to become a satisfactory. A satisfactory relationship. God has engaged his capacity to bring it to pass.

I have very great hope. For each one of you. Because I just know.

He has begun a good work in you. He has capacity to do what? To finish it. And finish it gloriously.

One of the things that rejoices my heart. Is that because sometimes God gives me opportunity to be part of the starting point of some of your marriages. And we pray.

And we introduce some of you to this principle. We spoke about this principle of letting the hand do it. Even if you have a strong hand to work.

Allow that hand to be the one. And when some of God's children have agreed to allow. I have seen it.

I have seen this progressiveness that God has brought in our midst. And it gladdens my heart that I have seen God work. And this morning again.

I don't want it to be trivial to you. I want it to be a very strong issue in your relationship. That above all else.

There is the hand that makes the matrimony to work out. And we must engage it. What is the third point? That I wanted to note.

Before I go from this passage. Not only that God has taken responsibility. When you say I will make for him.

Not only that God is willing to do it. I say God has engaged his capacity. I will make.

God who is the creator of heaven and earth. He says I will make. You know the word make means? Even if it is not there.

I will make it. Even if it looks out of point. I will make it.

But what is the third point? I will make a hermit. That God does not make trial and error. That God is not just saying probability.

He will make what is fit. What will meet up your needs. What will be suitable.

What will be complimentary. What will be adaptable. I will make.

If it was others. They may try to make something but it is oversized. Some may try to make something but it is undersized.

Some may try to make something but it is out of joints. Not only has he engaged his capacity. God is going to make.

What he says concerning you. With utmost precision. It will be precisely fitting.

It will be correctly adequate. It will be that which will not only fit but it will keep fitting. Not the one that will fit for a while and after some time it will lose.

God is making that which will continuously fit and meet your life. But only God can do it. Permit me to tell you.

That while I do not hate you. Listen. Making wonderful promises to your spouse.

And I hear you say yes. My wife. I will make you happy.

Do not worry as we are struggling now. When God bless me. I will build a house for you.

I know some of you have said that thing. And your husband. I mean your wife.

Ignorantly say thank you. I am expecting it. Sister.

Woe unto him. Who put his confidence in man. And who put his trust in the arms of flesh.

Even if that man be your husband. If you only put your trust in a man. You are going to be disappointed seven times.

But if you are going to learn to put your confidence in him. Who can make him. You are getting into a place of rest.

Where your husband can never be a disappointment to you anymore. Where your wife is never going to be a disappointment to you anymore. Because you are looking beyond her capacity.

And I am not saying this. As if to disdain one another. That when your husband has said.

I will do this for you. I will take care of you. I will not leave you.

I will not look at another woman. For you to answer with that cynical voice. And say.

I no trust you. I only trust the Lord. I am not asking you to do that.

That will be an affront that is not necessary. I will say thank God. What you have said.

You will only be able to do it if God helps you. Isn't it? You must keep reminding him. That thank you for your promise.

But who can do a thing. Unless the Lord has helped him. Let's just pray that God will help you.

There are people that promise that they will never look at another woman. But when the hour of temptation came. There was no strength to resist.

If the Lord does not watch over the city. And I have seen so many that were looking very zealous. Very committed.

Very agile. But in their strength. They have collapsed like a pack of cards.

Unless the Lord. So I hear God say. I will.

I thought that this morning. We should engage that hand. For each other.

I thought that this morning. We should begin to learn. How to depend on the Lord.

For one another. How to stop blaming the other. When you could have asked God.

To help us. How to look beyond. What he is today.

Unto him. Who is able to make him. I will make for him.

A help. Meet. For his life.

Because of God. Who said I will make. As short as I intend.

That God will help me to bring this to bear upon your heart. I want to pray that. For every husband.

That will become your primary focus. Lord. All I am expecting this woman to become.

Make her for me. Lord. All that I am expecting this man to be.

Father. He cannot be. By himself.

In himself. Unless you will make him. And instead of blaming him.

I would rather hold on to your God. Who can make him for me. Every marriage that has worked.

This is the secret of it. Every marriage that has become strong. This is where it came from.

Every matrimony that has produced the kind of result that God is looking for. This is where they got the source. And if your marriage.

Is going to be evergreen. Ever fresh. Never you neglect that place.

Never you give up on that place. Never you think lightly. About it.

So go with me. To verse 21. And the Lord God.

Are you seeing the Lord God? Did you see that from the beginning that I have been reading today. You have been seeing the Lord God. Have you been seeing the Lord God? And the Lord God.

Caused. A deep sleep to fall upon Adam. And he slept.

While I was passing through this passage. There are many issues that I wanted to highlight. And there are still several issues that we will be highlighting as we go on.

But for this morning. I wanted to again note. Who caused a deep sleep.

To fall upon Adam. Let me ask you. Did God just say Adam.

I want to do something for you now. Go and sleep. Go and sleep so that I can work on you.

Is that what God did? What did God do? God caused him. Caused a deep sleep to fall upon him. You see brothers and sisters.

The surrender. The. The submission of a man's life.

For God to be able to produce something out of him. I want to tell you. It is again God.

That causes it. If to say we have opportunity. To take testimonies.

Some wives. Will have been able to stand up and say. This thing that brother Billy is pointing at now.

That was what rescued my marriage. It was the Lord God. That caused a deep sleep.

Now what was the meaning of that deep sleep? I was saying yesterday that the deep sleep has to do with. A release. Of a life.

That will make God. To have access to do whatever he needs to do. To make him ready.

For what God wants to do in his life. And the Lord God. Caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam.

Many times I see myself telling people. Brother relax. Relax.

And they would just tell me I say. How can I relax? How can I relax? I need to do something. I need to talk.

If I don't talk now. That's how she would take me for granted. I must talk.

I said go and sleep. He said I cannot sleep. Brother be patient.

Be patient. He said for how long? Permit us to pray. God will intervene.

He said how long? This woman cannot change. His prayer will help her. It will have helped her since five years ago.

She needs physical ministration now. And then you see. Him bringing out his fists.

To say yes I pray for you. But you are not ready to understand. I will show you the other side.

Even for a man to sleep. So that God can walk. It takes the Lord God.

Some of the things that you are expecting your wife to do. She has no capacity on her own. Until the Lord will walk.

But now I want you to see. Something much more now about. How that hand works.

I was surprised. But it was very okay for me. That for God.

When he said I will make a help meet for him. I realized that the first person to walk upon. Was the man.

The brokenness. That will bring a blessedness to your marriage. Does not start with your wife.

Where does it begin? I am not hearing you. It's with you. The man.

The wounded. The empty. That will bring fullness.

Into your marriage. And into your wife. Does not first begin with the woman.

The man. It begins with God. Upon your life.

And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall on this man. And the Lord began to perform a surgery. The Lord took something out of him.

The Lord created a need in his life. The Lord created a space. That he does not have.

Whatever to do to fill it up again. Until the Lord will bring the woman. Brother will you allow the Lord to walk? Will you allow the Lord to have his way? Will you give God space? To do what he desires to do with your life.

In this day. Brother will you come to the altar and say Lord. If you don't do it.

No one else can do it. I think it was our brother yesterday. That was leading us a song.

Only God can do. I think so. Brother please read that song again.

What no man can do Jehovah. Only you can do what no man can do Jehovah. Can you sing with one voice? What no man can do, Jehovah.

Only you can do. What no man can do, Jehovah. Only you can do.

Yes, what no man can do, Jehovah. I pray that that song will be meaningful to you. I pray to not just be melodious, that it will be a conviction.

I pray that you will understand that what you are longing for God to produce in your marriage, only God can do it. I pray that each one of us will come to understand and accept with all our heart that only God can do what you cannot do. And instead of struggling to do what you cannot do, why don't you allow him who is able to do, to do it.

I will be asking you this morning. To in a one accord, release your husband to him who is able to make it. And in genuineness, release your wife.

Go and sleep. Sleep over the case. Sleep over the matter.

Hear you who watches over Israel, neither sleeps nor slumbers. It is vain for you to wake up early in the morning and to sleep late, eating the bread of sorrow. Complaints, criticisms, you didn't do this.

You should have known this. How many years am I going to talk to you about this? All of that, that they call nagging. It's like you are trying to do only what God can do.

All the show of disappointment that you have shown. All the feeling of disapproval that you have shown. All the time you complained.

You didn't pray, you only complained. You didn't talk to him who is able to make things different. You are only talking to a man who cannot do anything for himself.

Why we will be talking about discussing and planning together eventually in the course of our meeting, becoming one flesh. I want you to know that the hand that makes a man, that makes a woman is the hand of the Lord. If you will begin to cast every care of your heart onto the Lord, you will suddenly see a greater result.

And a more spiritual man, a more loving and caring husband. You will see a more submissive, a more caring and loving and dutiful wife. And you will be wondering, how did you come about that? She will say, the Lord made me to do it.

It was not an easy lesson when I began our own courtship. And one day I wanted to write, you know those days there is no text, there is no phone, nothing. If I write a letter, three months before it will get to Ibadan where she is.

And one day I wanted to write. And the Lord said, did you want her to hear your voice? Or you want her to be hearing my voice? And I stood there and I said, God, my voice has no power to make her do anything. Even when I said do it, she may say, because I want to respect you, I will do it.

But there is no strength. But if it is your voice she is hearing, she will be submitting to me as unto the Lord. Submission is easy for a woman when she is hearing as if it is the Lord.

If it is the Lord that is at work in this man's life, he will be loving you as if it is Christ. Because Christ will be saying, do this to her for me. I said, God, I am going to make that experiment and see whether it works.

So I stopped what I wanted to write, I knelt down. I said, Lord, I want Sister Shade by Tuesday to go to Suso and So fellowship and talk to Suso and So person in the name of Jesus. And I said, the Lord said, now that you have told me, I will tell her.

When we had the opportunity to meet, I said, what happened on Suso and So? He said, as I was praying, that Tuesday morning, the Lord laid the burden on my heart that I must go to Agbowo that afternoon, I must carry this, I must give this to this sister. I laughed. I said, so God told you.

You know, I told God to tell you. He said, hey, I want to inform you that as I pray that you can catch it. I pray, I plead with God that you will not miss that, that hand.

I got up one time, I wanted to go for a meeting. And my wife told me, said, are you going for that meeting? I said, I have to go because I'm a man of my word. I promised them that I will be there and I will be there.

She said, you mean you are going to leave us and go? You know what I said? I said, must I disobey the Lord? They have asked me to come and preach. Will I be sitting here looking at your face? When souls are perishing? And my wife, as if she remembered, as if God was saying, who told you to tell him? Did you tell me first? So she said, it's okay. And she stood up to pack my bag for me.

Wives, I pray you will understand what I'm talking about. She packed my bag. She arranged the journey.

And she said, may the Lord go with you. See you soon. And I started my journey.

And I was riding on my B2. I remember I was traveling with one of our young brothers at that time. A disciple had been with me.

When we were about to get to Benue Bond Bricks. I don't know if you know where Benue Bond Bricks is. On the way to Otupo.

When we were just about to enter Otupo. I heard a very loud voice inside of me. He said, where are you going? I said, I'm going to so and so.

And you are going? Turn your car. And go back home. They are asking me to bring you back home.

What can I do? Energetic man, what can I do? Concert. I said, that's when we are going back. I said, are we not going again? I said, we are not going again.

By the time I drove back. And I knocked. And she opened.

She said, are you back? It was wonderful. So she said, aren't you going again? I said, but you told God to bring me back. She said, thank you Jesus.

Thank you Jesus. Thank you for answering prayer. I said, this is how it works.

Stubborn energetic husband. There is a remote control. If you know how to operate it.

If you know how to engage that hand. You get faster results. Than you thought you will ever get.

Because you don't know how to engage that hand. I see so many, many difficulties. What you could have told God.

You know that song we used to sing. What a friend we have in Jesus. All our sins and griefs to bear.

What a load to carry. How many things? Oh, for fear. Oh, what needless pain we bear.

All because we do not carry. How many things? Including your husband. When God began to say, I am the one who makes.

Give me space to do it. At first I thought it was going to be occasional. But I have found that in all these 34 years.

When I say 34, it is now 38. Because we courted for 4 solid years. And God was training me and teaching.

Tell me to tell her. Tell me to tell him. What I tell him for you is more authentic.

Engaging the hand. That can make your marriage how? Effective. I will make.

How many times I am on the road. And they will have told him up there. Please tell him to buy something on his way back.

We need bushmeat. Maybe now you may not have such a need. Because you have telephone.

Maybe telephone is better than God. As far as you are concerned. Why should I talk to God when I can telephone him? Maybe.

Maybe. I do not want telephone to replace that blessing. That I knew.

Sometimes we will have driven. And the spirit will say, reverse, reverse. There is something you need to pick for your wife now.

When we will get there. No matter what they say. I say, but I have to carry it.

By the time I am getting back. Sometimes they will quickly go to the booth. To see whether their prayer had been answered.

What a joy. To have that hand. Not that it will work at the beginning of your marriage.

It is a hand that works until death do us part. It is a hand. It is the very present help.

It never travels. It wants to be the third fold cord. In your matrimony.

It wants to stand there. It says, I am a witness between you and your wife. Every discussion in your bedroom.

It is there. Waiting for you to tell him. Maybe some of you do not understand.

That even when you want to taboo a matter. It will have been better to taboo it there first. And by the time you are opening it.

Your husband says, actually as I was just praying. The Lord told me that this is what we should do. What you thought would take about one hour.

Of again checking left and right. You hear your husband saying. Actually as I was coming back.

The Lord just dropped it in my heart. That that is what we should do. Sometimes I want my wife.

To administer certain things on our behalf. And I say, Father. Please tell Sister Shade that this should be done.

And I am coming back. And she said that. I am sorry.

I could not wait. But the Spirit just taught me. That I should do this.

We should do this. We should do this. We should do this.

I said, praise the Lord. That is what I have been praying that God will guide you to do on our behalf. The communion that will make your marriage strong.

Must be intertwined with him. For your relationship horizontally. To have strength and balance.

It is him. I will make for him. I will make for him.

Look at the Bible. And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam and his slaves. And he, the Lord God, took one of his ribs.

And closed up the flesh. Instead thereof, the Lord at work. And look at the Bible.

And the rib which the Lord God had taken from man. Made he. Who makes the woman now? Talk to me please.

Who makes the woman? The Lord. Brothers. Can you wait for God? To make her? Can you hold God's hand and say, Lord.

You said you will make her. Make her for me Lord. And Baba said, go and sleep.

Don't put your mouth in this matter. And don't put your hand in it. I'm working.

When I finish, I will bring her to you. Do you know that it is not just the initial bringing her. To him.

That I'm talking about now. God brings our wives to us. Every stage.

He will bring your wife onto your understanding. There is something bubbling in your heart. Bubbling in your heart.

Wait for God to bring her to that. When God has walked. You suddenly discover that.

God had revealed to her. Had shown her. Has taught her.

Has prepared her. And has equipped her. For that aspect of what you are supposed to do.

I am praying that. The hand. That makes matrimony effective.

You will not ignore it. You will engage that hand. Deliberately.

It is not as costly. As everything else you have been doing. It doesn't cost you one naira.

It only costs you. Prayer. It is not as.

As sophisticated. As what many of you are struggling with. Sometimes.

In order to make it clear. I wish to draw a diagram. But I don't have blackboard here.

I will have shown you again and again. That the fastest. Communication.

Is communication. Rooted through him. The reason is because.

He doesn't speak from outside. He speaks from inside. Your own voice can only land from outside.

But him. Are you hearing me? He communicates from where? Inside. What you will be hearing will become a conviction.

It will become a directive. It will become an instruction. By the spirit.

And because she loves God. She will simply obey it. And because your husband fears God.

When he hears God. He will do it. Brothers and sisters.

And the Lord brought her. To the man. I wish.

To emphasize that. It takes God. To bring a wife.

Into your own. Into your place. Into your vision.

Into your understanding. My brother. Man power.

Doesn't do it. I would have told your wife to help me tell you. But it would look like an insult.

I'm the only one who can tell you. Your man power. Cannot do it.

Bro. Your monetary power. Cannot do it.

Your power of threats. Cannot do it. Sometimes you change your voice.

Because you want her to know now. That you are very serious. And then you straighten your neck.

And you become a rude. And your wife said. It don't happen to my husband now.

And you would have thought that. That would cover her in. And make her to.

Suddenly you see another strength inside. Man power cause woman power. I'm telling you.

Deep calls unto the deep. Spirit appeals to spirit. Human nature only evokes human nature.

Flesh. We only call out. Mrs. Flesh.

Can you please. Learn to go to heaven. Maybe the biggest thing I want to say to you.

This morning. Before I will now ask you to go and pray about it. Is to say.

The hand. That started your marriage. Has not gone away.

It is still here. It's here to help. It's here to build.

It's here to watch. Me. I will tell you that.

I will not have been what I am. Except that I know. There is.

There is a council meeting. That did attend regularly over my head. When they said to the kids there.

What can I do? I can only comply. With what is arriving on my own life. I have known it.

And I pray you have a woman that can pray. Sister. Can I lend you a wisdom? I will not.

When my wife comes in the afternoon. She will be telling you. She will tell you.

Her secrets. Maybe you should not hear that one. Maybe it's a secret that you don't need to know now.

I want to tell you. It will be a great blessing. It will be a great blessing sister.

If you know the road. To the throne of grace. You will achieve greater results.

If God. Will help you to engage. The hand.

That makes marriage effective. Unless. The Lord builds the house.

Unless. The Lord watches over the city. I can hear sister.

Sometimes they cry to me. They say. Talk to my husband.

Talk to my husband. I know if you talk to him. He will hear you.

And sometimes I smile. I say. Have you talked to the Lord about him? So I say.

Must I have to talk to God about everything? Can he not talk? Can I not tell him what he should do? What did the Bible say? The anxious about nothing. Do what? Pray about how many things? Everything. There is nothing too small.

To engage that hand for. There is nothing too big. That that hand will be embarrassed about.

There is no depth. Into which a man sinks. That that hand will not reach.

To bring him out. There is no extent. To which he has deviated.

That when we send our hand. The hand will just pick him. Shake him.

And brought him back. May the Lord. Introduce you to that hand.

One of the biggest thing I felt. I must share with you. There are other things.

But everything else. I will be sharing after this meeting. Only hinges on this.

Everything else. Only works. When you have known this.

If I were to say it in simple language. I say. Only one thing.

Is needful. For your marriage to succeed. And this is that one thing.

Unless the Lord. We have prayed for children now. Have we prayed for our children? Eh? Do you know? What some of you don't understand is that.

Some of you thought because. You are a preacher. And that you have been doing money devotion.

And that you have been teaching your children. And you have been explaining to them. That they will turn out right.

You are joking. Unless the Lord. They will embarrass you.

Unless the Lord. Your confidence. In your bible study.

Your confidence. In your capacity of discipline. Your confidence.

Don't go there. Don't go there. Stay here.

Your confidence. In everything else. Apart from going to that hand.

Is a problem to me. If you ask me. What is the only way out? I will tell you only one thing.

Is needful. I wish you will know how to do it early in life. I wish it is not when.

You have been terribly wounded. That you will come back crying. Even then.

God will still help. I wish I can share that with. The one that just married.

Age zero. When the man is still looking nice. When his mouth is doing.

You do you do around you. I wish you will quickly know. That all of that.

Was on dry. If you don't get up there. I wish even when your wife is saying.

I will never misbehave to you. I love you. I'm ready to die.

Anywhere you go. And I'm for you. I'm for you.

Thank God. I'm for you. It's okay.

I wish. When she has finished saying all of that. You will say.

I know where it will happen. I know who can make it happen. Let us talk to God about it.

I wish. The Holy Spirit. We set to this in your heart.

Permanently. If what I've said to you this morning. If it makes sense to you.

Can I see you stand up? As we pray together. Now. Would you like to pray? Would you like to say Lord? All I used to know how to do.

Will not be convenient. Will not be sufficient. Unless you help me.

Unless you build this house for me. Unless you build this woman for me. My labor may not result anywhere.

Lord. I am coming to you who is able to help. Who is able to do what no man can do.

Make this home for me. Would you like to pray that prayer? Would you like just to pray it? And if you have engaged any other strength. If you have engaged any other hand.

If you have had many set of theories. That you thought will work. And you have tried and it has not worked.

With you in simplicity of heart. Say Lord. The hand that can make this matter.

I have come. I have come to lay my heart on you. I have come.

Knowing that apart from you. I can do nothing. Thank you Lord.

Thank you. Holy Spirit. Holy Spirit.

You began to say to me that it might look like ordinary water. But that you will turn it to wine. It might look like ordinary things that everybody seem to know.

It might look like what is that? But you said. I should draw that water. And serve it to these governors of the feast.

That it will become wine. Lord turn this to wine in our lives. Lord I ask that you give increase to this little instruction this afternoon.

Our poor father that the strength of your people's marriages. Will never be in themselves. It will be in you who said I will make it.

Lord I ask. Where we have left you behind. And we are trying our own strength our own gimmicks.

Please deliver us and bring us back. In the name of Jesus Christ. Holy Spirit.

Turn this ordinary water to wine. How I ask Lord that this will become a living principle. In several homes in several families from now.

How I ask oh God. That all the basis of contest and argument will finish. When we know how to pray.

When we know how to call upon God for one another. Lord come and do it. Thank you.

In Jesus Christ name we are praying. Amen.