1 Corinthians 7

1 Corinthians 7:1-6

With respect to your question proposed to me in your letter, The unmarried state, in such times of persecution and uncertainty, is preferable to the married. But it is far better to marry than to expose one’s self, or any other, to temptations to uncleanness: and married persons ought to take all proper opportunities of testifying their relation and affection to each 12 N other. And, that Satan may have no occasion to tempt them to unchastity, let even their withdrawing from one another, for the purpose of solemn fasting and prayer, be with mutual consent, and for short times. But this I, as an inspired apostle, advise to, as most agreeable to your holy profession in your different circumstances, not as an express command of Christ

1 Corinthians 7:7-9

For I could wish that every unmarried Christian could live as contented in a single life as I do; but every man must act according to his own temper, disposition, and situation, and the gifts and abilities with which God hath furnished him for the ends of his glory. If such as are unmarried can continue such, without danger of uncleanness, they will, in these troublesome times, find many advantages for the service of God. But, if by the grace which they have received they cannot duly restrain their animal inclinations, it is better for them to marry some proper object; it being far more wise, dutiful, and comfortable, to do so than to live under the tormenting or inflaming power of impure desires of unlawful enjoyments. 10, 11. And for directing such as are married there is no need of further inspirations; the Lord Jesus having expressly commanded that wives should never voluntarily depart from their husbands, nor husbands put away their wives, except for the cause of fornication before, or adultery after, marriage; or, if they voluntarily part, both parties should live single, or rather study to be reconciled one to another

1 Corinthians 7:12-14

And, as inspired by God, I charge you that no Christians think of parting from those husbands or wives, with whom they were married before their conversion, on account of their continuing heathens, as the Jews were commanded to do in the times of Nehemiah, but dwell with them in the most friendly, peaceable, and engaging, manner; for even heathens are separated to an holy use, by having Christian wives or husbands; and hence the children begotten between them are held by God, not as unclean heathens, but as externally, relatively, and federally, holy; entitled to all the privileges of the new covenant equally as if both parents had been Christians. 15, 16. But, if their heathen yoke-fellows, notwithstanding all prudent means to prevent it, will obstinately desert them, Christians are not obliged to enslave their consciences to their humours, or to continue in marriage relation to such as obstinately break the bond and defeat the ends of that relation. Meanwhile, they ought to do every thing consistent with truth and holiness, in order to engage these heathen consorts to live with them;—for none knows but by their meek and kind behaviour, through the blessing of Christ and working of his Spirit, they may be rendered instrumental in gaining them to Christ for the salvation of their souls

1 Corinthians 7:17-19

And, whatever the event be, let every one of you, and of other churches, study to walk in a course of holiness and virtue answerable to the condition or relation in which he stood when converted. Never trouble yourselves whether ye were originally Jews or Gentiles; for it is of no account with God whether ye be circumcised or not; but whether, according to his commandments, you receive the Lord Jesus, and walk in him righteously and godly

1 Corinthians 7:20-22

And, as redeeming grace was never intended to alter the stations or duties of secular life, but to enforce the improvement of them in the manner most conducive to the glory of God, study to rest contented with those very stations in which you were before your conversion: and, if you were converted in the station of a servant or slave, be not uneasy, as if that servile condition would render you less acceptable to God or honourable to your Christian faith or fellowship; yet, if you can have your freedom by fair means, thankfully accept and faithfully improve it; for a converted slave is as much freed from the bondage of sin, Satan, and the broken law, as any other; and a converted freed man is under as deep obligations to serve Christ as if he had been a servant or slave to men. 23, 24. Since therefore your spiritual and religious freedom, purchased by Jesus’ infinitely precious blood, is perfectly equal, resolutely maintain this, and never serve the lusts or sinful commandments of men, nor suffer the duties of your civil relations to hinder your service of him; and in whatever station you were converted to the Christian faith, rest contented with it, as ordered for you by the providence of God; and study to fulfil the duties of it as under his eye, in obedience to him, by assistance from him, and in fellowship with him

1 Corinthians 7:25-28

With respect to persons who were never married, the Lord Jesus, indeed, left us no express command on this point: but I, as his faithful apostle, directed by his inspiring Spirit, advise, that if they can remain unmarried, without endangering their chastity, they should do so, for their greater conveniency in these perilous times. But let such as are married study, with cordial affection and contentment, to bear the incumbrances which attend their state; and let such as are unmarried beware of marrying rashly, lest they involve their wives and children in trouble along with themselves. Nevertheless, if any find marriage a necessary mean of preserving their chastity, they may lawfully enter into it; only it will in these evil times expose them more to anxiety and trouble. But I shall add no more, lest I should discourage some who are married, or hinder some from marriage, whose natural inclinations call to it, or make any to think the unmarried state more holy in itself

1 Corinthians 7:29-31

But what I now subjoin is of infinite importance, that, in a very little time, all earthly stations, relations, sorrows, and comforts, will leave us, and we shall be launched forth into an eternal state; it is therefore proper that our hearts should sit loose to them, as quite unsubstantial and transitory, and only so far to be accounted of as they are God’s gifts, to be improved for his honour, and as means of preparing us for eternal fellowship with him

1 Corinthians 7:32-35

The reason why I have preferred a single state of life to the married is, that I would have you, as much as possible, freed from all the anxious cares and perplexing incumbrances of this present world, that ye may, with less hindrance and distraction, attend the service of God, and pursue the salvation of your souls: for they who are unmarried have most liberty to lay out all their thoughts, time, and labour, about what pertains to the service and fellowship of God; whereas they who are married must be employed in providing for their families, and rendering themselves agreeable and helpful to their yoke-fellows.—My whole aim is the advantage of your souls, not to ensnare any into unchaste inclinations or practices; but that, in the most easy and becoming manner, ye may have abundant liberty for waiting upon, keeping close to, and serving the Lord Jesus, and God the Father through him, in all religious duties, without disquiet, perplexity, and wandering of heart

1 Corinthians 7:36-38

But, if any parent or guardian find that the restraint of his daughter or pupil from marriage, beyond the flower of her age, is calculated to ensnare her; or if a young man find that his temper, honour, or chastity, call for it; it is very lawful and commendable that they should marry: but, if they have no such call to marriage, it is still more adviseable and commendable to refrain from it in these persecuting times. Thus parents who give their children in marriage, and children who, having gained their consent, enter into it, act a wise and lawful part; but if, without danger of sin or infamy, they continue unmarried, they better provide against the inconveniencies of these troublesome times, and for a more uninterrupted liberty of serving God. 39, 40. But, let the state of the church be as difficult as it will, the law of God and nature, and the marriage vow, bind a wife to abide with, and cleave to, her husband till death part them, unless he voluntarily and resolutely leave her, or be guilty of adultery; but, if he die before her, she may then marry another: but let it always be one who makes a credible profession of Christianity, and with whom she may expect the approbation, presence, and blessing, of God in their conjugal relation, that they may dwell together, worshipping God, and religiously training up their children. But indeed I think that if she continue single she will find it most convenient in these dangerous times, and best on religious accounts.—And, whatever your new teachers insinuate, I know I have suggested these admonitions under the special direction of the Holy Ghost

REFLECTIONS UPON CHAP. VII.—Persons married or unmarried, bond or free, should labour to live contented with their lot, and always to the glory of God. And with great prudence should they marry or remain single, as best tends to prevent sinful impurities and promote their more active and undisturbed service of God. In marrying, Christians should make conscience of choosing none but such as appear to fear God, and of entering into that relation with much serious consideration and solemn prayer. And married persons should cultivate the most endeared mutual affection, and live together as heirs of the grace of life, as not only their temporal, but their and their children’s spiritual and eternal happiness depend so much thereon. A deep sense of the vanity and shortness of time, and of the importance and length of eternity, ought always to regulate our affections and conduct. That is always best for us that is best for our soul; and, whether single or married, our chief aim and endeavour ought to be to please the Lord, and to be holy both in body and spirit. **