3. How to Help a Man With His Anger

How to Help a Man with His Anger Or How to Deal with Anger in Someone Else Ephesians 4:25-27

Wherefore putting away lying, speak every man truth with his neighbour: for we are members one of another. Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: Neither give place to the devil. - Ephesians 4:25-32.    Understand That There Are Probably Some Things You Don’t Understand.

* The anger shown in the individual might be a spin-off of something else.

2.Deal Properly with Your Own Anger * You cannot help somebody else if you are not properly dealing with your own anger.

(1)Recognize that Anger is Sin Cease from anger, and forsake wrath: fret not thyself in any wise to do evil. - Psalms 37:8 A man of great wrath shall suffer punishment: for if thou deliver him , yet thou must do it again. - Proverbs 19:19 Wrath is cruel, and anger is outrageous; but who is able to stand before envy? - Proverbs 27:4 Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools. - Ecclesiastes 7:9

Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, - Galatians 5:19-20

Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: - Ephesians 4:31 (2)Control Your Anger God’s Way and Not the World’s Way God’s Way to Control Your Anger 1.Putting your mind under the command of Christ and His Word.

2.    Have the Mind tell the Will what to do.

3.    And then the Will says to the Emotions, “You, calm down!”

3.Deflect Anger (1) Answer back gently and softly * Every time your mate’s voice goes up, your voice go down. A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger. - Proverbs 15:1 The discretion of a man deferreth his anger; and it is his glory to pass over a transgression. - Proverbs 19:11 A fool’s wrath is presently known: but a prudent man covereth shame. -Proverbs 12:16 (2) Give a Gift A gift in secret pacifieth anger: and a reward in the bosom strong wrath. - Proverbs 21:14 4.Do Not Deliver an Angry Person from the Consequences of Their Anger. A man of great wrath shall suffer punishment: for if thou deliver him , yet thou must do it again. - Proverbs 19:19 5.Use Emotional Word Pictures 6.Seek and Pray for the Skill of Patience But thou, O man of God, flee these things; and follow after righteousness, godliness, faith, love,patience, meekness. - 1 Timothy 6:11 qSkills are to be learned, and Patience is a skill qAsk God for patience!

7.Use a Spiritual Weapon to Defeat the Carnal Weapon of Anger qCarnal weapons are powerful, but not as powerful as spiritual weapons For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war after the flesh: - 2 Corinthians 10:3 qWeapons are just tools used in battles. Different weapons have been used during different times in history. Carnal weapons have been the same throughout history.

qSpiritual weapons also have not changed. qCarnal weapons are deceitful because they seem to work! It just does not produce the peaceable fruit of righteousness. qSpiritual weapons are more powerful than carnal weapons. qThe spiritual weapon of meekness can defeat the carnal weapon of Anger. oLove and kindness conquers Hatred and Jealousy oPurity of heart, soul, mind, and body defeats Impurity oGentleness is a weapon against Harshness oForgiveness is a weapon against Unforgiveness oHumility almost always conquers Pride

Illustration: A seminary professor was known to give colorful illustrations. One time, when the students came into class, they knew they were in for another eventful class. On the chalkboard was a great big paper target. The professor had each person draw a picture of someone they hated or really found to be unnerving. Each student drew a picture of someone else. One student drew a picture of another girl who stole her boyfriend. Another drew a picture of their brother. One student drew a picture of the professor himself. Once done, the students were allowed to paste their picture up on the target and throw darts at it. The darts flew and each student gleefully had fun striking at their hated individual. When it was over, the teacher had the students sit back down, and then he took down the target. Behind the hated pictures and the paper target was a picture of Jesus Christ Himself, ripped and torn into shreds by the darts that were thrown by the students. There was a hush in the class when the professor read the following Scripture: And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me. - Matthew 25:40