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Apostasy in Christian preaching warns against the abandonment or renunciation of faith, highlighting its spiritual peril and tragic consequences (Hebrews 10:26-27). Illustrations often depict the despair, judgment, or repentance of those who fall away, using vivid images of denial, death, and lost hope to emphasize the seriousness of turning from Christ (2 Timothy 4:10).

The Atheist Pastor

Jude 1:4

The Rev. Gretta Vosper, the minister at West Hill United Church in Toronto, Ontario, Canada, had a crisis of conscience four years into her time at the church: she didn’t believe the Bible was the authoritative word of God, and she let her congregation know that. “It’s not that I don’t have a definition of God that I can adhere to,” Vosper said. “It’s that I think we need to stop using that language.”

The progressive congregation asked her to stay, and began modifying the language in the church, replacing talk of God and Jesus with talk of love, compassion, and beauty. When Vosper switched from identifying as a non-theist to an atheist, the United Church denomination started questioning whether she should continue as a minister, and threatened defrocking by an ecclesiastical court. After five years of debate, the denomination has dropped the charges and agreed to let her continue to serve her congregation. The Right Rev. Richard Bott, who leads the United Church, said he was pleased with the resolution.

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Canadian Press

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Why Some Retired [liberal] Clergy Lose Faith and Leave Church

Job 19:6

[An analysis of why so many liberal mainline pastors lose their faith and drop out of church after retiring.]

“Be merciful to those who doubt.” — Jude 22

I belong to a support group of seven retired Mainline clergypersons. Six of the seven no longer affirm historic, creedal, orthodox, traditional theology. The same six members of the group no longer actively participate in a congregation. If you do the math, that means 86% of my retired clergy group have, to a large degree, lost traditional faith and left institutional religion.

For a long time, I assumed this dynamic in my support group was an anomaly. Surely, I thought, this is not typical. So, several months ago, I decided to take an informal survey of retired clergy to help find out. I asked them two questions: “Do you still affirm traditional doctrines/theology? Why or why not? Are you still actively involved in a church? Why or why not?”

Before sharing the results of the survey, a significant disclaimer needs to be made. This was not a large or a scientific survey. Instead, it represents the responses of about 100 retired (almost all Mainline) clergy who read DoubtersParish.com, ProgressiveChristianity.org or Baptist News Global. In short, the responders to this survey already trend “liberal/progressive” theologically and ecclesiastically. Had I surveyed retired clergy from conservative evangelicalism, the results likely would have been significantly different.

With that important disclaimer, I’d like to share some of the findings of the survey. Overall, it identified the following three categories of retired clergypersons (with percentages):

Those who affirm traditional theology and participate in a church (19%)

Those who do not affirm traditional theology but participate in a church (40%)

Those who do not affirm traditional theology and do not participate in a church (41%)

Three major trends that surfaced in the survey will now be reviewed, followed by a tentative attempt to explain why so many retired clergy have lost traditional faith and left church.

A majority remain in church

Fifty-nine percent of the retired clergy who took this survey still participate in a local church. This includes clergy who retain traditional faith and those who do not. A few representative quotes from respondents follow:

“I am still active in a congregation. How can a good son abandon one’s mother?”

“I believe in the church, in the sense that we were never meant to go it alone in our faith.”

“I certainly don’t believe all that is preached from the pulpit but have stayed for the social connection.”

“I appreciate the mission work and the camaraderie. It is affirming for me.”

“I am actively involved in my church, partly because it has jettisoned dogma.”

“I go mostly because it is a communal activity in which I have participated all my life.”

“The church is where community can be found, care received and practiced, and prophetic voices can be heard. The church can be frustrating, but it’s also the place where I learned to love Jesus, my neighbors, the Bible’s story and the power of hope.”

A significant minority have left church

Although 59% of retired clergy who responded to this survey remain in church, 41% have left. For people who devoted decades of their lives to institutional religion, this seems like a large number. A few representative quotes from respondents follow:

“The church is not going to change. For example, the language used for worship is so gendered and theistic. When people ask me what I did before retiring, I tell them I am a retired pastor who no longer goes to church.”

“Today’s church has become a political pawn in the American culture. It has lost its voice and credibility in the world. Other cultures often see the American church as an instrument of imperialism.”

“Churches are prejudiced, racist, they don’t think, they are comfortable with 1950s understandings of the Bible and theology, and they spend almost all of their money on themselves.”

“The church has abandoned the example and teachings of Jesus for power, politics, money and the status quo.”

“My experience is that many churches continue to offer only white worship, white music and white liturgy, thus resembling a white country club that really doesn’t want to do any hands-on work with the least of these.”

“I found parish ministry to be very draining, and I’m still feeling the need to have my own well filled up with peace and beauty rather than theological squabbling, meetings, committee work and toxic relationships in troubled systems.”

“I’ve shoveled enough church crap to last a hundred lifetimes. I’m finished, and it’s absolutely liberating.”

A large majority no longer affirm traditional theology

The biggest surprise of this retired clergy survey, at least for me, is that 81% of the respondents no longer hold traditional (historic, creedal, orthodox) theology/doctrines. A few representative quotes from respondents follow:

“I no longer believe the doctrines of the church. Instead, I follow the life, teachings and example of Jesus.”

“I believe in a nontheistic God who is universal energy.”

“I am closer to the Jesus of The Jefferson Bible and the Jesus Seminar than to the Jesus of The Apostles’ Creed.”

“Sometimes I’m not sure if I still believe in God, but I’m sure I still believe in Jesus.”

“I no longer affirm the doctrines I learned in junior high Sunday school like heaven, hell, virgin birth, physical resurrection, ascension or the second coming.”

“I cannot reconcile reality with traditional doctrines, nor do they make logical sense anymore. Some of the traditional doctrines I find to be morally corrupt and inconsistent with a loving God.”

“I still possess a belief in God, but it is not bound by what lies in the formulated canon of Scripture.”

“Far more important than any creed or system of beliefs or principles is having a moral compass and great kindness.”

Why have so many retired clergy lost traditional faith and left church?

When 81% of retired clergy (who took this survey) have lost traditional faith, and 41% have left church, you cannot help but ask why. There’s no one definitive answer. For example, numerous respondents never affirmed traditional faith in the first place, especially those in the noncreedal, highly progressive United Church of Christ. But the primary explanation respondents gave for losing traditional faith and leaving church is that, as retired clergy, they now have the theological and ecclesiastical freedom to do so.

For example, when you are a professional minister, even if you are fed up with institutional religion, you obviously do not have the freedom to leave church. Retirement allows you, for the first time in a long time, to make a decision about your church participation.

As already noted, the majority choose to stay. After spending a lifetime working in church, most clergy want to remain connected to their life’s work. However, retired clergy who have grown disillusioned with institutional religion are now free to cut their ecclesiastical ties — and many do.

As one respondent said, “I am not involved in a church. Short version, I had enough. Retirement provides freedom not to.”

This freedom is even more pronounced when it comes to theology. For active clergy, not believing in traditional doctrines can create major crises on many levels. Therefore, most clergy attempt to avoid this painful reality, even if it requires not being fully forthright with themselves or their congregations.

However, once they are freed from vocational constraints, many of them come to the realization they no longer affirm traditional beliefs. Very few become atheists. However, many of them, like those in this survey, become far less orthodox.

As one respondent said, “Although I struggled with doubt my entire career, I convinced myself that I still believed in the core tenants of historic Christianity. But when I retired, I realized that I didn’t.”

While writing this article, I came upon a provocative quote by Upton Sinclair: “It is difficult to get a man to understand something when his salary depends on his not understanding it.”

Although he was not specifically referring to religion or clergypersons, it certainly applies.

I don’t share this quote in a judgmental or cynical way. Instead, I share it to illustrate how difficult it is for doubting clergypersons to understand and admit (to themselves or others) that they have lost important tenants of their religion. Why? Because, as the quote suggests, losing those beliefs can result in the termination of your salary, which is no small matter.

But it goes much deeper than that. Losing faith also can lead to a loss of call, vocation, identity, community, purpose, meaning, reputation and even family relationships.

For someone with “Reverend” in front of their name, admitting he or she has lost faith feels overwhelmingly frightening and threatening. As a result, most clergy find a way to hang on to some semblance of faith, if only by their fingernails.

But when they retire, such fears and constraints dissipate, giving many of them the freedom to acknowledge (perhaps for the first time) that their faith has significantly strayed from traditional orthodoxy.

A case study

Let me share a specific example. A few weeks ago, I read a book by a clergyman narrating his struggle with doubt. I won’t go into many details, but he laid out numerous factors that led him to doubt his faith. They included the usual suspects (questions about the Bible, the problem of suffering, skepticism about a theistic God and a divine Christ, difficulty believing in supernaturalism, and the massive failures of institutional religion).

By this point in the book, most readers would expect to turn the page and discover he has given up on faith and resigned as a minister. Instead, the author makes a surprising shift. Instead of jettisoning his religion, he decided to take a “leap of faith” and “trust” Christianity. Given his massive doubts, I’m sure many readers felt a bit of whiplash.

However, his decision to retain faith despite debilitating doubts will not surprise most clergy. The cost of giving up his faith was too high a bar, the price too steep. He acknowledged as much when he admitted he could not bring himself to leave his vocation, which is all he knew and which he was good at. Nor could he bear to leave his denominational tribe and the community it provided. He also loathed to give up the spiritual comfort traditional faith offered him. So he found a way to keep faith alive, although just barely.

When I read his story, which was published 12 years ago, I thought to myself, “I bet his perspective changed when he retired.” My hunch proved correct. An online search revealed he recently retired. I then read several of his current blog posts. He no longer talks about “a leap of faith” or “trust” in God. Instead, he talks about his “slowly dissolving faith.” He clearly no longer believes in traditional Christianity, and he’s deeply frustrated with institutional religion.

I do not criticize this man for hanging on to a minimum of traditional faith while serving as a minister, only to let it go upon retirement. Instead, I can empathize with him. When we are still in the ministerial arena, it’s extraordinarily difficult to acknowledge our deepest doubts to ourselves, much less to others. The stakes are simply too high. Therefore, many doubting clergy — often subconsciously — defer and deny such threatening thoughts.

However, according to the participants of this survey, when we retire, and gain the theological and ecclesiastical freedom that accompanies it, our perspectives often change. And that, more than anything else, appears to be the primary reason so many thoughtful and well-educated clergy, upon their retirement, release (at least some) traditional faith, embrace (at least some) nontraditional faith, and rethink their relationship with institutional religion.

Sermon: Shipwrecked Faith

1 Timothy 1:18

Sermon in 1 Timothy series - Clean Up the Church, #3. 1 Tim. 1:18-20

SHIPWRECKED FAITH

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I. Avoidable disasters.

II. Paul's charge to Timothy.

A. It is a serious matter.

B. Remember your foundation.

C. Hold on to the faith and keep a good conscience.

III. Assess your own faith and conscience.

A. Are your beliefs drifting?

B. Are your actions drifting?

IV. Two casualties of the faith wars.

A. Hymenaeus and Alexander.

B. Handed over to Satan. 1 Cor 5:5

C. It is not just ancient history.

V. Lost salvation, or wrecked salvation?

A. Some believe shipwrecked means lost.

B. Others say shipwrecked means wrecked but still there. 1 Cor 3

C. "Once Saved, Always Saved" should not be abused.

VI. It is a terrible thing to drift.

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Preachers Who Don't Believe — the Scandal of Apostate Pastors

John 10:12

Are there clergy who don’t believe in God? That is the question posed by a new report that is certain to receive considerable attention -- and rightly so. Few church members are likely to be disinterested in whether their pastor believes in God.

The study was conducted by the Center for Cognitive Studies at Tufts University, under the direction of Daniel C. Dennett and Linda LaScola. Dennett, of course, is one of the primary figures in the “New Atheism” -- the newly aggressive and influential atheist movement that has gained a considerable hearing among the intellectual elites and the media.

Dennett is a cognitive scientist whose book, BREAKING THE SPELL, suggests that belief in God must have at one point served an important evolutionary purpose, granting an evolutionary advantage to those who had some belief in an afterlife as compared to humans without such a belief. The reality of death, Dennett surmises, might well have been the precipitating factor. In order to make life meaningful in the face of death (and thus encourage reproduction), Dennett suggests that primitive humans invented the idea of God and the afterlife. Now, he argues, we have no more need of such primitive beliefs.

Interestingly, Dennett also proposes a new interpretation of theological liberalism. Noting that many modern people claim to be Christians while holding to virtually no specific theological content, Dennett suggests that their mode of faith should not be described as “belief,” but rather as “believing in belief.”

Given Dennett’s own atheistic agenda, we can rightly assume that he would be thrilled to see Christian ministers and believers abandon the faith. Indeed, the New Atheists have made this a stated aim. Thus, this new research report, “Preachers Who Are Not Believers,” should be read within that framework. Nevertheless, it must be read. This report demands the attention of anyone concerned with the integrity of the Christian church and the Christian faith.

Dennett and LaScola undertook their project with the goal of looking for unbelieving pastors and ministers who continue to serve their churches in “secret disbelief.” Their “small and self-selected” sample of ministers represents a microcosm of the theological collapse at the heart of many churches and denominations.

In their report, Dennett and LaScola present case studies of five unbelieving ministers, three from liberal denominations (“the liberals”) and two from conservative denominations (“the literals”).

Wes, a Methodist, lost his confidence in the Bible while attending a liberal Christian college and seminary. “I went to college thinking Adam and Eve were real people,” he explained. Now, he no longer believes that God exists. In his rendering, God is a word that “can be used very expressively in some of my more meditative modes” and “a kind of poetry that is written by human beings.”

His church members do not know that he is an atheist, but he explains that they are somewhat liberal themselves. His ministerial colleagues are even more liberal: “They’ve been de-mythologized, I’ll say that. They don’t believe Jesus rose from the dead literally. They don’t believe Jesus was born of a virgin. They don’t believe all those things that would cause a big stir in their churches.”

Rick, a campus minister for the United Church of Christ, perhaps the most liberal Protestant denomination, was an agnostic in college and seems to have lost all belief by the time he graduated from seminary. He chose ordination in the UCC because it required “no forced doctrine.” Even as he graduated from seminary, he knew, “I’m not going to make it in a conventional church.” He knew he could not go into a church and teach his own theological views, based on Paul Tillich and Rudolf Bultmann. He did not believe in the doctrinal content of the Christian faith from the beginning of his ministry. “I did not believe the traditional things even then.”

He does not believe “all this creedal stuff” about the incarnation of Christ or the need for salvation, but he remained in the ministry because, “These are my people, this is the context in which I work, these are the people that I know.” In the pulpit, his mode is to talk as if he does believe, because “as long as ... you are talking about God and Jesus and the Bible, that’s what they want to hear. You’re just phrasing it in a way that makes sense to [them] ... but language is ambiguous and can be heard in different ways.”

He doesn’t like to call himself an atheist, but: “If not believing in a supernatural, theistic god is what distinguishes an atheist, then I am one too.”

Darryl is a Presbyterian who sees himself as a “progressive-minded” pastor who wants to see his kind of non-doctrinal Christianity “given validity in some way.” He acknowledges that he is more a pantheist than a theist, and thinks that many of the more educated members of his church hold to the same liberal beliefs as his own. And those beliefs (or unbeliefs) are stated clearly: “I reject the virgin birth. I reject substitutionary atonement. I reject the divinity of Jesus. I reject heaven and hell in the traditional sense, and I am not alone.”

Amazingly, Darryl is candid about the fact that he remains in the ministry largely for financial reasons. It is how he provides for his family. If he openly espoused his beliefs, “I may be burning bridges in terms of my ability to earn a living this way.”

Adam ministers in the Church of Christ, a conservative denomination. After years in the ministry, he began to lose all theological confidence. After reading a series of books, he became convinced that the atheists have better arguments than believers. He has moved fully into an atheist mode, yet he continues to lead his church in worship. How? “Here’s how I’m handling my job on Sunday mornings: I see it as play acting. I see myself as taking on the role of a believer in a worship service, and performing.”

This “atheistic agnostic” stays in the ministry because he likes the people and, “I need the job still.” If he had an alternative source of income, he would take it. He feels hypocritical, but no longer believes that hypocrisy is wrong.

John is identified as a Southern Baptist minister who has primarily served as a worship leader. He was attracted to Christianity as a religion of love, but his pursuit of Christianity “brought me to the point of not believing in God.” As he explains, “I didn’t plan to become an atheist. I didn’t even want to become an atheist. It’s just I had no choice. If I’m being honest with myself.”

He is clearly not being honest with his church members. He rejects all belief in God and all Christian truth claims out of hand. He is a determined atheist. Once again, this unbelieving minister admits that he stays in the ministry because of finances. Amazingly, this minister even names his price: “If someone said, ‘Here’s $200,000,’ I’d be turning my notice in this week, saying, ‘A month from now is my last Sunday.’ Because then I can pay off everything.”

Early in their report, Dennett and LaScola point to a problem of definition. Many churches and denominations have adopted such fluid and doctrineless identities that determining who is a believer and who is an unbeliever has become difficult. Their statement deserves a close reading:

The ambiguity about who is a believer and who is an unbeliever

follows inexorably from the pluralism that has been assiduously

fostered by many religious leaders for a century and more: God is

many different things to different people, and since we can’t

know if one of these conceptions is the right one, we should

honor them all. This counsel of tolerance creates a gentle fog

that shrouds the question of belief in God in so much

indeterminacy that if asked whether they believed in God, many

people could sincerely say that they don’t know what they are

being asked.

In other words, some theologians and denominations have embraced a theology so fluid and indeterminate that even an atheist cannot tell the believers and unbelievers apart.

“Preachers Who Are Not Believers” is a stunning and revealing report that lays bare a level of heresy, apostasy, and hypocrisy that staggers the mind. In 1739, Gilbert Tennett preached his famous sermon, “On the Danger of an Unconverted Ministry.” In that sermon, Tennett described unbelieving pastors as a curse upon the church. They prey upon the faith and the faithful. “These caterpillars labor to devour every green thing.”

If they will not remove themselves from the ministry, they must be removed. If they lack the integrity to resign their pulpits, the churches must muster the integrity to eject them. If they will not “out” themselves, it is the duty of faithful Christians to “out” them. The caterpillars are hard at work. Will it take a report from an atheist to awaken the church to the danger?

Christian Radio Host - Don't Go To Church

Harold Camping, the host of a moderately prominent international Christian radio call-in show, recently told his listeners that Satan has taken over "all" churches and that people of faith should do their worshipping elsewhere. Apparently, pastors all over the United States are outraged, with some attributing drops in attendance (and contributions) to Camping, whose Oakland, California-based organization reported donations of $12 million in 2000.

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St. Petersburg Times-AP

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From Minister To Atheist: A Story of Losing Faith

Mark 4:17

Teresa MacBain has a secret, one she’s terrified to reveal.

“I’m currently an active pastor and I’m also an atheist,” she says. “I live a double life. I feel pretty good on Monday, but by Thursday — when Sunday’s right around the corner — I start having stomachaches, headaches, just knowing that I got to stand up and say things that I no longer believe in and portray myself in a way that’s totally false.”

MacBain glances nervously around the room. It’s a Sunday, and normally she would be preaching at her church in Tallahassee, Florida. But here she is, sneaking away to the American Atheists’ convention in Bethesda, Maryland.

Her secret is taking a toll, eating at her conscience as she goes about her pastoral duties week after week — two sermons every Sunday, singing hymns, praying for the sick when she doesn’t believe in the God she’s praying to. She has had no one to talk to, at least not in her Christian community, so her iPhone has become her confessor, where she records her private fears and frustrations.

“On my way to church again. Another Sunday. Man, this is getting worse,” she tells her phone in one recording. “How did I get myself in this mess? Sometimes, I think to myself, if I could just go back a few years and not ask the questions and just be one of those sheep and blindly follow and not know the truth, it would be so much easier. I’d just keep my job. But I can’t do that. I know it’s a lie. I know it’s false.”

MacBain made that recording in her car on the way to Lake Jackson United Methodist Church several weeks before the American Atheists’ conference.

Finding Atheism

MacBain, 44, was raised a conservative Southern Baptist. Her dad was a pastor and she felt the call of God when she was 6. She had questions, of course, about conflicts in the Bible, for example, or the role of women. She says she sometimes felt she was serving a taskmaster of a God, whose standards she never quite met.

For years, MacBain set her concerns aside. But when she became a United Methodist pastor nine years ago, she started asking sharper questions. She thought they’d make her faith stronger.

“In reality,” she says, “as I worked through them, I found that religion had so many holes in it, that I just progressed through stages where I couldn’t believe it.”

The questions haunted her: Is Jesus the only way to God? Would a loving God torment people for eternity? Is there any evidence of God at all? And one day, she crossed a line.

“I just kind of realized — I mean just a eureka moment, not an epiphany, a eureka moment — I’m an atheist,” she says. “I don’t believe. And in the moment that I uttered that word, I stumbled and choked on that word — atheist.”

But it felt right.

About a year ago, MacBain found The Clergy Project, an anonymous online community of clergy who have lost their faith. Now she had allies, but no easy escape. She began applying for jobs, but when prospective employers asked why she wanted to leave the ministry, she didn’t know what to say. She recorded her worries on her iPhone.

“So what the hell am I supposed to do?” she asks in one recording, her voice sounding desperate. “Really, the options are work at something like Starbucks or McDonald’s — and even there they’re going to ask those questions. I could even clean houses and not make a great amount of money — but at least nobody would be asking me questions.”

Driving to church on Sunday, March 18, MacBain realized she could no longer bear her double life.

“I got to come out. I got to get out of it,” she told her phone. “It used to terrify me, what people’s reaction would be. But it’s been so long now and I’ve done this for so long, I don’t even care.”

The sermon she gave that day was her last.

The ‘Freedom’ Of Coming Out

On March 26, at the American Atheists’ convention in Bethesda, MacBain seems almost giddy. The day before, she decided she would go before the conference’s 1,500 or so nonbelievers and announce that she is officially an atheist.

“I am nervous,” she says, “but at the same time I am so excited. I slept like a baby last night because I knew I wasn’t going to have to live a lie anymore. Such freedom.”

Moments later, in the darkened, cavernous conference room, MacBain steps onstage.

“My name is Teresa,” she begins. “I’m a pastor currently serving a Methodist church — at least up to this point” — the audience laughs — “and I am an atheist.”

Hundreds of people jump to their feet. They hoot and clap for more than a minute. MacBain then apologizes to them for being, as she put it, “a hater.”

“I was the one on the right track, and you were the ones that were going to burn in hell,” she says. “And I’m happy to say as I stand before you right now, I’m going to burn with you.”

A few minutes later, MacBain strides off the stage into a waiting crowd. One man is crying as he tells her that her speech is “one of the most moving things I’ve seen in years.” Another woman says she, too, had been a born-again Christian. “Join the club,” she says as she hugs MacBain.

“I have never felt so appreciated and cared for, you know?” MacBain says later, noting that she has left one community — Christianity — for another. “New member, just been born — that’s what it feels like.”

The Fallout

Two days later, MacBain returned to Tallahassee — and to reality.

“I didn’t know how far or how explosive her coming out would be, but, then again, nobody did,” says MacBain’s husband, Ray MacBain. “The next morning, we got up, I went to work and my son Alex texted me and said it went viral.”

The local TV station, WCTV, ran a series of stories about MacBain, interviewing her boss but never MacBain herself. Hundreds of people wrote comments on the site, and MacBain says they were painful to read.

“The majority of them, to begin with, were pretty hateful,” she says, although some nonbelievers soon came to her defense. “For somebody who’s been a good guy their whole life and been a people pleaser, it’s really hard to imagine that overnight you’re the bad guy.”

MacBain tried to see the church’s district superintendent to explain, but he canceled the meeting. She was immediately locked out and replaced, so she flew out to Seattle to meet with her colleagues at The Clergy Project. There, sitting alone in her hotel room on Palm Sunday, MacBain again turned to her iPhone.

“I don’t want to go home,” she muses in the recording, deflation flattening her voice. “I don’t want to have to be in Publix or Wal-Mart or somewhere and worry about who’s going to see me and who’s going to corner me and just tell me off.”

But MacBain did go home. People shunned her. Job interviews were canceled. The Humanists of Florida Association offered to pay her salary for a year, but there’s no guarantee. Only two of MacBain’s friends called her and took her to lunch. Meanwhile, her family was a refuge, even if they didn’t all agree with her new views.

“I believe in God,” says her husband, Ray. “And to be honest, I pray for her every night, I got friends praying for her.”

But he says he adores his wife and defends her right to disbelieve. “That’s why I spent 23 years in the Army. That’s why I’m still a police officer. We have freedom of speech and freedom of thought. And God never forced anybody to believe, so who am I to step up?”

‘Life Is Just Different’

A few minutes later, Teresa MacBain goes for a drive to the church at the center of her story. She says she has butterflies — this is the first time she’s seen her church since she went public. Its 11:20 a.m., nearly time for the sermon. She’s glad she’s not inside.

“Not because of the people or anything,” she says, “but because if I were in there, I know what I’d be doing. And that would be standing up and proclaiming something that I no longer believe in. So, yeah, I’m relieved that I don’t have to do that.”

Back at home, MacBain doesn’t hesitate when she’s asked what she misses most about her old life.

“I miss the music,” she says. MacBain sang in church choirs and worship bands most of her life, and even though she no longer believes the words, she still catches herself singing praise songs.

She says she also misses the relationships — she’ll often pick up the phone to call someone, then realize she can’t. And she misses the ritual and regularity of church life.

“It’s what I know. It’s what I knew. And I still struggle with it. Life is just different,” she says.

When it’s pointed out that she hasn’t said whether or not she misses God, MacBain pauses.

“No, no,” she says. “I can’t say that I do.”

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This is the first in a series of stories on losing faith.

Christian Values Cannot Save Anyone

A recent letter to columnist Carolyn Hax of The Washington Post seemed straightforward enough. “I am a stay-at-home mother of four who has tried to raise my family under the same strong Christian values that I grew up with,” the woman writes. “Therefore I was shocked when my oldest daughter, ‘Emily,’ suddenly announced she had ‘given up believing in God’ and decided to ‘come out’ as an atheist.”

The idea of a 16-year-old atheist in the house would be enough to alarm any Christian parent, and rightly so. The thought that a secular advice columnist for The Washington Post might be the source of help seems very odd, but desperation can surely lead a parent to seek help almost anywhere.

You usually get what you expect from an advice columnist like this — therapeutic counsel based in a secular worldview and a deep commitment to personal autonomy. Carolyn Hax responds to this mother with an admonition to respect the integrity of her daughter’s declaration of non-belief. She adds, “Parents can and should teach their beliefs and values, but when a would-be disciple stops believing, it’s not a ‘decision’ or ‘choice’ to ‘reject’ church or family or tradition or virtue or whatever else has hitched a cultural ride with faith.”

That is patent nonsense, of course. Declarations of adolescent unbelief often are exactly what Hax argues they are not: rejections of “church or family or tradition or virtue.” Hax does offer some legitimate insights, suggesting that honesty is to be preferred to dishonesty and that such adolescent statements are often indications of a phase of intellectual questioning or just trying on a personality for style.

Hax then tells this distraught mother that she “didn’t throw out what my childhood, including my church, taught me; I still apply what I believe in. I just apply it to a secular life.” In other words, Hax asserts that she maintains many of the values she learned as a child in church, and simply applies these values now to a secular life.

“How can I help my daughter see that she is making a serious mistake with her life if she chooses to reject her God and her faith?,” the mother asks. Hax tells the mother to accept the daughter’s atheism and get over her “disappointment that she isn’t turning out just as you envisioned.”

What else would you expect a secular columnist who operates from a secular worldview to say?

The real problem does not lie with Carolyn Hax’s answer, however, but with the mother’s question. The problem appears at the onset, when the mother states that she has “tried to raise my family under the same strong Christian values that I grew up with.”

Christian values are the problem. Hell will be filled with people who were avidly committed to Christian values. Christian values cannot save anyone and never will. The gospel of Jesus Christ is not a Christian value, and a comfortability with Christian values can blind sinners to their need for the gospel.

This one sentence may not accurately communicate this mother’s understanding, but it appears to be perfectly consistent with the larger context of her question and the source of the advice she sought.

Parents who raise their children with nothing more than Christian values should not be surprised when their children abandon those values. If the child or young person does not have a firm commitment to Christ and to the truth of the Christian faith, values will have no binding authority, and we should not expect that they would. Most of our neighbors have some commitment to Christian values, but what they desperately need is salvation from their sins. This does not come by Christian values, no matter how fervently held. Salvation comes only by the gospel of Jesus Christ.

Human beings are natural-born moralists, and moralism is the most potent of all the false gospels. The language of “values” is the language of moralism and cultural Protestantism — what the Germans called Kulturprotestantismus. This is the religion that produces cultural Christians, and cultural Christianity soon dissipates into atheism, agnosticism, and other forms of non-belief. Cultural Christianity is the great denomination of moralism, and far too many church folk fail to recognize that their own religion is only cultural Christianity — not the genuine Christian faith.

The language of values is all that remains when the substance of belief disappears. Tragically, many churches seem to perpetuate their existence by values, long after they abandon the faith.

We should not pray for Christian morality to disappear or for Christian values to evaporate. We should not pray to live in Sodom or in Vanity Fair. But a culture marked even by Christian values is in desperate need of evangelism, and that evangelism requires the knowledge that Christian values and the gospel of Jesus Christ are not the same thing.

I pray that this young woman and her mother find common hope and confidence in the salvation that comes only through Christ — not by Christian values. Otherwise, we are facing far more than a young woman “making a serious mistake with her life.” We are talking about what matters for eternity. Christian values cannot save anyone.

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Carolyn Hax, “Daughter’s Turnabout on Religion Shakes Mother’s Faith,” The Washington Post, Friday, September 7, 2012. http://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/daughters-turnabout-on-religion-shakes-mothers-faith/2012/09/04/1e6ead68-f3a9-11e1-a612-3cfc842a6d89_story.html

I discussed this matter in The Briefing. Listen here: http://www.albertmohler.com/2012/09/10/the-briefing-09-10-12/

Apostasy Is Nothing New

Mark 14:31

Step back in time almost 2,000 years. Pliny was a new governor in the Roman Empire and Trajan was the Emperor. The year was A.D. 112.

Pliny needed help on how to handle a problem he had not encountered before, so he wrote Trajan a letter. The problem Pliny had was Christians.

It is the earliest contemporary reference to Christianity outside of the New Testament. Bear in mind this is only 80 years after Jesus was crucified. Even 200 years later, when Constantine became the first Christian emperor, Christians probably made up less than 10% of the Roman Empire. Yet Pliny says in his area the pagan temples had become deserted and animal sacrifices were no longer being made.

Instead, Christians had their own way of worshipping. In a brief but fascinating description, Pliny says Christians meet on a fixed day before dawn, sing a hymn to Christ as to a god, and bind themselves not to commit theft, fraud or adultery. Then they meet later in the day to have a special meal together.

It is amazing that in this early period, even pagans knew that Christians believed in the deity of Jesus. This is not something that was invented hundreds of years later by the Church hierarchy. The meal the Christians ate was probably communion but a special kind called a Love Feast that included a full meal. Pliny says the meal was ordinary and innocent - other pagan sources later claimed the Christians were cannibals.

But there was something else the Christians did, or rather did NOT do, that could not be tolerated. The Christians would not offer sacrifices for the health of Emperor Trajan. Pliny wanted to know what to do. Should he execute all of them? What about those who were accused of believing but denied it? His policy had been to execute only those who would not sacrifice to the emperor, and would not deny Jesus.

We all have images of those early Christians bravely facing the lions in an arena. But guess what - plenty of them chickened out.

Some of those brought before Pliny told him they had been Christians but had ceased to be. Some of them had abandoned their faith a few years previously, but some had done it as much as 25 years before. This means they had lost their faith when the apostles still lived. They had DECONVERTED.

from adapted from Pliny's Letter to Trajan (see #27700) · Rev. David Holwick via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database

Rachael Slick’s Deconversion and The Two Paths of Life: Dead Logic Or Living Joy

Acts 17:18

It’s risky to start saying, “This person’s rejection of faith could have been avoided If Only...”

Still, if someone says her father was a relatively well-known apologetics group founder, and she memorized all the debate points but now rejects Christ, let’s take heed.

Faith rejections have many causes. One may be sincere appraisal of other religions. Another may be an opposition to Christian sexual ethics (as Tim Keller suggested). But in her Monday column for Friendly Atheist, Rachael Slick emphasized her apologetics-based upbringing — an upbringing that backfired.

Having a dad highly schooled in Christian apologetics meant that every question I brought up was explained away confidently and thoroughly. Many times, after our nightly Bible study, we would sit at the table after my Mom and sisters had left and debate, discuss, and dissect the theological questions I had. No stone was left unturned, and all my uncertainty was neatly packaged away.

But she wouldn’t trade what she says was her homeschool-based, fact-heavy education:

[W]ithout that childhood, I wouldn’t understand what freedom truly is — freedom from a life centered around obedience and submission, freedom to think anything, freedom from guilt and shame, freedom from the perpetual heavy obligation to keep every thought pure. Nothing I’ve ever encountered in my life has been so breathtakingly beautiful.

Freedom is my God now, and I love this one a thousand times more than I ever loved the last one.

Novelist and screenwriter Brian Godawa‘s story begins similarly. As a younger Christian, he likewise craved apologetics, evidence, facts, doctrines, and debate (and still enjoys these).

In his opening chapter of his nonfiction Word Pictures, he describes where this craving led.

Over the years, as I pursued an emphasis on rational discourse almost exclusively in my spiritual walk, I noticed in myself a tendency toward reducing everything to logical debate. I became argumentative. Encounters with unbelievers and even believers would seem to always end in cognitive dispute.

Yet so far, the path of Godawa’s life story has taken a different turn from Slick’s.

I began to discover just what was lopsiding my Christianity and my communication. It was my devaluation of imagination. I had become logocentric. I had privileged rational discourse as the ultimate means of discerning truth and neglected the legitimacy of emotion and imagination in understanding God. Reason had become a sort of idol to me. And it was not well with my soul.... Some Christians have tended to be so word-oriented that they border on rationalism and distrust the use of imagination, deeming it an idol tool of the devil’s workshop.

Now, being respectful of Slick’s stated motives, I have to ask: “Were you taught to enjoy the love, wonder, and imagination that Christ and His Gospel bring to the world, to human life, and to the art and stories we enjoy for God’s glory? Or were these joys taught as optional, lesser, and at best frivolous in the mechanical, law-and-debate-based Christian life?”

And for all who love apologetics arguments, I would ask: If we only enjoy fighting pagans in this world, how are we preparing for the next?

We will not argue with atheists on the New Heavens and New Earth. So let us not act as if apologetics is the “chief end of man.”

Deconversion Is Not As Countercultural As You Think

Luke 14:27

In recent years, the “Instagram deconversion announcement” has become a well-established genre. The formula is pronounced: a former evangelical author, pastor, CCM star, or simply “raised in the church” 20-something posts a self-portrait looking ponderous and solemn, yet free.

Maybe they’re seen from behind, looking out at some beautiful lake or mountain scene. Perhaps they carefully select a “this is me, warts and all” selfie with perfectly imperfect styling. The post’s accompanying text usually begins with some variation of “I never thought I would say this” or “It’s terrifying to post this,” followed by a lengthy narrative involving some combination of words such as “evolving,” “journey,” “fear,” “discovery,” “honesty,” “authentic,” “free,” and “hopeful.”

I don’t mean to diminish the sincere agonizing and legitimate trepidation that accompanies an individual’s decision to make a deconversion “Instagram official.” I’m just observing that this has become a genre — a predictable, commonplace, and not-at-all surprising artifact of a “find yourself” age.

Far from renegade, edgy, and brave, the announcement of a person’s conscious uncoupling from institutional religion is simply going with the flow of a culture that mainstreamed such behavior decades ago. Rather than going against the grain of Western culture, abandoning received doctrine and institutional faith — in favor of a self-styled, follow-your-heart spirituality — is quite smoothly “with the grain.”

To declare one’s spiritual autonomy, one’s unshackling from Christianity’s “constraints” and old-fashioned ideas about sin and morality, is simply to nod along with Oprah and her vast tribe of suburban moms. To disown a God of limitations, boundaries, and wrath — in favor of a God who only wants to fund your “best life” dreams and promote John Lennon–style “love” and good vibes — is to join the ranks of frat boys obsessed with Joe Rogan, “name it and claim it” prosperity preachers, and the vast majority of bestselling authors in “religion, spirituality, and faith” of the last 20 years.

So before you file divorce papers from the Christianity of your youth, know that doing so is in no way countercultural. Like marital divorce, it’s thoroughly acceptable and common. I want to suggest that the far more radical — and truly countercultural — choice isn’t to abandon Christian faith because it is maddening, difficult, and out of step with the contemporary zeitgeist.

The radical choice is to keep the faith.

Have You Tried True Christianity?

When I say keeping the faith is radical, I’m talking about Christian faith in the true, biblical sense. I’m not talking about an American cultural Christianity in which doctrinal literacy is low but concern for gun rights and a border wall is high. Nor am I talking about a progressive Christianity that selectively invokes Scripture for justice campaigns but ignores its personal moral demands. “Deconstructing” comfortable forms of Christianity is good. To keep the faith of these distorted forms of Christianity is in no way radical.

But I would encourage you, if you’re considering a break from Christianity, to make sure you’ve given real Christianity a try. This Christianity doesn’t fit neatly with your politics and preferences but constantly presses you on different fronts, refusing to be boxed in or manipulated into what you want it to be. This Christianity doesn’t simply affirm you as you are but relentlessly pushes you to become more like Jesus.

This Christianity invites — rather than shuns — the intellectual wrestling that naturally comes when we try to wrap our minds around an infinite, triune God whose existence and work in the world will always be a bit mysterious. Many who deconstruct their faith believe Christianity is a religion for intellectual simpletons, in which everything is explainable and all tensions must be resolved (out of fear that they’ll discredit the whole thing). If that’s your experience of Christianity, I’m sorry. I understand why you’d want to leave it behind. But that’s not true Christianity; it’s simply another mutation of the faith — an attempt to domesticate God and shoehorn him into our comfortable paradigms. True Christianity always challenges our paradigms and assaults our comfort. It’s rewarding for sure, but also costly.

One of its costs is intellectual — the taxing burden of lingering questions, knotty paradoxes, and “mirror dimly” faith (1 Cor. 13:12) without empirical proof. But that’s what true faith is. It requires a humble willingness to be content with not comprehending everything.

The late theologian J. I. Packer once expressed it this way:

It is not for us to stop believing because we lack understanding, or to postpone believing till we can get understanding, but to believe in order that we may understand; as Augustine said, “unless you believe, you will not understand.” Faith first, sight afterwards, is God’s order, not vice versa; and the proof of the sincerity of our faith is our willingness to have it so.

If this is what Christian faith actually requires — a willingness to have “faith first, sight afterwards” — then I’d suggest that to keep believing in this faith is a braver and costlier choice than abandoning it because you can’t fully wrap your mind around its thornier components.

Bespoke Spirituality’s Loneliness

Chances are, if you’re considering deconstructing institutional religion, you’re not moving immediately to full-on atheism. Instead, you’re likely planning to forge a more intuitional, bespoke spirituality that perhaps retains some aspects of Christianity but is more fluid, incorporating bits and pieces of other philosophies, rituals, and spiritualities as they fit your mood and needs. This is what religion columnist Tara Isabella Burton chronicles in Strange Rites: New Religions for a Godless World:

A religion of emotive intuition, of aestheticized and commodified experience, of self-creation and self-improvement and, yes, selfies.... A religion decoupled from institutions, creeds, from metaphysical truth-claims about God or the universe or the Way Things Are, but that still seeks — in various and varying ways — to provide us with the pillars of what religion always has: meaning, purpose, community, ritual.

This “mix and match” religion might include a few parts of traditional religion (Shabbat, Christmas carols, Catholic prayer candles), a smattering of “wellness” practices (yoga, meditation, SoulCycle), a dash of New Age magic (burning sage, Tarot cards, astrology), and a deeply moral zealotry for social justice or LGBT+ rights.

While this sort of remixed, bespoke spirituality might sound radical, in reality it’s simply a bourgeois iteration of mainstream consumerism. Capitalism loves it, because it means more products and experiences to sell to ever-hungrier consumers looking for meaning outside the walls of religious institutions. But far from a countercultural protest, to choose this sort of build-your-own religion is simply to fall in line with the “have it your way” Burger King brand of faith. In our intensely consumeristic world, the person who resists the urge to curate a bespoke spirituality — and instead sticks with a consistent, established religious tradition even when it doesn’t fit personal preferences — is the true radical.

It’s also worth noting that bespoke spirituality is something typically only chosen by the privileged — those with the comfort, means, and social status suitable for an (often quite expensive) adventure in à la carte spirituality. The privileged can detach from institutions and meander on their intuitional paths with little concern for the possible dangers of a “go it alone” spirituality. Less privileged people recognize the necessity — not just for survival, but for flourishing — of embeddedness within social fabrics, institutions, and traditions. It’s perhaps not surprising that atheism and agnosticism are uncommon among lower-income classes and in developing nations. You have to live a pretty comfortable life to be a religious “none.”

To ditch religion in favor of bespoke spirituality (or no spirituality) is thus a bourgeois choice fully in keeping with comfortable consumerism. Not only does it not make you a renegade, but it also makes you lonely. Because when you depart Christianity, you aren’t opening yourself up to a new, more spacious freedom. Quite the opposite. You’re narrowing your freedom and horizons of possibility to the confines of one person: you. While it sounds great — and again, is totally the way of our consumerist iWorld — this me-driven spirituality eventually becomes claustrophobic and lonely.

By freeing yourself from the constraints of community, the demands of external authority, and the accountability of institutional formation, it may seem at first like you’re choosing an open-road, idyllic freedom. But freedom isn’t the absence of constraints. Jesus didn’t say “total, limitless autonomy will set you free.” He said the truth will set you free (John 8:32). Not your truth; the truth, in a true-for-everyone sense. And that sort of freeing truth isn’t easily found by looking within, trusting your gut, and going it alone.

Radical Cost of True Christianity

In a post-Christian and rapidly secularizing culture, deconstructing isn’t a radical act. It’s just a normal thing that more and more people do. And it makes sense! Historic Christianity is an ever stranger, ever more fringe, ever more unwelcome thing in today’s world. Consider all the ways it subverts current norms in Western culture:

In a “believe in yourself” world, Christianity calls you to deny yourself (Matt. 16:24) and take up your cross (Luke 14:27).

In a “you do you” world that emphasizes expressive individualism, authenticity, and nonconformity, Christianity is about conforming to the likeness of Jesus (Rom. 8:29) and being imitators of God (Eph. 5:1).

In a consumerist and greedy culture, Christianity calls you to costly generosity (Luke 21:1–4) and a willingness to give up material possessions (Matt. 19:21; Luke 14:33).

In a self-oriented world of self-promotion, self-help, and selfies, Christianity calls you to be an others-focused servant (Phil. 2:3–4; Gal. 6:2; Matt. 20:26–28).

In a world that says you should be free to do with your body whatever you wish, Christianity says you ought to glorify God with your body (1 Cor. 6:20).

In a sexually progressive culture that sanctions pretty much anything in the bedroom, as long as it’s consensual, Christianity says sex is intended for the covenantal union of one man and one woman (Gen. 2:24; Matt. 19:3–6; 1 Cor. 7:2).

In a world that privileges power, “winning,” and “best life” success, Christianity calls you to value weakness (2 Cor. 12:9–10).

In a partisan world in which thinking the worst of your enemies and trying to “own” them on social media is a way of life, Christianity calls you to the radical challenge of loving them (Matt. 5:44).

In a world that has normalized the discarding of unborn lives and the dehumanizing of others through racism, sexism, and xenophobia, Christianity insists all humans bear the image of God (Gen. 1:27) and are worthy of dignity and protection.

In a world fraught with division and tribal fragmentation, in which it’s easier than ever before to part ways with someone who differs from you, Christianity calls you to be reconciled (Eph. 2:11–22).

In a pluralistic world with a diversity of beliefs — in which “all roads lead to heaven” is a comforting thought — Christianity calls you to believe there is only one path to heaven: trusting in Jesus Christ (John 14:6).

In a world steeped in scientific rationalism, Christianity requires belief in the supernatural (a virgin conceiving a child, bodies resurrecting from the dead, people being miraculously healed, among many other examples).

None of this is easy to practice or believe. And the list could be much longer. There’s nothing comfortable about truly following Jesus. Those who say otherwise — or whose version of Christianity is conveniently custom-fit to their personal comfort (whether politics, music preferences, or sexual proclivities) — are deceiving themselves and harming the cause of Christ.

The reality is, to accept all the costs of true Christianity, to believe all it asserts, to go against the grain of the culture so dramatically — is incredibly difficult and a little weird. If Christians are labeled “freaks” for what they believe and practice in today’s world, it’s for good reason. We should not be surprised that few follow this narrow path (Matt. 7:13–14). We shouldn’t be shocked that deconversion announcements on Instagram are common.

Do you really want to be countercultural? Then don’t abandon Christianity. Stick with it.

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This article was adapted from Brett’s McCracken’s chapter in Before You Lose Your Faith: Deconstructing Doubt in the Church (The Gospel Coalition, 2021).

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