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336 Sermon Illustrations on Forgiveness

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Forgiveness in Christian preaching centers on releasing resentment and extending grace as God does to us, fostering reconciliation and peace among believers (Ephesians 4:32). Illustrations often depict forgiveness as a transformative act—like forgetting offenses, softening enemies, or offering fragrant grace after injury—that requires humility, continual commitment, and a willingness to overcome bitterness and jealousy (Colossians 3:13).

Old-Year Memories

Remembering good deeds and forgiving faults helps us leave the past’s pain behind.

Let us forget the things that vext and tried us, The worrying things that caused our souls to fret; The hopes that, cherished long, were still denied us Let us forget.

Let us forget the little slights that pained us, The greater wrongs that rankle sometimes yet; The pride with which some lofty one disdained us Let us forget.

Let us forget our brother’s fault and failing, The yielding to temptation that beset, That he perchance, tho grief be unavailing, Can not forget.

But blessings manifold, past all deserving, Kind words and helpful deeds, a countless throng, The fault o’ercome, the rectitude unswerving, Let us remember long.

The sacrifice of love, the generous giving, When friends were few, the hand-clasp warm and strong, The fragrance of each life of holy living, Let us remember long.

Whatever things were good and true and gracious, Whate’er of right has triumphed over wrong, What love of God or man has rendered precious, Let us remember long.

So, pondering well the lessons it has taught us, We tenderly may bid the year “Good-by,” Holding in memory the good it brought us, Letting the evil die. (Text.)

--SUSAN E. GAMMON, _Christian Advocate_.

from Cyclopedia of Illustrations for Public Speakers · Robert Scott and William C. Stiles

Reminders, Unpleasant

Removing tattoos symbolizes cleansing from past sins and receiving God's forgiveness.

The man in the following incident underwent a painful operation to remove marks that reminded him of unpleasant things. There is a promise of greater blessing from one who said, “Tho your sins be as scarlet they shall be white as snow.”

Dr. Berchon was consulted by a rich man who asked him to remove a tattooed design that had been made in his youth and doubtless reminded him constantly of his humble beginnings. Berchon, a well-read man, used the ancient method of Crito, described by Paul of Ægina. Crito washed the tattooed part with niter and then enveloped it in resin, which was allowed to remain several days to soften the skin. The design was then scraped with a sharp instrument, the wound was washed and rubbed with salt, after which a sort of plaster was applied, consisting of frankincense, nitrate of potash, lye, lime, wax, and honey. Several days later the marks disappeared. (Text.)--_La Nature._

from Cyclopedia of Illustrations for Public Speakers · Robert Scott and William C. Stiles repentancegrace

Rescue

Lincoln and Lee showed no resentment toward enemies, exemplifying Christian forgiveness and character.

See KONGO MISSIONARY; LISTENING FOR SIGNALS.

RESENTMENT, FREE FROM

A writer in the _Saturday Evening Post_ speaks thus concerning Lincoln and Lee:

On several occasions I heard him speak most feelingly of the defamation heaped upon him by the South, but never did he exhibit the semblance of resentment. More than once I have heard him say: “If these people only knew us better it would be well for both of us.” He always spoke of them as “these people,” as did General Robert E. Lee, who in personal intercourse usually referred to the Union army when in front of him as “these people.” His last order to Longstreet before Pickett’s charge at Gettysburg was: “These people are there and they must be driven away.” Both of these great characters of our Civil War are now remembered, and will be remembered for all time, as having never uttered a sentence of resentment relating to their opponents in the war.

Survival Of The Fittest

Quick forgiveness restores relationships and prevents unnecessary conflict.

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The people who make it their chief business in life to see that they are not imposed upon very frequently wrong others in their over-eagerness to maintain their rights. The following incident has a valuable lesson for all impulsive folk who are also a little inclined to suspect the motives of other people.

A countryman, says an exchange, came into a village store with a very angry demeanor. “Look here,” he began sharply, “I bought a paper of nutmegs here yesterday, and when I got home I found ’em mor’n half walnuts. And there is the young villain I bought ’em of,” he added, pointing to the proprietor’s son.

“John,” said the father, “did you sell this man walnuts for nutmegs?”

“No, sir,” was the ready response.

“You needn’t lie about it,” exclaimed the farmer, still further enraged by the young man’s assurance.

“Now, look here,” said John, with a good-natured smile, “if you had taken the trouble to weigh your nutmegs, you would have found that I put walnuts in extra.

“Oh, you gave them to me, did you?” asked the man in a somewhat mollified tone.

“Yes, sir; I threw in a handful for the children.”

“Well, if you ain’t a good one!” the man remarked, with restored good humor. “An’ here I’ve been making an idiot of myself. Just put me up a pound of tea, will ye. I’ll stop and weigh things next time.”

from Cyclopedia of Illustrations for Public Speakers · Robert Scott and William C. Stiles

Raise Your Left Foot

Mark 1:40

During his first days at West Point, Randall Fewel tried hard to achieve a perfect room inspection, and one morning he thought he had succeeded. With white gloves on, the company commander checked every corner of the room, and the gloves came away clean. He was feeling proud of himself. But then the commander said, "Raise your left foot, mister!" and ran a gloved finger along the sole of his shoe.

from Reader's Digest · Randall L. Fewel via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database forgiveness

Why Doesn't God Just Forgive Us?

Why doesn't God just forgive us? Why do we need Christ's death on the cross?

These questions raise issue of the gravity of our sin, the holiness of our God, and the distinctions between him and us. It's a collision between divine perfection and human rebellion. God is love, but his love is holy.

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from "The Cross Of Christ" · John R. W. Stott via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database cross

The Creative Power of Forgiveness

John 20:23

Illustration - father was discriminated against by wealthy family. That family went broke; a son came to father asking for job. He gave it to him when he could have gotten revenge.

"I am convinced that forgiveness is one of the untapped - and least understood - sources of healing power. Essentially, it involves a decision to abandon the impulse to get even. Though the idea may seem passive to some, genuine forgiveness is a positive act that requires enormous spiritual strength."

Young man, Tom, was short-tempered, couldn't hold down jobs. Problem was an alcoholic father who had belittled boy in front of family and friends. Therapist got him to see reason for problem, but couldn't get him to soften his attitude toward others. His pastor suggested he forgive his dad. Together they knelt and prayed. Tom felt a remarkable newness and strength stir inside him. Saw dad next day. "Dad, last night I asked God to help me forgive you. I think maybe it worked." His father began to cry and embraced him. Remarkable transformation occurred over next several months. Got high marks in computer class, became a loving, gentle father. Therapist said he was more in charge of his emotions and his life.

Forgiveness involves a paradox. "It looks contradictory to our self-interest to let go of wrongs," says therapist Donald Hope, "but most of those who hurt us are people we are closest to - parents, siblings, spouses, friends. Trying to get even only leads to a vicious circle of retaliation. In the long run, forgiveness is the best choice for the forgiver - and the forgiven."

Greatest challenge to forgiveness is betrayal. Most difficult to forgive is marital infidelity. Nan, a Chicago lawyer, stunned to find Jack had a brief affair at a convention. She wanted a divorce. Friend told her to consider forgiveness. Nan was not very affectionate and had been absorbed in her career. Jack's affair may have been an attempt to get recognition as a person in his own right. She thought about it, tried to forgive Jack but couldn't find the words. Finally was able to talk about it. He responded with honesty and deep regret. Result was forgiveness and new happiness for both.

Not forgiving an infidelity frequently cause sexual problems, according to New York psychiatrist Avodah Offit. Unresolved anger and the desire for revenge are often expressed through impotence or lack of sexual desire. "Again and again, I find that forgiveness is a crucial milestone in the therapeutic process."

Pretend to forgive your mate. (Fake it.) Use nothing but warm words, praise, for a week. Atmosphere usually changes, dialogue can begin, leading to real forgiveness.

Examination - psychological and spiritual - is essential to forgiveness. Too many counselors urge forgiveness as a hasty cure-all, instead of exploring what has happened and why. Worse, they urge "forgive and forget," which is impossible. Forgiveness works best when the hurt person has had time to face anger, to recognize own contributions to the debacle and to realize the consequences of a refusal to forgive. Not forgiving can gnaw on a person - depriving of sleep, upsetting digestion, causing high blood pressure. But when we forgive, we often experience a gigantic turn-around, a cleansing that could be called rebirth.

Creative power of forgiveness - Thomas Jefferson and John Adams. Jefferson defeated Adams in election, Adams took it personally. "You have turned me out! You have turned me out!" They didn't speak to each other for eleven years. Friends visited old, bitter Adams, who said, "I always loved Jefferson and I still love him." Friends told Jefferson, who told a mutual friend to tell Adams of his "affections." Adams responded with a letter, and they began the greatest correspondence in American history.

At its best, forgiveness is done for the very sake of those who have trespassed against us. Then we see forgiveness at its most powerful - renewing friendships, marriages and careers. Therapist Hope - "In ways I am only beginning to understand, forgiveness can make meaningful again the wisdom embedded in religious faith."

Buswell On Forgiveness

Quotes on forgiveness from C.S. Lewis, James Buswell, Calvin.

Buswell: "All forgiveness, human and divine, is in the very nature of the case vicarious, substitutional.... No one ever really forgives another, except he bears the penalty of the other's sin against him."

from Discipleship Journal via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database

When Forgiveness Comes Hard

Author had been put down continually by his father while growing up. Was hard to forgive him. Used many wrong strategies till he gave in to biblical truth.

1. When forgiveness comes hard.

2. Divine forgiveness.

3. In the wake of an injury.

a. reaction

b. evaluation

4. Blind forgiveness. (doesn't work)

c. decision

d. action

e. result

5. Expectant forgiveness.

6. Mark of true forgiveness. (infinitely, totally, 490 x, like Joseph

forgave brothers and Jacob forgave Esau)

7. Path to forgiveness.

(Following article is a prayer by Peter Marshall for release from resentment.)

from Discipleship Journal · David Brewer via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database anger

The Ultimate Betrayal

Job 21:25

Eight-month pregnant woman finds out husband is having an affair. Both are Christians, as is the woman he is involved in. She feels she has suffered from the ultimate betrayal, but does not want to end up bitter. She decides to forgive and in a few years achieves it. In the end she is able to help other women who are going through divorces.

from Discipleship Journal · Suzanne Miller as told to Ruth Senter via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database forgiveness

What Comes After Forgiveness?

Luke 15:11

What comes after forgiveness? 6 questions on the context of forgiveness, like how to treat the offending person.

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from Discipleship Journal via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database

Dad, I Have AIDS

Luke 15:11

(Issue contains several articles on AIDS)

Kent Cederberg called his father to tell him he had AIDS. Father Sven said, "Kent, have you worked this through with God? How do you stand with the Lord?" "That's all worked out," Kent said. "I asked him to forgive me and I know he has." "When God forgives, Kent, he forgets, and I can do no less. You don't have to tell me any of the details. I just want you to know that I love you."

One telephone conversation with his father was exceptionally special. Searching for a way to express his love, Sven said, "Kent, remember the story of the prodigal son? Focus on the father. He loved his son so much. When he saw him coming home, he didn't care what had happened. He didn't care if his son was clean or dirty. He just ran and threw his arms around him because he was home again. His son was home. I'm that father. That's us, and we love you." In the following days, Kent studied the parable in depth and the love of his heavenly Father. He was overwhelmed.

Kent Cederberg died May 26, 1987, age 24. The doctor arrived to confirm the death. "Doc," Sven said, "he's with the Lord. Do you have any sons, Doctor?" "Yes, two." "Go home and love them. Raise them in the Lord. Our son's with the Lord." The doctor's eyes welled up with tears. He left the room, forgetting to sign the death certificate, and Sven prayed, "Thank you, Lord, for speaking to the first person that entered the room after his death. Kent would have wanted that."

When You Begin To Practice This One, I'll Preach Another One

Luke 6:37

Since this is my third sermon on forgiveness in the last few months, I feel like the preacher who was being considered to be the pastor of another church. The pulpit committee heard him preach such a fantastic sermon that he was called immediately to the church.

Strangely enough, the first Sunday on the field, he preached that same sermon. The committee members wondered a little, but didn't say anything.

The second Sunday, after the new preacher had visited in the community all week, he preached the same sermon again. That caused quite a stir, but still the leaders kept quiet.

After the third Sunday of hearing the same sermon, however, the deacons called an emergency meeting. They said, “Now, preacher, we liked that sermon fine, but we've heard it four times already! Don't you have any other sermons? When are you going to preach something else?”

“Well,” the preacher replied, “I do have other messages, but you folks haven't done anything about this one yet. When you begin to practice this one, I'll preach another one.”

He was right. If a message isn't put into practice, it's worthless.

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from Kerux Sermon #21997 · Rev. Miles Wesner via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database

Barriers To Forgiveness

John 16:8

Sermon #6 in 50 Day Spiritual Adventure. 1 John 1:5-10

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BARRIERS TO FORGIVENESS

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I. Encountering barriers.

A. Barriers can be tough.

B. Theme this week is accepting God's grace and forgiveness.

C. Barrier-free access.

II. Denial of sin. 1 Jn 1:8

A. Forms of denial.

B. Justifying ourselves spiritually.

C. We justify in order to protect ourselves.

D. Conviction of the Holy Spirit. John 16:8

III. Confession of sin. 1 Jn 1:9

A. It is hard to confess our failure to God.

B. Confession has benefits.

C. God knows our limits.

IV. Accept forgiveness. Matthew 6:12-15

A. The barrier of not forgiving ourselves.

B. Walking in the light. 1 Jn 1:7

C. Other side: Forgive those who have hurt us.

V. Barriers can be overcome.

from Condensed sermon outline (handout) by Rev. David Holwick · Serm96j.pco via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database

Tormented With Guilt

Luke 13:4

True story of man who got into argument with wife, stormed out to car, roared out of driveway and ran over his 3-year-old son, killing him. Man was tormented with guilt.

(Cannot pinpoint source.)

from ? via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database forgiveness

Better Shred Than Read

Job 14:16

"Modern Office Technology" recently printed a squib about the savvy owner of a document shredding service on the East Coast who has a real knack for attracting customers. He simply roots through trash bags collected from the local dump by two young helpers, finds several pieces of sensitive correspondence and sends them to their places of origin with a note that says: "Should I be reading this material? If not, why did your company make it public by throwing it away in one piece?" It's not surprising that in most cases, he gets a response within 24 hours.

God shreds our sins, so that no one can accuse us of them.

from Quill Pen Pal via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database

By Lillian Eichler Watson

John 12

The prayer of Saint Francis of Assisi:

Lord, make me an instrument of your peace;

Where there is hatred, let me sow love;

Where there is injury, pardon;

Where there is doubt, faith;

Where there is despair, hope;

Where there is darkness, light;

And where there is sadness, joy.

O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek

to be consoled, as to console;

To be understood, as to understand;

To be loved, as to love;

For it is in giving that we receive,

It is in pardoning that we are pardoned.

And it is in dying that we are born to eternal life. Amen.

from "Light From Many Lamps" · St. Francis of Assisi via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database forgivenesshope

Remember the Duck!

Luke 12:3

Richard Hoefler’s book “Will Daylight Come” includes this homey story:

A little boy visiting his grandparents was given his first slingshot. He practiced in the woods, but he could never hit his target. As he came back to Grandma’s backyard, he spied her pet duck. On impulse he took aim and let fly. The stone hit and the duck fell dead.

The boy panicked. Desperately he hid the dead duck in the woodpile, only to look up and see his sister Sally watching. Sally had seen it all, but said nothing. After lunch that day, Grandma said, “Sally, let’s wash the dishes.” But Sally said, “Johnny told me he wanted to help in the kitchen today. Didn’t you, Johnny?” She quickly whispered, “Remember the duck!” So Johnny did the dishes.

Later Grandpa asked if the children wanted to go fishing. Grandma said, “I’m sorry, but I need Sally to help make supper.” Sally smiled and said, “That’s all taken care of. Johnny wants to do it.” And again the whisper, “Remember the duck!” Johnny stayed while Sally went fishing.

After several days of doing both his chores and Sally’s, he couldn’t stand it. He confessed to Grandma that he killed the duck. “I know, Johnny,” she said, giving him a hug. “I saw the whole thing. I was angry, but because I love you, I forgave you. I was just wondering how long you would let Sally make a slave of you.”

Johnny, by way of his Grandmother, learned something of God’s grace that day. God’s grace is not earned, but it is given: freely, simply and abundantly. We can seek it, even expect it, but we are not in a position to demand it.

[also found in Leadership, Fall 1983, p.86]

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from (Sermon by Rev. Scott D. Brown, Colts Neck Reformed Church, 6/28/87) · Richard Hoefler via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database gracepersecutionconfession

Forgiveness Is Worthwhile

Luke 15

An elderly man on the beach found a magic lamp. He picked it up and a genie appeared. "Because you have freed me," the genie said, "I will grant you a wish." The man thought for a moment and then responded, "My brother and I had a fight 30 years ago and he hasn't spoken to me since. I wish that he'll finally forgive me."

There was a thunderclap, and the genie declared, "Your wish has been granted. You know," the genie continued, "most men would have asked for wealth or fame. But you only wanted the love of your brother. Is it because you are old and dying?"

"No way!" the man cried. "But my brother is, and he's worth about $60 million."

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from Reader's Digest · Joan C. Brown via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database greedreconciliation

The Gate Miphkad!

When Dwight Lyman Moody died on December 22, 1899, Reuben Archer Torrey was Superintendent of the Moody Bible Institute and pastor of the Chicago Avenue Church (now Moody Church), both founded under the leadership and direction of the dynamic Moody. Thomas DeWitt Talmage, the fiery pulpiteer and author/editor, had just retired from his pastorate of the First Presbyterian Church in Washington, D.C.

Unknown to most people, the two men - both with dominant, unbending personal- ities - had experienced a falling out some time previously. When Talmage learned of Moody's death, and knowing that his mantle would fall on Torrey, he immediately sat down and penned the latter a note. In it, he expressed regret for being such a poor Christian as to allow their differences to separate them for years, confessed his own fault in the matter, and begged Torrey's forgiveness. No one else, apparently, knew about it.

Years later, when J. Vernon McGee was pastor of the Church of the Open Door in Los Angeles, where Torrey had gone after leaving the work in Chicago, he found Talmage's letter in an old file and reported it on his nationwide radio program, "Thru the Bible." We assume Torrey accepted the apology and made one of his own, so both got it taken care of prior to the Bema Seat. At least Talmage, we know, got his part settled here rather than there.

Perhaps there is something in your life that needs attention immediately, judging yourself so you won't be judged.

Forgiveness

In "A Forgiving God in an Unforgiving World," Ron Lee Davis retells the true story of a priest in the Philippines, a much-loved man of God who carried the burden of a secret sin he had committed many years before. He had repented but still had no peace, no sense of God's forgiveness.

In his parish was a woman who deeply loved God and who claimed to have visions in which she spoke with Christ and he with her. The priest, however, was skeptical. To test her he said, "The next time you speak with Christ, I want you to ask him what sin your priest committed while he was in seminary." The woman agreed.

A few days later the priest asked, "Well, did Christ visit you in your dreams?"

"Yes, he did," she replied.

"And did you ask him what sin I committed in seminary?"

"Yes."

"Well, what did he say?"

"He said, 'I don't remember.'"

What God forgives, he forgets.

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from Leadership · David H. Bolton, Anaheim, California via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database guiltforgiveness

To Forgive Is Divine

Matthew 6:14

Pulpit Exchange Sunday Holy Wisdom Church (Byzantine Catholic)

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TO FORGIVE IS DIVINE

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Matthew 6:14-15

I. Are you a forgiving person?

A. Forgiveness is easy - in the abstract.

B. Are you a forgiving person? A test:

II. Forgiveness is hard, but unforgiveness is even harder.

A. Physical and psychological effects of bitterness.

B. Application to Bosnia - TV report on hatred being implanted

C. Forgiveness causes pain, but spares later pain.

III. Is forgiveness a matter of tit-for-tat?

A. Sounds like our forgiveness buys God's forgiveness. Matt 6:15

B. God's forgiveness does not depend on ours.

IV. How God forgives.

A. He forgets as well as forgives.

B. He forgives completely, and not just in part.

V. How we can forgive others.

A. God can help us forgive. Matthew 18:35

B. Bear in mind the other person may be unaware.

C. Take a small first step. (Swallow your pride)

D. Don't expect miracles overnight.

VI. Our forgiveness communicates the gospel in a powerful way.

from Condensed sermon outline (handout) by Rev. David Holwick · Serm93h.pco via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database

I Want Him To Pay Even More

In 1994 a former pre-med student, Edward Summers, hijacked a jeep near a Nyack, NY, mall. He forced the two young men out of the vehicle, had them lay down in the snow, and shot them both in the back of the head. Michael Falcone died. Scott Nappi survived to point out the attacker in court. Summers was sentenced to 70 years to life in prison.

Scott Nappi says his life has been changed irreparably. Friends and family avoid him. He told the reporter he wanted to know about his attacker’s fate in prison. “Has he been threatened? Has he been beaten up yet? I want to know if he’s suffering yet. That’s what I’d really like. I don’t want him to go there and not be threatened. He’s paying for what he did, but I want him to pay even more.”

The reporter asked Nappi, “Can you see a time when you would ever forgive him?” “No, never. Never. Never, never.”

from Channel 2, C. B. S. Local New York News via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database forgivenesscrimemurder

Sermon: the Gift of Forgiveness

Genesis 50:14

Sermon at Temple Shalom, Succasunna, New Jersey. Genesis 50:14-21

THE GIFT OF FORGIVENESS

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I. Forgiveness doesn't make sense.

A. Those who agreed with Wiesenthal's actions had several reasons.

B. Forgiveness is unnatural, unfair, and illogical.

II. Why we need forgiveness.

A. Sin creates barriers.

B. Forgiveness is the only solution.

C. Joseph and his brothers. Genesis 50:14-21

III. The ability to forgive comes from God.

A. Forgiveness and reconciliation defy human reason.

B. In the final analysis, forgiveness is an act of faith.

C. God's character must become our character.

IV. Forgiveness is not automatic.

A. God does not have to forgive, and often does not.

B. The human response is repentance.

C. Wrong does not disappear when we forgive.

V. One person at a time.

from Condensed sermon outline (handout) by Rev. David Holwick · Serm95zz.pco via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database

Forgive God?

Luke 23:34

Christianity Today article on forgiving God.

I. Does God need to be forgiven?

A. Forgiveness presupposes wrongdoing, which God is incapable of.

1) Bible teaches that God is sinless.

B. Yet we often find God guilty of "lapsing" when we face tragedies.

II. Forgiveness is totally against human nature.

A. We seek revenge.

B. God encourages, indeed requires, us to forgive. Eph 4:32

1) He also calls on us to forget. Jer 31:34

2) Required for full forgiveness.

III. Our forgiveness can be like God's.

A. It's evidence that we're made in his image.

B. Our forgiveness is not God's.

1) God not only forgives, he cleanses.

2) We cannot.

C. Forgiving cleanses us.

1) It erases memories that eat at us.

2) Perceived wrongs against us are as pernicious at the

real thing.

IV. Forgiving God.

A. We sometimes perceive wrongs done by God to us.

1) "Why?"

B. We can forgive God for these "perceived" wrongs.

C. It is for our benefit, not God's.

from Christianity Today magazine · V. Gilbert Beers via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database revenge

Forgiveness Is An Unnatural Act

Luke 23:34

Forgiveness is unnatural, but necessary. It must come from God.

I. Forgiveness is difficult.

A. Memories linger.

B. Forgiveness is UNNATURAL.

1) It is blantantly unfair.

C. Story of Joseph and his brothers. Genesis 42-45

1) Joseph swings from harshness to blubbering sorrow.

2) He finally forgives them.

a) The sounds of his grief and love mingle together.

II. Forgiveness is against all instincts.

A. Animals don't forgive predators. (sharks and dolphins)

1) Dogs eat dogs.

2) Nations and economies operate on this principle.

3) Freud: "One must forgive one's enemies, but not before

they've been hanged."

B. Christianity is suffused with forgiveness.

1) Lord's prayer.

2) Best-known saying of Jesus:"Forgive your enemies."

a) Seems suicidal.

b) Hard enough to forgive rotten brothers.

III. Why forgiveness is so central to our faith.

A. It is the only way to break the cycle of blame - and pain -

in relationships.

1) "Karma" provides a more satisfying sense of fairness.

a) (6,800,000 incarnations are required.)

b) Example of marriage ruined by a bar of soap.

2) Forgiveness doesn't settle all questions of blame.

a) It often evades those questions.

b) But it allows relationships to start over.

c) Only humans can forgive, and develop relationships that

transcend the law of nature.

3) Forgiveness is tit-for-tat.

a) Blame is this way, and so is forgiveness.

b) We would not want to get caught up in such a cycle with

God.

B. Loosening the stranglehold of guilt.

1) First official act of free parliament in East Germany was

to ask for forgiveness of Jews.

a) It did not bring any Jews back to life.

b) But it helped to loosen the stranglehold of guilt.

2) "Les Miserables."

a) Double-edged - Valjean learns forgiveness, detective

does not.

3) Forgiveness transforms individuals, both forgivers and

forgiven.

a) Joseph's tears were a sign of liberation.

b) Jesus led Peter through a ritual of forgiveness.Jn 21:15f

C. Bridging the gap.

1) Forgiveness puts both parties on the same side.

a) Through it we realize we are not that much different.

2) In Incarnation, God puts self on our side. Heb 4:15; 2 Co 5:21

a) Forgiveness is not easy for God, either.

b) Words from the cross: "They know not what they do."

IV. Resolving the unfairness.

A. At its core, forgiveness remains unfair.

1) It is unjust to let dastardly deeds go unpunished.

B. In the final analysis, forgiveness is an act of faith. Rom 12:19

1) We trust that God is a better justice maker than us.

2) We defer to him.

C. Wrong does not disappear when we forgive.

1) But it loses its grip on us, and is taken over by God.

2) He knows what to do.

from Christianity Today magazine · Philip Yancey via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database revengejustice

Feeding Your Enemy

Luke 7:37

Forgiveness is a gift that can reconcile relationships.

I. True forgiveness not only cancels debt, it challenges to repent

and be reconciled.

A. There is much confusion about forgiveness.

B. God's command to forgive, turn other cheek, is costly.

II. What is forgiveness?

A. God's forgiveness is a passionate movement of strength and

mercy toward us, the offenders.

B. He cancels our debt, which provides an opportunity for:

1) Repentance.

2) Restoration of the broken relationship.

III. A forgiving heart knows how much it has been forgiven.

A. A forgiving heart reveals God's character. Luke 7:47

B. The kind of faith that allows forgiveness:

1) A true view of ourselves.

2) A true view of God.

IV. A forgiving heart yearns for reconciliation.

A. Reconciliation is costly for both sides.

1) The offended has to cancel the debt.

2) The offender has to repent.

a) Reconciliation is never one-sided.

B. Conditions for forgiveness?

1) Contradicts Jesus' other teachings.

2) We are to forgive, irrespective of other's response.

3) Restoration and peace, however, depend on their repentance.

a) Cheap forgiveness is not true forgiveness.

V. A forgiving heart works to destroy sin.

A. Offer food and drink to an enemy.

B. The enemy will always respond - one way or the other.

VI. Offer the gift of forgiveness.

A. Forgiveness involves deep questions.

B. Often, both see their sin, and renew the relationship.

from Discipleship Journal · Dan Allender via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database reconciliation

The Freedom of Forgiveness

Luke 7:37

Forgiveness is costly and there are barriers to overcome.

I. Confession is imperative to receiving forgiveness.

A. Young girl Jean felt unforgiven by God, was withdrawn.

B. God forgives and forgets our sin.

C. New thought patterns bring transformation.

II. The flip side of forgiveness.

A. We are commanded to forgive others.

B. The unforgiving servant.

C. When we forgive we are conformed to the image of Christ.

III. The cost of forgiving.

A. Forgiving is not easy, but costly.

1) Forgiving cost God his only Son.

2) (Author's husband fired, forgiveness cost her emotionally)

B. The cost of not forgiving.

1) Unforgiving ones go to hell.

2) Unforgiveness leads to emotional torment.

a) (examples of molested women)

IV. Barriers to forgiveness.

A. Those with a poor self-image use wrongs to get attention.

B. Some need to control others to feel significant.

C. Others feel some sins are beyond forgiveness.

1) (Joseph forgave his hateful family)

D. Forgiving, but not forgetting.

1) Remember past offenses so you don't commit same acts.

2) Only God can forget sin.

3) Christ can heal the pain. Isa 61:1-3

E. The choice is ours.

from Discipleship Journal · Ruth Collins Server via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database reconciliation

The Holocaust & Ethnic Cleansing

Luke 7:47

Forgiveness is illogical and unjust, but the only alternative to endless bloodshed and hatred.

I. "The Sunflower" by Simon Wiesenthal.

A. SS soldier Karl asks for forgiveness.

B. 30 troops had been killed by booby traps in Dnyepropetrovsk,

Ukraine, and so 300 Jews where herded into a three-story

building and set ablaze.

"I am left here with my guilt," Karl concluded at last." In the

last hours of my life you are with me. I do not know who you are,

I know only that you are a Jew and that is enough. I know that

what I have told you is terrible. In the long nights while I have

been waiting for death, time and time again I have longed to talk

about it to a Jew and beg forgiveness from him. Only I didn't know

whether there were any Jews left.... I know what I am asking is

almost too much for you, but without your answer I cannot die in

peace." Simon Wiesenthal, an architect in his early twenties, now

a prisoner dressed in a shabby uniform marked with the yellow Star

of David, felt the entire weight of his race bearing down on him.

He stared out the window at the sunlit courtyard. He looked at

the eyeless heap of bandages lying in the bed." At last I made up

my mind," he writes, "and without a word I left the room."

A. Haunted by the hospital scene, he asked 32 people of various

faiths and backgrounds to comment.

"What would you have done in my place?" he asked.

"Did I do right?"

1) Out of 32 writers, only 6 said he had done wrong.

2) He had no authority to forgive on behalf of others.

3) The crimes were too enormous to be forgiven.

a) "Let the SS man die unshriven. Let him go to hell."

4) The whole concept of forgiveness is wrong.

a) It is merely an act of sensual pleasure.

II. Unforgiveness has a terrible, crystalline logic.

A. In a world of unspeakable atrocity, forgiveness seems

unjust, unfair, irrational.

1) Philosopher Herbert Marcuse said, "One cannot, and should

not, go around happily killing and torturing and then,

when the moment has come, simply ask, and receive,

forgiveness."

B. There is conflict between justice and forgiveness in Christianity.

1) Some, like Luther, assign justice to Caesar and forgiveness

to the church (and individuals).

2) Is it too much to expect high ethical ideas to be transferred

to the brutal world of politics and diplomacy?

III. Comparisons with Bosnia.

A. Forgiveness has one thing going for it - it is the alternative.

1) Where unforgiveness reigns, essayist Lance Morrow has pointed

out, a Newtonian law comes into play:For every atrocity

there must be an equal and opposite atrocity.

2) Serbs are following the terrible logic of unforgiveness.

a) The Nazis tried to "cleanse" the Serbs in WWII.

b) Serbs kill tens of thousands; Croats killed hundreds of

thousands.

3) One major flaw in the inexorable law of revenge: it never

settles the score.

a) The Turks got revenge in 1389, at the Battle of Kesovo;

the Croats got it in the 1940s, now it's our turn, say

the Serbs.

b) If everyone were to follow the "eye for an eye" principle

of justice, said Gandhi, the whole world would go

blind.

c) "As long as you cling to 'justice' you will never be

guiltless of injustice... In reality, insistence on

justice is servitude. Only forgiveness frees us from

the injustice of others." Theologian Romano Guardini

B. Examples of law of unforgiveness in history:

1) "Godfather" trilogy.

2) IRA bombings because of atrocities committed by Cromwell.

3) Republics of Soviet Union.(Chechnya)

4) Iran's plea for apology from President Carter.

IV. Forgiveness in the arena of nations.

A. Germany and reparations to Israel. East Germany followed.

B. 1983 mass by Pope John Paul II in Warsaw, with throngs of

worshippers passing the Communist party's Central Committee

Building and chanting in unison, "We forgive you! We forgive

you!"

C. Civil War in America. Tecumseh Sherman and "scorched earth."

D. Racism in America shows that forgiveness in itself does not

undo injustice. Yet blacks voted for George Wallace.

V. Forgiveness focuses on individual, personal acts.

A. The cure, like a vaccine, must be applied one person at a time.

1) Martin Luther King, Jr., in Birmingham jail.

2) Corrie Ten Boom.

3) John Paul II went into the bowels of Rome's Rebibbia prison

to visit Mehmet Ali Agca, a hired assassin who had tried

to kill him and nearly succeeded. "I forgive you," said

the Pope, as video cameras whirred.

4) There will be no escape until our hearts are changed.

B. The Pope is an image of one who did not survive an

assassination - Jesus.

1) Pilate, soldiers, etc, were "just doing their job,"

similar to excuse of Nazis.

2) The Cross put an end to the law of eternal consequences.

3) The leap from personal forgiveness to corporate forgiveness

crosses a deep chasm.We need only to look at Christian

history after the Cross.

C. Forgiveness can be a powerful weapon in the making of peace.

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from Christianity Today magazine · Philip Yancey via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database justiceguiltrevenge

Forgiveness: the Power To Change the Past

Mark 11:25

True story of Corrie ten Boom, Christian inmate of a Nazi death camp.

She was stuck for the war years in a concentration camp, humiliated and degraded. This was especially true in the delousing shower where the women were ogled by the leering guards. But she made it through that hell. And eventually she felt she had, by grace, forgiven even those fiends who guarded the shower stalls.

So she preached forgiveness, for individuals, for all of Europe. She preached it in Bloemendaal, in the United States, and, one Sunday, in Munich. After the sermon, greeting people, she saw a man come toward her, hand outstretched: “Ja, Fraulein, it is wonderful that Jesus forgives all our sins, just as you say.” She remembered his face; it was the leering, lecherous, mocking face of an SS guard of the shower stall.

Her hand froze at her side. She could not forgive. She thought she had forgiven all. But she could not forgive when she met a guard, standing in the solid flesh in front of her. Ashamed, horrified at herself, she prayed: “Lord, forgive me, I cannot forgive.” And as she prayed she felt forgiven, accepted, in spite of her shabby performance as a famous forgiver.

Her hand was suddenly unfrozen. The ice of hate melted. Her hand went out. She forgave as she felt forgiven. And she was probably not able to sort out the difference.

from Christianity Today magazine · Lewis B. Smedes via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database

Forgiven, But Not Forgiving?

Mark 9:22

Reasons why people don't forgive, and why we should.

I. Forgiving opens us up to being hurt again and again.

A. Jesus put no limits on forgiving.

B. He made it a lifestyle.

II. Four basic attitudes associated with forgiveness.

A. "I won't."

1) The unmerciful servant refused to forgive. Matt 18:30

2) If we won't, God won't.

3) The resulting isolation can drive us to forgive.

B. "I can't."

1) Some feel they have been too hurt to forgive.

2) An unforgiving spirit cannot grow spiritually.

3) It takes much energy to maintain a bitter heart.

C. "I don't want to."

1) This may be most honest response, and is usually conscious.

2) We cannot love if we cannot forgive.

D. "I'm willing."

1) God does not condemn an unforgiving heart. [Holwick - I am not so sure of this]

2) Anything is possible for him who believes. Mark 9:22f

III. Moving through the process of healing.

A. God forgives us, so we should forgive others.

B. Chuck Swindoll: "The extent to which you can envision God's

forgiveness of you, to that same measure you will be given

the capacity to forgive others."

from Discipleship Journal · Gloria Chisholm via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database

Forgive: Or Else

Matthew 6:12

Sermon in Lord's Prayer series. "Forgiveness trespasses of others."

Matthew 6:12,14-15

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FORGIVE: OR ELSE

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I. Forgiveness is unnatural, unfair, and illogical.

A. Animals don't forgive predators.

B. Justice demands that wrongs be punished.

II. Reasons why people don't forgive.

A. Forgiving opens us up to being hurt again and again.

B. Four basic attitudes associated with forgiveness.

C. Why we need forgiveness. Genesis 50:14-21

III. Forgiveness is not an option.

A. We HAVE to forgive others.

B. If we will not forgive, we are not Christians.

C. Forgive to be forgiven?

IV. The ability to forgive comes from God.

A. Forgiveness and reconciliation defy human reason.

B. In the final analysis, forgiveness is an act of faith.

C. This petition is for religious people.

V. God's character must become our character.

A. Our God is a gracious, forgiving God. Micah 7:18-19

B. We are never more like God than when we forgive.

C. The cure must be applied one person at a time.

from Condensed sermon outline (handout) by Rev. David Holwick · Serm96zh.pco via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database

Picking Up the Pieces

John 8:3

Relationships can survive adultery and be healed.

1) Choose to end the immoral relationship.

2) Begin the long grieving process.

3) Make a good repentance.

4) Sort out reasons for your failure.

5) Call a support network together and tell the truth.

6) Decide whether to tell your spouse.

7) Accept God's redeeming grace.

8) Go softly, walk humbly.

from Discipleship Journal · Donald M. Joy via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database forgivenessfamily

Learning To Savor the Love of God

The very sin that makes it so hard to believe we can be loved by God is the precondition for experiencing how stunning God's love really is.

from Discipleship Journal · John Piper via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database sinforgiveness

We Have A Need To Be Forgiven

Luke 7:40

James Boice was once talking to a Christian psychiatrist about the problem of forgiveness and the need people have for it. The psychiatrist said, “As far as I am concerned, most of what a psychiatrist does is directly related to forgiveness. People come to him with problems. They feel guilty about their part in these problems. They are seeking forgiveness. In effect, they confess their sins to the counselor and find that he forgives them. Then a pattern is set up in which they can show their change of heart in tangible ways toward the other person or persons.”

We have a great need to be forgiven by people. This is actually only a shadow of the far greater need we have to be forgiven by God.

The head of a large English mental hospital once said, “I could dismiss half my patients tomorrow if they could be assured of forgiveness.”

from The Sermon On The Mount · James Montgomery Boice via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database healingguilt

Guilt Can Be Paralyzing

John 14:18

Guilt can be paralyzing.

The movie “Joy Luck Club” is about the background of three Chinese girls. It is a true story. The mother was in China when the Communist revolution happened. She fled with her twin daughters in a carriage and was so exhausted, and suffering from pneumonia, that she felt she had no strength to go on. She put her babies under a tree with some jewelry, then went back on the road and collapsed. Someone took her to a hospital and she was later evacuated to the United States.

For rest of her life she lived in guilt. She spent days weeping in the middle of a room, catatonic. At the end of the movie she finds out her daughters had survived. She dies before meeting them, but her youngest daughter goes over to China to meet her half-siblings.

Guilt causes our lives to freeze, but God wants us free.

from Movie "Joy Luck Club" via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database forgiveness

Settled Forever

Job 40:4

After an evangelistic luncheon in suburban Chicago this spring, an elderly man slowly walked toward me. He introduced himself as a retired university professor once nominated for a Nobel Prize. I asked him, “Do you have eternal life, or are you still on the way?”

“When I was a boy, I had faith,” he answered, “and then I lost it. Now it’s too late. God will never take me back.”

“Professor, why do you say that?”

“Because I am so unworthy, that’s why. I’m so unworthy.”

I assured the professor that God could take away his guilt - even 40 years worth.

David wrote, after he had committed adultery and murder and a period of miserable silence, “When I kept silent, my bones wasted away through my groaning all day long. For day and night your hand was heavy upon me; my strength was sapped as in the heat of summer. Then I acknowledged my sin to you and did not cover my iniquity. I said, “I will confess my transgressions to the Lord” - and you forgave the guilt of my sin.” (Ps 32:3-5)

David found relief and happiness in knowing his transgressions were forgiven, his sins covered, and the Lord did not count his sin against him.

Sin needs to be taken care of. Either God covers it or we cover it up. There’s a big difference. As Rudyard Kipling said, “Nothing is ever settled until it’s settled right.” When God covers it, it’s settled forever.

Psalm 32 is a clear statement of the New Testament gospel. For troubled souls overwhelmed by their guilt, sin, and failure, few passafges in all of Scripture can give peace like this one. Offering assurance of forgiveness, Psalm 32 lets us know that God has set us free.

from Christianity Today magazine · Luis Palau via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database guilt

The Gift of Grace

Matthew 18:23

Sermon for pulpit exchange, on forgiveness. Matthew 18:23-35

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THE GIFT OF GRACE

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I. Would you be able to do this?

II. What's wrong with forgiveness.

A. It is unnatural.

B. It is unfair.

III. A little perspective helps. Matthew 18

A. A huge debt, an insurmountable dilemma, a stroke of grace.

B. Parable must go beyond human situation to Divine one.

C. What the parable is really about.

IV. The parable continues.

A. The table turns.

B. The response of the king.

C. Why is the king so forgiving, yet so ruthless?

V. How we can forgive others.

A. Forgiveness is hard, but unforgiveness is even harder.

B. God can help us forgive.

C. Forgiveness changes us.

VI. Have you experienced forgiveness?

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from Condensed sermon outline (handout) by Rev. David Holwick · Serm98g.pco via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database grace

They Forgave Their Children's Killer

True story of a tragic accident and the gracious, forgiving response by young parents.

It was September 9, 1981. Clark and Vicki Sheldon had just moved to this area [Ledgewood, New Jersey]. They were living out of a motel because they hadn't found a house. As they stopped at a red light on Route 46 in Dover, a station wagon barreled down on them at a high rate of speed. His license had been revoked. The second time. The driver had a long history of drug use, but he wasn't on drugs that day. Perhaps his mind was thinking about his crumbling marriage. No one will ever know.

What we do know is that his station wagon hit the Sheldon's car so hard they flipped over into the intersection. The hatchback flew open and their two young daughters were ejected. Very young - Katy was 2, and Lyndsi was 3. Both were killed.

The funeral service was held at Ledgewood Baptist. They didn't know anyone in town, but the accident was so tragic the church was packed. Everyone who was there remembers only one detail of the service, but they remember it perfectly. The Sheldons, both still recovering from injuries, got up and spoke to the congregation. They said they believed it was all part of God's plan. Just as their daughters used to bounce in the back seat of the car, they were now bouncing in heaven, with God was taking care of them.

And they wanted everyone there to forgive the young man for what had happened. They said they held no bad feelings for him. After the service, they got on with their lives.

The reaction of the people I have talked to was that the Sheldons must have been real Christians. And more than a little nuts. Several felt it was almost obscene to forgive their girls' killer.

What do you think? In their situation, what would YOU do? As a Christian, what SHOULD you do?

[At conclusion of message the illustration continued...]

About nine months later the state prosecuted the young man on the charge of “vehicular manslaughter.” It was the first time New Jersey had done this. In the end, the jury found him not guilty, but convicted him of “death by auto” instead. He served a year in prison and was released.

He told his sister-in-law that he had changed the things in himself that had caused the accident. He quit drugs, and changed his devil-may-care attitude. He goes to Alcoholics Anonymous three or four times a week. He also stops by the Dover Soup Kitchen and helps out, and talks to addicts at the Hope House.

His family was devastated and shamed by the accident. A year later, his father died of cancer. The relatives got tired of hiding, and decided to do what they could to get their good name back. The mother helps take care of quintuplets in the area. His sister-in-law got involved in community projects.

None of this will bring two little girls back to life. Only God can do this. When we forgive, we are announcing that we believe God is still in charge, that he will work things out in the end.

If you really believe in God, REALLY BELIEVE, you can extend the gift of grace, forgiveness, to those who wrong you. The Sheldons were not nuts. They just knew what it is all about.

from True Story · (Details by Marilyn Patterson, who witnessed the accident) via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database gracechangeredemptiontragedy

A Counter-Culture of Grace

Luke 6:37

In RECONCILERS, Spencer Perkins wrote:

"Daddy, come quick," shouted my four-year-old daughter. "Someone stole the presents from under the Christmas tree."

At first I thought that the children were playing a joke on me. But I could see quickly that they were visibly upset. Apparently someone had come into our house while we slept, picked out some choice presents, removed the blanket that covers my favorite chair, and used it to haul away about a dozen or so gifts that were to be given to the children and to friends and family on Christmas morning.

To say that the children were angry would be an understatement. After my 11-year-old son, Johnathan, realized that among the gifts stolen were his brand new Nike sneakers, he stormed out of the house in tears.

I sat silent on my coverless chair, stunned and fuming. I had seen the children's Christmas special "How the Grinch Stole Christmas" dozens of times since childhood. But I never believed such a tale could come true. How do you forgive a person like this? How do I teach my children to practice forgiveness?

Because it is unnatural, we have to practice forgiveness, like any other discipline. According to Dr. King, "Forgiveness is not just an occasional act: it is a permanent attitude."

Later that day I put the question to my son. "How should we as Christians respond to the person who tried to steal our Christmas?"

"Yeah, yeah, I know, Dad," he said. "Even though he doesn't deserve it, we're supposed to give him grace."

Sure, I knew that the words that came out of his mouth were almost the complete opposite of what he was feeling in his heart (I knew because I felt the same way). But I also knew we had to start somewhere. And if, one step at a time, our discipleship as Christians could include giving each other grace, if our children could learn and practice forgiveness as well as they practice praise and worship, if we could literally create a counter-culture of grace, then just maybe, as we all mature in our faith, our hearts could finally line up with our words.

And the world would have to take notice.

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Copyright(c) 1998 by the author or Christianity Today, Inc./Leadership Journal. For reprint information call 630-260-6200 or e-mail LeaderJ@aol.com.

Fall 1998, Vol.XIX, No. 4, Page 67

from Online Leadership Journal ( America Online) · Spencer Perkins via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database gracereconciliationchristmas

At the Foot of the Cross

1 John 1:9

I didn't believe that God could ever forgive me. After all, I reasoned, I had years of sins that needed forgiving. Maybe if I tried hard enough to be a good person, perhaps then God might forgive me. Meanwhile, I was miserable in all my trying.

I grew up in an unchurched family. As a child, I attended two or three vacation Bible schools and went to church occasionally with a friend. During high school I was rarely invited to a church youth gathering, yet most of my friends were Christian.

It was my husband, Darrell, who introduced me to faith in Jesus Christ. While we were dating, he decided that if our relationship was to go any further, he needed to find out where I stood with the Lord. At that time, God was not part of my life, but I was extremely open. My sporadic church attendance had left me with many questions and no answers. I began going to church with Darrell just before our wedding.

Even after six years of regular church attendance, I was still very confused about how one receives salvation. If I had been asked whether I was forgiven for my sins, I would have been near tears when I answered, "I hope so." Constantly I came before Jesus on my knees asking forgiveness for my sins. Just as often I walked away without feeling forgiven.

If I had been asked whether I was forgiven for my sins, I would have been near tears when I answered, "I hope so."

Then one weekend our church was holding a workshop on evangelism, and Darrell asked me if I wanted to attend. I didn't. The thought of telling other people about a Jesus I felt I barely knew myself was terrifying. Darrell talked me into going, however, because it was a no-pressure workshop. I could learn about evangelism, but wouldn't be forced to go out and actually do it.

On the first day, the leader portrayed a regular person - a sinner - as he went through life. Every day he sinned, and each sin was added to the pack he carried on his back. He became increasingly bent over from their weight. After awhile, his sins so weighed him down that he was crawling.

The leader explained, "This is man's condition without Jesus Christ; his sins kept piling up on him . Because Jesus died to take away our sins, we don't have to be weighed down by sin like the man I portrayed." He crawled over to the cross in the room, took the pack off his back, and laid it at the foot of the cross, citing the Bible's words of assurance: "If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9). Then he stood up, turned, and walked away a free man.

It was all I could do to keep from crying; he had portrayed me! Every time I asked for forgiveness and laid my sins before Jesus, I didn't feel forgiven because I would pick up my pack again and try to walk away from the cross.

That night, in the privacy of my bedroom, I prayed asking Jesus to forgive all my sins and thanking Him for forgiving me. I laid them at His cross, turned, and walked away a free woman! That night I trusted Jesus as my Savior. Now I knew I was forgiven because I was no longer trying to do it on my own. I was unburdened from my sin.

I finished that workshop with an assurance of my salvation and forgiveness because I understood that my forgiveness was not dependent upon me. "For Christ died for sins once for all, the righteous for the unrighteous, to bring you to God" (1 Peter 3:18). I couldn't work for my forgiveness, nor could I earn my forgiveness. I learned that "It is by grace you have been saved, through faith - and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God - not by works, so that no one can boast" (Eph. 2:8-9). Jesus died on the cross to save me from my sin and rose from the dead so that I may be with Him eternally in heaven. "For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord" (Rom. 6:23). I trust Him completely with my life now - and with my eternal life.

When I need God's forgiveness, which is often, I prayerfully lay my sin at the foot of His cross and leave it there. I know with all certainty that God forgives the sins of those who ask.

Now I teach junior high youth about Jesus and His love for them. I tell them my story so they will understand that there is nothing they can do that He can't or won't forgive.

Editorial: A Barely Tolerable Punishment

The death penalty is nothing to exult in.

No other issue in criminal justice is as loaded with meaning and emotion as the death penalty. Even at Prison Fellowship Ministries, which is closely associated with the issues of prisoners, victims, and the criminal justice system, there is split opinion on capital punishment, reflecting the division of opinion elsewhere among evangelicals.

Most death penalty debate among Christians centers on the biblical ideas of justice and mercy. One side argues that the wanton disregard for life exhibited by some murderers can be properly punished only by death. There is certain biblical support for this argument. When God gave the law to the children of Israel at Mount Sinai, he included capital punishment, not only for the intentional taking of a life, but for several other offenses as well.

Others ask how can a society that takes life claim to be upholding its sanctity? Taking the life of the offender only removes the possibility of remorse, repentance, and penance. All we do is exact our pound of flesh. Jesus, speaking to the Pharisees who had brought the adulterous woman before him under the penalty of death, said, "If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone." Rather than demanding vengeful punishment, we are to show forgiveness, compassion, and the opportunity for repentance. Part of the reason for this ethical impasse is not only that both arguments have merit, but that they are also consistent with a Christian world-view. Justice and mercy are integral parts of the gospel.

This issue cannot be decided on the basis of Scripture or theology alone. We have to put capital punishment in its legal and socioeconomic context. Courts carry out the death penalty in accord with legal strictures. Moving beyond abstractions, we must consider how the death penalty is applied.

Capital punishment is carried out in this country according to the mandates of the Supreme Court, an inescapable fact in this discussion. The Court determines nearly every aspect of the application of the death penalty. It requires that the jury first decide the defendant's guilt and then start again and decide whether the crime merits death, as was recently evidenced in the Susan Smith case. From the age of the defendant to what evidence may be introduced at the penalty phase, the entire process must meet with the Court's approval.

Putting the issue in its legal context helps us to place the arguments for and against the death penalty in perspective. For instance, as law professor Daniel Polsby of Northwestern University has pointed out, there is no way that the courts will clear the way for enough executions to deter potential offenders. Likewise, even an expedited appeal process will still take the "swift" out of "swift and certain," which is the fundamental requirement of deterrence.

We must also note that the quality of representation can and does make the difference between whether a convicted defendant lives or dies. And the quality of representation is too often contingent on the wealth of the defendant. A common saying has been: "If you have the capital, you don't get the punishment." I find no comfort with the role that accidents of geography and class play in the process.

One of the more articulate views on the death penalty can be found in John Grisham's novel "The Chamber."

Lucas Mann, the attorney for the prison, says, "I go through stages. Every time we kill someone here I think the whole world's gone crazy. Then, invariably, I'll review one of these cases and remember how brutal and horrible some of these crimes were."

Capital punishment is, at best, a barely tolerable punishment. It is not something that we should exult in. The crimes committed by those on death row were often brutal and deserving of the ultimate sanction. At the same time, we must never forget the power of grace and mercy.

Furthermore, the role of class makes it difficult for reasonable people to believe that the administration of the death penalty meets all the requirements of justice. While we should not demand perfection from our criminal justice system -- or any other human institution-the knowledge of its many shortcomings should give us all pause.

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from Online Christianity Today (america Online) · Steve J. Varnam, Executive Director of Justice Fellowship, A Ministry Partner Of Prison Fellowship I via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database forgiveness

Free To Forgive

Mark 12:30

Jesus shows us how to respond to those who hurt us. Col 3:13

True forgiveness rises from a deep rooted trust in Jesus Christ and in the values of His Kingdom.

1. What forgiveness is not.

2. What forgiveness is. Matt 5:44, Mark 12:30-31, 1 Sam 2:30,

Rom 12:10, 13:1-2, Eph 6:2,5, Deut 13:4, Heb 13:17, Prov 3:3-4, 1

Cor 6:18, 1 Pet 2:23

3. Must we forgive? Matt 6

4. Back at the Cross

from Discipleship Journal · Kathy E. Dahlen via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database

Are We Willing To Pay the Price?

Mark 10:30

Are we as evangelical Christians willing to pay the price? The choice that each of us makes will mean the difference between the kingdom advancing or retreating.

Graham Staines, martyred recently in India, and his wife Gladys answered the call. Today, the godly example of Gladys Staines, who has openly forgiven the murderers of her husband and two young sons, is piercing the hearts of millions in India. Her forgiveness of such brutality is being seen as "true spirituality" which is inherently attractive to the Hindu mind.

This "true spirituality" is what our relativistic post-modern world is crying out for. The world is looking for truth that is lived out with conviction, passion and changed lives. Each of us must decide whether we are ready to present this kind of "true spirituality" to a waiting world regardless of the price we must pay.

After the murder of her husband and two sons, Gladys Staines said,

"The thought of getting up and leaving has just not occurred to me

once. I just feel that this is where God has called me."

Even after all that she has suffered and the terrible price she has had to pay in serving Christ, she is not willing to turn from God's calling on her life. Her terrible suffering has not diminished any of the "apostolic passion" that first led her and her husband to India. May we also similarly resolve not to turn from God's calling on our lives and to commit ourselves anew to reaching the unreached peoples regardless of the cost. God's glory and worship among the nations are worth it.

Keep Forgiveness Flowing

Keep forgiveness flowing in small groups.

1. Go to the offender. Even seemingly trivial offenses can cause

resentment to build. Follow the command of Matt 18:15.

2. Send others to their offender.

3. Handle offenses outside the meeting time. Unless the matter concerns

everyone, it needs to be handled privately. If handled

properly, it usually only takes a minute to deal with an

offense.

4. Be quick to say you're sorry.

5. Stay humble. 1 Pet 3:9; Phil 2:3,5. Dealing with offenses promptly

and letting forgiveness flow keeps peace and harmony alive

in our small groups and pleases the Lord.

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True Forgiveness

Luke 19:8

Forty-three years seems like a long time to remember the name of a mere acquaintance. I have duly forgotten the name of an old lady who was a customer on my paper route when I was a twelve-year-old boy in Marinette, Wisconsin back in 1954. Yet it seems like just yesterday that she taught me a lesson in forgiveness that I can only hope to pass on to someone else someday.

On a mindless Saturday afternoon, a friend and I were throwing rocks onto the roof of the old lady's house from a secluded spot in her backyard. The object of our play was to observe how the rocks changed to missiles as they rolled to the roof's edge and shot out into the yard like comets falling from the sky.

I found myself a perfectly smooth rock and sent it for a ride. The stone was too smooth, however, so it slipped from my hand as I let it go and headed straight for a small window on the old lady's back porch. At the sound of fractured glass, we took off from the old lady's yard faster than any of our missiles flew off her roof.

I was too scared about getting caught that first night to be concerned about the old lady with the broken porch window. However, a few days later, when I was sure that I hadn't been discovered, I started to feel guilty for her misfortune. She still greeted me with a smile each day when I gave her the paper, but I was no longer able to act comfortable in her presence.

I made up my mind that I would save my paper delivery money, and in three weeks I had the seven dollars that I calculated would cover the cost of her window. I put the money in an envelope with a note explaining that I was sorry for breaking her window and hoped that the seven dollars would cover the cost for repairing it.

I waited until it was dark, snuck up to the old lady's house, and put the envelope of retribution through the letter slot in her door. My soul felt redeemed and I couldn't wait for the freedom of, once again, looking straight into the old lady's eyes.

The next day, I handed the old lady her paper and was able to return the warm smile that I was receiving from her. She thanked me for the paper and said, "Here, I have something for you." It was a bag of cookies. I thanked her and proceeded to eat the cookies as I continued my route.

After several cookies, I felt an envelope and pulled it out of the bag. When I opened the envelope, I was stunned. Inside was the seven dollars and a short note that said, "I'm proud of you."

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By Jerry Harpt, from A 5th Portion of Chicken Soup for the Soul, Copyright 1998 by Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen

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Leaves Everybody Blind

"That old law about 'an eye for an eye' leaves everybody blind."

Martin Luther King, Jr. (1929 - 1968)

Civil rights leader

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Forgiving the Dead Man Walking: Christianity's Unique Witness

Luke 6:37

DEAD MAN WALKING's gripping portrayal of a man on death row made it one of the most powerful films to come out of Hollywood in recent memory. But believe it or not, it only told half the story -- and it left out the best part.

The power of DEAD MAN WALKING was its portrayal of the inherent dignity and value of even a hardened criminal. But the story behind the story -- the story of the victim -- goes even further, depicting the uniquely Christian message of forgiveness.

Sixteen-year-old Debbie Morris was out on a date with her boyfriend, Mark, one Friday evening. After pizza and a movie, they stopped for milkshakes.

But when a stranger put a revolver to Mark's head, their pleasant night out turned into several hours of torture, rape, and attempted murder. It ended with Mark shot, but alive, and Debbie deeply wounded. But Debbie would not find true healing until she was able to comprehend and embrace the forgiveness only God can provide.

Although the film DEAD MAN WALKING depicted Debbie's kidnappers as one man, there were actually two: Robert Lee Willie and Joe Vaccaro. They kidnapped and robbed them, leaving Mark for dead. Before releasing Debbie, they tormented and raped her repeatedly.

When the two men were captured, Vaccaro received five life sentences and, as the film showed, Willie was executed for his crimes -- he eventually admitted involvement in several murders, including butchering another girl.

But Debbie's anguish did not end when Willie was sentenced to die. Despite those who urged her to "get on with her life," her emotional ordeal continued. As Debbie writes in her book, FORGIVING THE DEAD MAN WALKING, "Justice doesn't really heal all the wounds."

It was when Debbie found the grace to forgive Robert Willie, the day he was to be executed, that she finally knew release from suffering. In prayer -- for herself and for Willie -- she discovered that only God's grace is sufficient to bind up the wounds of the human heart.

Forgiveness, you see, is much more than telling ourselves that an offense just doesn't matter anymore. On the contrary, forgiveness recognizes the debt for what it is.

And it doesn't just liberate the debtor from his debt -- it transforms the heart of the one who forgives. In fact, forgiveness is an imitation of God's own act of forgiveness on the Cross. By forsaking what we are legitimately owed, we recognize that we, too, have been forgiven a debt we can never repay.

And that's why true forgiveness is both a beacon and a scandal to the secular mind.

Secular society has nothing that resembles the forgiveness that the Gospel makes possible, what Debbie Morris experienced.

And it simply cannot make sense of parents who would forgive the killers of their children, like those murdered at Columbine, so much in the news this week. Remember those scenes, so vivid on television? Of the parents forgiving Dylan Klebold and Eric Harris. Of the crosses on the side of the hill. Their forgiving witness is an unmistakable presentation of the transforming love of the Gospel.

We may never be called to forgive an offense as grave as that inflicted on Debbie Morris -- or the families of Littleton, Colorado. But we must be prepared to forgive, not only for our own sakes, but for the sake of our Christian witness.

And when we do, we give the world something better than a good movie plot -- we give them a glimpse of The Greatest Story Ever Told.

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Copyright (c) 2000 Prison Fellowship Ministries. Reprinted with permission. "BreakPoint with Chuck Colson" is a radio ministry of Prison Fellowship Ministries.

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Imperfections of

Mothers, as well as the families they come from, are not perfect! I recently saw a cartoon of a huge auditorium with a convention banner reading: "Welcome Adult Children of Normal parents." And there were only two people present. It has become a trend to make parents scapegoats for one's difficulties in life. They exert a tremendous influence, but most do the best they can with who they are at the time. There are exceptions, of course. It is possible to expect TOO MUCH from our parents.

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Different than excusing

"Forgiving is tough. Excusing is easy. What a mistake it is to confuse forgiving with being mushy, soft, gutless, and oh so understanding. Before we forgive, we stiffen our spine and we hold a person accountable. And only then, in tough-minded judgment, can we do the outrageously impossible thing: we can forgive" (Smedes, Forgive & Forget, p. 44).

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