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Problems in Christian preaching often represent challenges that test faith and character, serving as opportunities for spiritual growth and reliance on God (1 Samuel 17; James 1:2-4). Illustrations commonly use imagery of giants to be overcome, seeds containing solutions, and life’s trials as signs of vitality, emphasizing that God provides strength rather than quick fixes.

On Turning Problems Into Opportunities

Randy Males is a furniture salesman who turned another salesman’s “problem” into a huge opportunity for himself. One day a deaf woman came into the furniture store where Randy was working. The woman was with her husband who was blind and deaf. It was another salesman’s turn to wait on these customers, but this particular salesman had a problem. He muttered to Randy that he wouldn’t waste his time on the couple because they couldn’t see or hear. So Randy got permission to talk with the couple.

As Randy approached the woman, she signed to him that she was deaf. Randy took out a large writing pad and used it to “talk” with the couple. He helped them find what they were looking for and eventually they placed a large order. The next day Randy received a call from a service for the deaf to thank him for his courtesy. Randy said he wasn’t any hero. He was merely a salesman willing to go the extra mile to help a customer.

Because Randy went the extra mile, the couple sent several of their friends to him for additional furniture purchases. And it all happened because one salesman turned another salesman’s “problem” into an opportunity!

The message is clear. Be nice to people. Render service to those who need it most and help yourself in the process.

[Original illustration at this number was a duplicate of HolwickID #2888]

from Source not recorded via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database

"How Creative Are You?"

Creative thinkers tend to identify more with mothers, are better readers, daydream a lot, are not necessarily more intelligent, can learn how to be creative. Too much intensity stifles creativity; diverting attention away from the problem can help, and a small amount of pressure produces better quality thinking and memory. Overconfidence hurts (makes us complacent) but sleep can help, allowing the unconscious mind to dwell on the solution. Let a few days go by before making an important decision.

Simple Solutions

"For every complex problem there is always a simple solution - which is almost invariably wrong."

-- H. L. Mencken (probable quote)

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from Christianity Today magazine · Colin Brown via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database

When You Don't Have It All Together

Pippert says that Christians are not perfect and can communicate the gospel effectively through their weaknesses. People need to see that we are real and not phony. We are always growing as Christians.

EXCERPT:

In my new book, HOPE HAS ITS REASONS, I tell the story of a professor at Harvard who said to me, "I admire the fact that you are devout, but in the end it doesn't make any difference whether you believe in God or not, because life is essentially the same. Don't Christians get cancer, get divorced, long for their children to do well? Don't Christians fail, morally?"

I said yes.

"You're proving my point," he responded. "God DOESN'T make a difference."

I told him that one of the difficulties is that Christians have tried to pin the difference in the wrong place. Sometimes we try to make it seem as if we are no longer human when we follow Jesus.

What is the difference that God makes? It begins to show, I told him, in HOW WE HANDLE problems and personal failings - not in freedom from them. I have seen that there is nothing I do that does not contain some corruption, that does not have some self-serving motive. God shows us the problem of human nature and He gives us a diagnosis for the condition: sin.

"If I was that hard on myself," he interrupted, "I'd be depressed! But you seem so joyful."

So then I told him the rest of the story: "That's because I've also been given a solution. It's the forgiveness of Jesus Christ and the power of the Holy Spirit to help me overcome."

"Has the cure worked?" he asked.

"I'm not a finished product, if that's what you mean," I answered. "But I'm learning to live in recovery from sin and I'm growing in amazing grace, and that would make anyone joyful!"

Christian realism begins with the fact that we are not who we were created to be. G. K. Chesterton wrote, "I find it amazing that moderns have rejected the doctrine of original sin when it's the only Christian doctrine that can be empirically verified."[*] There is plenty of evidence to convince us of the reality of the Christian view of human nature, meaning the presence of sin in our lives.

But Christian realism is not only negative - it's extraordinarily POSITIVE. Christian realism requires us to face the mess so that we can experience the mystery and the miracle that Jesus Christ can change human beings. But to experience this miracle, we have to face the mess: the human heart. To be a Christian realist is to know the problem of the human heart and the solution that Jesus offers.

Being "realists" gets more complicated once we start growing as Christians. It's one thing to admit our sin when we first come to Jesus. But to continue acknowledging our sin may get harder, because we have more invested in our respectability. Sometimes, we feel we will lose our testimony by acknowledging a problem almost as if we fear it's a sin to admit we're sinners. So then we make stronger attempts to deny or cover any sin or flaw in our lives "for Jesus' sake."

Denial and cover-up is a problem not just with the Church, but throughout human nature. Why do we deny and cover up? Because it's painful to face the truth about ourselves. We go to elaborate lengths to say, "It's not my fault; I can explain that."

But presenting a perfect exterior is NOT biblical Christianity. Paul said, "I am the chief of sinners." When he struggled with his thorn in the flesh, Jesus told him, "I will not take this away from you because my glory is made manifest in your weakness."

Spiritual growth does not come from insisting that I have no problems. Rather, it means recognizing who it is that God calls me to be, the reality of who I presently am, learning how to overcome through the power of the Holy Spirit. That is a different kind of model from either excusing sin or being falsely spiritual.

DJ: WHAT ARE THE IMPLICATIONS OF THIS KIND OF REALISM FOR EVANGELISM? HOW CLOSELY SHOULD OUR INSIDES MATCH OUR OUTSIDES BEFORE WE TALK TO ANYONE?

PIPPERT: We will always be in process. Part of the adventure of sharing our faith comes when we allow people to see what God is doing to heal our pain, to make sense out of our brokenness. They need to understand our unanswered questions as well as our victories and successes. Evangelism can't wait until we finally have it all together that won't happen until we are in Heaven.

No matter how jazzy the exterior, when you get beneath the surface, you find that most people have experienced some emptiness, some pain. What they really want to know is, "Does Jesus make a difference? Will He help me in this marriage? Will He help me communicate with this child I find so hard to reach? Does He make a difference in my job, in my relationship with my boss, in my addictions and compulsions?"

If we're able to say, "Yes - this is how Jesus has met me in my brokenness, in my weakness, and enabled me to overcome," we do such a service for the Lord. But if we feel we have to cover our problems and weakness and honest questions, we neutralize the power of the gospel.

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[*] Reinhold Niebuhr stated it this way, while Chesterton once wrote that Original Sin "is the only part of Christian theology which can really be proved," by which he meant that the fact of sin is "a fact as practical as potatoes."

We Gonna Push 'im Up!

Luke 13:11

Mario Cuomo, governor of New York, writes in Life magazine about a time when he was especially discouraged during a political campaign:

I couldn’t help wondering what Poppa would have said if I told him I was tired or - God forbid - discouraged. A thousand pictures flashed through my mind, but one scene came sharply into view.

We had just moved to Holliswood, New York, from our apartment behind the store. We had our own house for the first time; it had some land around it, even trees. One in particular was a great blue spruce that must have been 40 feet tall.

Less than a week after we moved in, there was a terrible storm. We came home from the store that night to find the spruce pulled almost totally from the ground and flung forward, its mighty nose bent in the asphalt of the street. My brother Frankie and I could climb poles all day; we were great at fire escapes; we could scale fences with barbed wire - but we knew nothing about trees. When we saw our spruce, defeated, its cheek on the canvas, our hearts sank. But not Poppa’s.

Maybe he was five feet six if his heels were not worn. Maybe he weighted 155 pounds if he had a good meal. Maybe he could see a block away if his glasses were clean. But he was stronger than Frankie and me and Marie and Mamma all together.

We stood in the street, looking down at the tree.

“Okay, we gonna push ‘im up!”

“What are you talking about, Poppa? The roots are out of the ground!”

“Shut up, we gonna push ‘im up, he’s gonna grow again.” We didn’t know what to say to him. You couldn’t say no to him. So we followed him into the house and we got what rope there was and we tied the rope around the tip of the tree that lay in the asphalt, and he stood up by the house, with me pulling on the rope and Frankie in the street in the rain, helping to push up the great blue spruce.

In no time at all, we had it standing up straight again!

With the rain still falling, Poppa dug away at the place where the roots were, making a muddy hole wider and wider as the tree sank lower and lower toward security. Then we shoveled mud over the roots and moved boulders to the base to keep the tree in place. Poppa drove stakes in the ground, tied rope from the trunk to the stakes, and maybe two hours later looked at the spruce, the crippled spruce made straight by ropes, and said, “Don’t worry, he’s gonna grow again....”

If you were to drive past that house today, you would see the great, straight blue spruce, maybe 65 feet tall, pointing up to the heavens, pretending it never had its nose in the asphalt.

Remembering that night in Holliswood, I now couldn’t wait to get back into the campaign.

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see attached photo of tree in 2015

Peale Ponders Problems

“When every physical and mental resources is focused- one’s power to solve a problem multiplies tremendously.” — Norman Vincent Peale, minister and author

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Questions to Ponder

• What problem deserves my focus today?

• How focused am I on the problem at hand?

• What steps can I take to improve my focus?

[Original illustration at this number was a duplicate of HolwickID #1834]

from Source not recorded · Norman Vincent Peale via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database

How God Uses Problems

Proverbs 20:30

LIFE IS A SERIES OF PROBLEM-SOLVING OPPORTUNITIES.

The problems you face will either defeat you or develop you - depending on how you respond to them. Unfortunately, most people fail to see how God wants to use problems for good in their lives. They react foolishly and resent their problems rather than pausing to consider what benefit they might bring. Here are five ways God wants to use the problems in your life:

1. God uses problems to DIRECT you. Sometimes God must light a fire under you to get you moving. Problems often point us in a new direction and motivate us to change. Is God trying to get your attention? “Sometimes it takes a painful situation to make us change our ways.” Proverbs 20:30 (GN)

2. God uses problems to INSPECT you. People are like tea bags... if you want to know what's inside them, just drop them into hot water! Has God ever tested your faith with a problem? What do problems reveal about you? “When you have many kinds of troubles, you should be full of joy, because you know that these troubles test your faith, and this will give you patience.” James 1:2-3 (NCV)

3. God uses problems to CORRECT you. Some lessons we learn only through pain and failure. It's likely that as a child your parents told you not to touch a hot stove. But you probably learned by being burned. Sometimes we only learn the value of something ... health, money, a relationship... by losing it. “...It was the best thing that could have happened to me, for it taught me to pay attention to your laws.” Psalm 119:71-72 (LB)

4. God uses problems to PROTECT you. A problem can be a blessing in disguise if it prevents you from being harmed by something more serious. Last year a friend was fired for refusing to do something unethical that his boss had asked him to do. His unemployment was a problem - but it saved him from being convicted and sent to prison a year later when management's actions were eventually discovered. “You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good. . .” Genesis 50:20 (NIV)

5. God uses problems to PERFECT you. Problems, when responded to correctly, are character builders. God is far more interested in your character than your comfort. Your relationship to God and your character are the only two things you're going to take with you into eternity. “We can rejoice when we run into problems... they help us learn to be patient. And patience develops strength of character in us and helps us trust God more each time we use it until finally our hope and faith are strong and steady.” Romans 5:3-4 (LB)

Here's the point: God is at work in your life - even when you do not recognize it or understand it. But it's much easier and profitable when you cooperate with Him!

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The Timothy Report, Swan Lake Communications, SwanLC@aol.com, March 8, 1999

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from Source not recorded via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database sufferingproblems

How To Kill Your Giant

Luke 12:4

Sermon in King David series. David and Goliath. 1 Samuel 17:45-50

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HOW TO KILL YOUR GIANT

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I. A decisive contest. 1 Samuel 17

A. A big valley separates the hills - one mile across.

B. Goliath was a giant in more ways than one.

C. Champions often decided battles. 17:8

D. Three benefits promised by Saul: 17:25

E. Older brother syndrome.

II. Where is the focus?

A. Some scholars think it has little to do with fighting giants.

B. But David wasn't just a weak pipsqeak.

C. God will set things right, but he uses certain people to do it.

III. Seven principles for giant-killing.

1. Save your energy for fighting giants and not fellow soldiers.

2. Giants are often not as big as you think. 17:32-33

3. You have what it takes to kill your giant right now. 17:34

4. Do your giant-killing in the way God has called you to do it.17:38

5. Giant-killing requires a plan. 17:40

6. Giant-killing is a lonely business, but we are not alone. 17:45

7. Giant-killing results in encouragement. 17:52

IV. Deal with the question, "The giant in my life right now is..."

A. Identify the giant.

B. Confront it in name of the Lord Almighty.

from Condensed sermon outline (handout) by Rev. David Holwick · Serm95zi.pco via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database couragefaith

Life Is Regressive

The AIDS epidemic's evolution underscores a grim truth: life is regressive. That is, people with problems have a high probability of acquiring more problems. It is increasingly linked with drugs, racial minorities and rural areas in the South. It is shocking that the disease has become endemic even though it is difficult to acquire and is almost entirely preventable.

The main reason for hope regarding AIDS is what it has always been: an epidemic driven by behavior can be contained by changing behavior. But one reason for not hoping extravagantly is the experience we have had with another, simpler behavior-driven epidemic, that of smoking-related diseases such as lung cancer. Aggressive public education and stigmatization have made smoking less common but also have made it increasingly concentrated among poorer and poorly educated Americans. Life really is regressive.

from Newsweek: An Epidemic's Evolution · George F. Will via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database

When What You've Always Done Doesn't Work

Acts 6:14

We pride ourselves on problem-solving. From the historic challenge of putting a person on the moon, to the ordinary challenge of fitting 48-hour schedules into 24-hour days, we are solution-finders. But a trend is emerging that has a few deeply concerned: We are beginning to face problems with a magnitude, complexity, and velocity such as humanity has never before experienced.

The exponential increase in the speed of transportation vividly illustrates the dynamics of change which we are facing. The earliest people carried their own burdens at a walking pace. With the invention of the wheel and the domestication of the animals, heavier burdens could be moved at about six miles per hour. This simple progress enabled cities to develop because food could be transported more easily from the farm to the city. This situation lasted for about 6,000 years. Then, with the invention of the internal combustion engine and the automobile, people and things could move at about 60 miles per hour. This tenfold increase (what social scientists call a Force 1 increase, based on the exponential formula 101) had a radical affect on where people lived. Between 1930 and 1950, half the population in the United States moved from the farm to the city, radically altering the pace of life.

A third transportation shift occurred in the 1960s with the jet airplane which could travel at 600 miles per hour. This represents another tenfold increase (a Force 2, or 10 to the power of 2 increase from the horse-and-buggy days), but this time it occurred in 60 years instead of 6,000! The increase led to a mobile society, creating social demands that were never anticipated. The lack of extended families and the loss of long-term social networks have greatly taxed our coping skills. But an even more baffling situation faces us now.

As we enter the Information Age, the transportation of information is the catalyst for a change unlike any we’ve ever seen before. Experts tell us that the speed of change in the last decade, through technology and information, is a Force 30 increase! That’s 10 to the power of 30. What does that mean? If you took one grain of sand and magnified it ten to the thirtieth power, it would be the size of the Milky Way galaxy! The mind boggles and the heart cringes.

Let’s bring it closer to home. A young person is confused as she faces intense peer pressure in school where ethnic diversity and a pluralism of values fuel an intensity that students of earlier generations never knew. A college graduate faces a frightening future with little hope in the midst of a high-tech, globally competitive world. Men and women who prepared for a career 30 years ago now find that the job market has left them behind. A new parent feels twinges of anxiety mixed with joy as he wonders how to raise a responsible child in a world that has lost its moral moorings. A middle-ager feels the threefold squeeze of growing children, aging parents, and the career pressures mounting in these “harvest years.” Grandparents try to figure out how to support their children and grandchildren who are dealing with problems they themselves never had to face. One who has been “resingled” through divorce or death wonders how to find love and loyalty in a partner, when so many have no concept of honorable commitment.

These are trying days. Any one of these problems taxes our problem-solving resources. Yet, if we had only one such problem to manage, we could probably find our way through it. Many individuals and families face all or most of the stresses listed above at the same time! What does one do?

from 50 Day Spiritual Adventure, Chapel Of The Air · Dr. Douglas Rumford; First Presbyterian; Fresno, California via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database problemschange

God Doesn't Offer Quick Fixes, Women's Bible Study Leader Says

Luke 4:18

God doesn't offer drive-through windows where Christians can order up Spirit-filled lives and quick answers to pressing problems, said a popular women's Bible study leader.

"In our human nature, we always want the quick fix. Give me something in five minutes or we don't want to be fixed at all," said Beth Moore, a teacher and author of five in-depth Bible studies, a 10-week prayer journal and a collection of poetry and vignettes, all published by LifeWay Christian Resources of the Southern Baptist Convention.

"If people really want the freedom that is available to them through Christ, they are going to have to walk with God, day in and day out, for all their lives," Moore said.

Moore's latest message to women is about casting off strongholds or behaviors that interfere with living an "abundant life," which she describes as "a life with a whole lot of God."

"A stronghold is anything in your life that has a strong hold on your life," she said. "It is something you realize is mastering you. You are out of control and mastered by something other than Christ. Christ masters us to set us free. Anything else masters us to keep us bound."

For Moore, fear and distrust were the behaviors that held her captive and kept her from leading an abundant life in Christ.

"Without getting too specific, I think I've been very open that I was the victim of some abuses as a child. So I came with all sorts of strongholds in my life."

"When there is a person that your family trusted, and they become untrustworthy and you're just a small child, then you grow up with a stronghold of mistrust." Moore said most adults grow up with childhood scars that manifest themselves in unhealthy external behaviors.

"Any kind of compulsive behavior, any kind of addictive behavior represents an internal need for control," she said. "Anything that continues to make us feel shame or like we are less than we are in Christ, anything that steals our dignity in Christ is a stronghold that we need to be free of."

Moore said people who "overdo or under-do anything" need to break free from their strongholds and experience freedom through Christ.

"I don't like to get too specific about the strongholds in my study because I want women to ask themselves what theirs are. What is keeping you from just enjoying your life in Christ?"

Paradoxically, Moore said, Christians believe that living a Spirit-filled life is the exception, rather than the rule. "It is our heritage to live a life that glorifies God, to enjoy his presence, to find satisfaction in him and to have a real prayer life. Really, the off times of our insecurities should be the exception. "My study teaches that if you are not living the Spirit-filled, effective life, you've got something somewhere that is a hindrance to you. Now what is it?"

Moore, whose mother recently died after a lengthy illness, said she wants to be clear that enjoying life and enjoying life in Christ are different. "There are periods in our lives that aren't enjoyable at all, but we can learn to enjoy the presence of Christ in our lives even during a very unenjoyable period of time."

"The Apostle Paul says, 'Where the spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom.' Breaking Free is about learning how to allow the spirit of Christ to really take over your life. I have to begin every day of my life saying, 'Lord, I don't want to just live for you. I want you to live through me.'"

Moore said prayer and studying the Bible are rudimentary to discovering freedom in Christ. Christians have "got to have a praying life and they've got to have a relationship with God through his Word. I'm not talking about perfection, but I'm talking about being in constant pursuit of God," she said.

Moore counters the idea that pursuing God constantly and finding freedom from strongholds means forfeiting a normal life. "I'm not saying the working woman can't be free because she can't sit and read God's Word every minute of every day. It's a mentality of feeling God's presence. I hope and pray there is some time spent in God's Word every day, but that doesn't mean the person never gets up from her prayer time and lives a normal life."

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Problems

One of the classic baseball television shots comes from the 1975 World Series, in which NBC captured Carlton Fisk, jumping up and down, waving his arms, trying to coax his hit to stay fair. It did - for a home run. That colorful close-up would have been missed had the cameraman followed the ball with his camera, as was his responsibility. But the cameraman inside Fenway Park scoreboard had one eye on a rat that was circling him. So instead of focusing the camera on the ball, he left it on Fisk.

Sometimes we encounter problems like that rat. We have no idea how they will be resolved, but because of them, we may see God work in a way we never would have without the problems.

(Written by Richard C. Kauffman, Jr., Tionesta, PA)

Quotes On Enthusiasm

Acts 28:11

"Catch on fire with enthusiasm and people will come for miles to watch you burn."

-- John Wesley

"Enthusiasm is the all-essential jet propeller. Without it the highest heights are rarely reached. It is the driving force which elevates men to become miracle workers. White heat enthusiasm can melt the hardest problems."

-- Percy Whiting

"Our enthusiasm and excitement, our intuition and insight, our creativity and imagination, and our motivation and inspiration originate in and are controlled by the super-conscious. This wealth of talent is at our fingertips and we have to find ways of drawing on it."

-- Colin Turner

"Set the germ of enthusiasm afloat in your being; carry it in your attitude and manner - before you realise it, it spreads like contagion and influences every fibre of your life; it means increase in joy, and pleasure, it means virile life; it means spontaneous bedrock results - the vital things that pay dividends."

-- Henry Chester

"When a person applies enthusiasm to his job, the job will itself become alive with exciting new possibilities."

-- Norman Vincent Peale

"Enthusiasm is the yeast that raises the dough.

-- Paul J. Meyer

"Enthusiasm generates powers. It generates boldness, courage; kindles confidence, overcomes doubts. It creates endless energy, the source of all accomplishment."

-- Henry Ford

"Years may wrinkle the skin, but to give up enthusiasm wrinkles the soul."

-- Samuel Ullman

"Enthusiasts are fighters. They have fortitude. They have staying abilities. Enthusiasm is at the bottom of all progress! With it there is accomplishment. Without it there are only alibis...."

-- Henry Ford

"Enthusiasm is the most convincing orator; it is like the infallible law of nature. The simplest man, fired with enthusiasm, is more persuasive than the most eloquent man without it."

-- Franklin Field

"In the end, the size of a person's accomplishment can best be measured by the size of their heart."

-- (unknown)

"They can because they think they can."

-- Virgil, in "The Aeneid"

"A person who doubts himself is like a man who would enlist in the ranks of his enemies and bear arms against himself. He makes his failure certain by himself being the first person to be convinced of it."

-- Alexandre Dumas

"Do not wish to be anything but what you are, and try to be that perfectly."

-- St. Francis De Sales

"The man who cannot believe in himself cannot believe in anything else."

-- Roy L. Smith

"Nothing is so contagious as enthusiasm; it moves stones, it charms brutes. Enthusiasm is the genius of sincerity, and truth accomplishes no victories without it."

-- Edward G.E. Bulwer Lytton (1803 - 1873), writer, Bits & Pieces (B&P)

Problems: Not Answers, But the Answerer

When I was younger, I thought there was probably an answer to every problem. For a time, I knew many of the answers.

• I knew about parenting until I had children.

• I knew about divorce until I got one.

• I knew about suicide until three of my closest friends took their lives in the same year.

• I knew about the death of a child until my child died.

I’m not as impressed with answers as once I was. Answers seem so pallid, sucked dry and void of life. Knowing answers seduces us into making pronouncements. I still have a few friends or acquaintances who are 100% sure on most anything, and are ready to make pronouncements on homosexuality, AIDS, teenage pregnancies, abortion, sex education or whatever is coming down the pike. But, when we get shoved into the valley of our shadow, a pronouncement is the last thing we want.

More important and satisfying than answers is the Answerer.

“You [God] are with me” – that’s what we crave. There may or may not be answers, but the Eternal One would like very much to be our companion.

Vision: “Every man takes the limits of his own field of vision for the limits of the world.” — Arthur Schopenhauer, philosopher

Questions to Ponder

• Am I limiting my scope by limiting my field of vision?

• How can I expand my field of vision?

[Original illustration at this number was a duplicate of HolwickID #5608]

from Source not recorded · Browning Ware, Pastor Emeritus of First Baptist Church In Austin, Texas. via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database

RM-Bible (3/25/99)

"When someone disagrees with me, I do not have to immediately start revising what I just said."

"When Bruce said he had trouble getting along with his mother, I liked him better. I like a man with faults, especially when he knows it. To err is human -- I'm uncomfortable around gods."

"The attention I give to what I wear, the length of my hair, how much I weigh, etc., is designed to control what people will think."

"Don't fight a fact, deal with it."

"The comment, "Don't mind him, he's got a problem" illustrates this universal attitude toward personal difficulty. The implication is that having a problem is a strange and avoidable weakness. When I come in repeated contact with this daily facade of normality I begin to assume that I too deserve such a life, and I get annoyed with the present and look upon my difficulties as unjust tragedies. And because I assume there is something unnatural about my having a problem, I attempt to present a problem free appearance too."

One more:

"If I had only.....

forgotten future greatness

and looked at the green things and the buildings

and reached out to those around me

and smelled the air

and ignored the forms and the self-styled obligations

and heard the rain on the roof

and put my arms around my wife

.....and it's not too late"

from Source not recorded · Hugh Prather via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database problems

When Adversity Strikes

Psalms 70

Although life has many satisfying moments, there will be times of adversity.

In fact there is a greater risk of personal tribulation the longer we live. Hardly a week passes by where we don’t hear of a car wreck, broken bone, life-threatening illness, unexpected death, financial collapse, or marriage breakup.

David was no stranger to difficult times. Many of the Psalms grow out of the crucible of personal conflict. A close reading of Psalm 70 shows that he often became impatient in hostile environments. Four times he asked God to hurry in answering his prayer. (Psalm 70:1, 5) Five times he requested that God would “let” circumstances change regarding his adversity. This song closes with David asking God to “make no delay.” (Psalm 70:5)

Like David, the suffering saint will ask “Why is God so slow in answering my prayers? Why does He delay in working out solutions to my problems?” Consider these Biblical ideas:

1. Adversity Is An Opportunity To Repent.

Many of our hardships are caused by the disobedience of others to God’s will. If God was quick to punish, few would be alive. It is God’s nature to be slow in punishment so the wicked will have time to change their thinking and behavior. Even if our trials involve only circumstances and not wicked people, hardships make us examine our own heart. (See Psalm 130:1-3 for a good illustration of this.)

2. Adversity Is An Opportunity To Grow.

History shows that when a culture becomes addicted to pleasure and luxury, it soon ceases to exist through self-destructive behavior. Tribulation ensures our survival by instilling within us the qualities of discipline, independence, and creativity. Paul said that adversity helps create perseverance, character, and hope. (Romans 5:5) Saints who graduate from “the school of hard knocks” are those who have grown the most in Christ.

3. Adversity Is An Opportunity To Shine.

When the Corinthian church had so many problems, Paul wrote “there must also be heresies among you, that they which are approved may be made manifest among you.” (1 Corinthians 11:19) In a church fuss, those who have God’s approval are those who obey God no matter what others do. Paul believed that others would be able to see our mature faith by the way we handled conflict. God approves of us when we survive suffering and our faith remains intact.

Men have a tendency to be impatient in misery. We should not interpret God’s slowness in answering our prayers as slackness. He may be trying to give us a lesson.

Vanilla Ice Cream and Pontiacs

Subject: Supposedly true story [see http://www.snopes.com/autos/techno/icecream.asp for more details]

For the engineers among us who understand that the obvious is not always the solution, and that the facts, no matter how implausible, are still the facts...

A complaint was received by the Pontiac Division of General Motors:

“This is the second time I have written you, and I don’t blame you for not answering me, because I kind of sounded crazy, but it is a fact that we have a tradition in our family of ice cream for dessert after dinner each night. But the kind of ice cream varies so, every night, after we’ve eaten, the whole family votes on which kind of ice cream we should have and I drive down to the store to get it. It’s also a fact that I recently purchased a new Pontiac and since then my trips to the store have created a problem. You see, every time I buy vanilla ice cream, when I start back from the store my car won’t start. If I get any other kind of ice cream, the car starts just fine. I want you to know I’m serious about this question, no matter how silly it sounds: ‘What is there about a Pontiac that makes it not start when I get vanilla ice cream, and easy to start whenever I get any other kind?’”

The Pontiac President was understandably skeptical about the letter, but sent an engineer to check it out anyway. The latter was surprised to be greeted by a successful, obviously well-educated man in a fine neighborhood. He had arranged to meet the man just after dinner time, so the two hopped into the car and drove to the ice cream store. It was vanilla ice cream that night and, sure enough, after they came back to the car, it wouldn’t start.

The engineer returned for three more nights. The first night, the man got chocolate. The car started. The second night, he got strawberry. The car started. The third night he ordered vanilla. The car failed to start.

Now the engineer, being a logical man, refused to believe that this man’s car was allergic to vanilla ice cream. He arranged, therefore, to continue his visits for as long as it took to solve the problem. And toward this end he began to take notes: he jotted down all sorts of data, time of day, type of gas used, time to drive back and forth, etc.

In a short time, he had a clue: the man took less time to buy vanilla than any other flavor. Why? The answer was in the layout of the store.

Vanilla, being the most popular flavor, was in a separate case at the front of the store for quick pickup. All the other flavors were kept in the back of the store at a different counter where it took considerably longer to find the flavor and get checked out.

Now the question for the engineer was why the car wouldn’t start when it took less time. Once time became the problem -- not the vanilla ice cream -- the engineer quickly came up with the answer: vapor lock. It was happening every night, but the extra time taken to get the other flavors allowed the engine to cool down sufficiently to start. When the man got vanilla, the engine was still too hot for the vapor lock to dissipate.

Moral of the story: even insane-looking problems are sometimes real.

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Grandma's Cake

A little boy is telling his Grandma how "everything" is going wrong. School problems, family problems, health problems, you name it. Meanwhile, Grandma is baking a cake. She asks her grandson if he would like a snack, which of course he does.

"Here, have some cooking oil."

"Yuck," says the boy.

"How about a couple raw eggs?"

"Gross, Grandma!"

"Would you like some flour then? Or maybe baking soda?"

"Grandma, those are all yucky!"

To which Grandma replies: "Yes, all those things seem bad all by themselves, but when they are put together in the right way, they make a wonderfully delicious cake! God works the same way. Many times we wonder why he would let us go through such bad and difficult times, but God knows when he puts His things in order, they always work for good. We just have to trust Him and eventually they will all make something wonderful!"

Quotes On Problem Solving

"Every problem has in it the seeds of its own solution. If you don't have any problems, you don't get any seeds..."

-- Norman Vincent Peale

"You only have to solve two problems when going to the moon: first, how to get there; and second, how to get back. The key is don't leave until you have solved both problems."

-- Neil Armstrong

"Any jackass can kick down a barn but it takes a good carpenter to build one."

-- Lyndon B. Johnson

"Don't dwell on what went wrong. Instead, focus on what to do next. Spend your energies on moving forward toward finding the answer."

-- Denis Waitley

"The problem is not that there are problems. The problem is expecting otherwise and thinking that having problems is a problem."

-- Theodore Rubin

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Do You See Giants?

Numbers 13:17

Do You See Giants?

Read: Numbers 13:17-30

My servant Caleb, because he has a different spirit in him and has followed Me fully, I will bring into the land. --Numbers 14:24

The 12 spies who were sent out by Moses scouted the land of Canaan for 40 days. When they returned, all but Joshua and Caleb gave this pessimistic report: "We were like grasshoppers in our own sight, and so we were in their sight" (Num. 13:33).

These faithless ones saw only difficulties and defeat. Yes, the giants were great, but wasn't their God greater? How could they so easily forget the way God led them through the wilderness?

The 10 spies who were filled with doubt died in the wilderness. We know that Joshua led the people into the Promised Land. But what about Caleb? God blessed him and brought him into the land too because he had a different spirit and followed Him wholeheartedly (14:24).

Think for a moment of two balloons. One is filled with carbon dioxide and cannot rise. The other balloon is filled with helium and immediately goes up. So too, if our hearts are filled with doubts and fears, we will not be able to rise in faith to do what God wants us to do.

We need more Calebs--willing to follow the leading of the Lord because they are filled with His Holy Spirit. Are you a Caleb of faith, or are you among the doubters who always see the giants of difficulty? --Henry G. Bosch (ODB Editor 1956-1981)

Faith, mighty faith, the promise sees,

And looks to God alone,

Laughs at impossibilities,

And cries, "It shall be done!" --Anon.

Fear sees the obstacle; faith sees the opportunity.

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Marriage Or Sensitivity Or Problems

Marriage or Sensitivity or Problems (Fourth Place Winner 12 month additonal

free subscription)

A friend's wife, Dawn, had just finished reading Men Are From Mars, Women

Are From Venus. She sighed and said to her husband, "Sometimes women don't want

men to fix their problems. Sometimes it's better if he just puts his arms around

her and tells her everything will be okay."

The next morning, Dawn's car had a flat tire. Her husband looked things

over. Then he reassured her that everything would be all right, gave her a big

hug, and left for work. -- Thomas R. Berry, Reader's Digest Dec 99

TS--When it comes to sin, God does more than put his arms around us and tell us

things will be all right. God put his arms out and fixed the problem. Submitted

by Bob Hine, Burlington, IN

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Dulles On Success

"The measure of success is not whether you have a tough problem to deal with, but whether it's the same problem you had last year."

-- John Foster Dulles

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Problems Are A Sign of Life

"There is only one group of people who don't have problems and they're all dead. Problems are a sign of life. So the more problems you have, the more alive you are."

Norman Vincent Peale (1898 - 1993)

Clergyman and writer

Cited in BITS & PIECES

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Lint Collectors

Job 7:11

I've got this one black blazer that I really like to wear. Unfortunately, it has this one little problem. It's wool. Which means it's sort of magnetic - especially for lint and anything else that might jump up and attach itself to that jacket. I'm having to brush that blazer off all the time. It just picks up all this stuff!

Well, I'm Ron Hutchcraft and I want to have A WORD WITH YOU today about "Lint Collectors."

Now, it's not just clothes that are like that. There's way too many people like that - they seem to pick up anything that's negative in the air and hang onto it. They have a tendency to pick up any "lint" that's around.

Maybe you have a tendency to be like that - and maybe you don't even know it. But when there's something negative in the air - frustrations, gossip, negative comments about someone, negative feelings about someone, people's mistakes, tensions between people - well, you just sort of gravitate to that stuff. You collect negatives. You like to hear about problems ... talk about problems.

Of course, all this is the opposite of the way Jesus expects us to be. Take, for example, our word for today from the Word of God, beginning with Ephesians 4:26. "Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry ... do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is useful for building others up ... get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice ... Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ, God forgave you."

In short, eliminate the negative, accentuate the positive. I wonder if you're basically a positive person? It's one of the words that should describe every follower of Jesus Christ. Of course, even a positive person can have a tendency to pick up way too much lint - I mean, negative. You actually have to make a conscious decision to close your ears to the negative lint that's floating in the air ... to walk away from it ... to refuse to pass on anything negative about a person.

Remember, love, according to the great love chapter in 1 Corinthians 13, "is patient, love is kind ... it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil ... it always protects." That's "protects," as in the opposite of "attacks." Instead of wearing a personality that collects the lint in the air, God says to "clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you."

It might be time to evaluate the input you've been welcoming into your heart - and the output that's been coming from you about other people, especially the ones you have a hard time with. Is it possible that you've been collecting negatives? Focusing on negatives? Spreading negatives? That's actually something to confess repentantly to your Lord. Those people you may have been criticizing or judging or putting down are people God's Son gave His life for. He doesn't enjoy hearing about them being talked about or treated disrespectfully. Ask your Savior to begin changing the kind of personality that you put on each morning - to one that doesn't collect all that lint!

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Behavior Linked To 'Unique Design' Revealed In Scripture

After years of research, Selwyn Hughes believes he has found the biblical basis for why people behave the way the do.

"A unique design has gone into the construction of our beings," said the Wales native. "God made us to function in a certain way, and unless we understand God's signature on our personality, then we will never be able to understand why we do what we do."

Hughes said he is concerned that the contemporary church takes too simplistic an approach to dealing with problems. "When people in our churches have problems, what we try to do is take a text from the Bible and, like a Band-Aid, put it on something that requires radical spiritual surgery."

He called that the "evangelical disease" or "giving answers before you understand the problems."

Hughes said people are designed in five areas of functioning -- as physical beings, longing beings, thinking beings, choosing beings and feeling beings.

"When we understand those areas of functioning, then and only then can we understand how our problems arise."

First, because people are physical beings, Hughes believes it is important to determine whether psychological symptoms are the result of a physical problem.

If a doctor declares a person physically fit, the search continues, he said.

Hughes traces the lot of people's psychological problems back to the fall of Adam and Eve.

"We are longing to get back to what was lost in the Garden of Eden, and we will never really experience life to the fullest until we get back to the way God designed us."

Hughes believes Adam and Eve had it made before they took a bite out of the apple.

Before they sinned "they were standing on a stool in the Garden of Eden with three solid legs," he said.

"When Adam and Eve sinned, the legs of the stool broke beneath their feet and the result was, instead of security, they experienced insecurity; instead of self-worth, they experienced inferiority; and instead of significance, they experienced insignificance," he said.

Though they don't know it, all people are clamoring for a reconnection to God, Hughes said. The longings are merely expressed through the personality in worldly ways.

"Every one of us has an ache in our soul that only God can meet," he said. Hughes said he believes the biggest problem in marriages today is not "finances, communication or sex, but one person trying to get their need for security met in their partner and not God."

Psychological problems arise from these deep longings, he said, because people deny them, reduce them or redirect them.

"We deny them because to admit them exposes a dependency on someone or something else or a feeling of helplessness that we abhor. We reduce them to a level more human like the need for attention. Or we redirect them into other things like achievement, career, accomplishments."

Hughes said while people are also thinking beings, "the problem, of course, is we think incorrectly."

As choosing beings, he said, "When God made us, he did not make us like a machine or computer to be manipulated. He gave us a free will."

Fifth, Hughes said people are feeling beings. "Everyone experiences both negative and positive feelings, and some of the negative feelings can become incapacitating and hinder our daily functioning."

Negative emotions, he said, are the result of "frustrations we feel because we cannot reach the goal we need to reach to feel good about ourselves."

Hughes listed three groups of negative emotions and what he believes they signal:

-- Anger, frustration, resentment and irritation are the result of blocked goals. "Whenever a goal we foolishly believe we must meet to feel good about ourselves is blocked, these emotions occur."

-- Guilt or shame results from an unreachable goal. "When we believe, again foolishly, that we have to reach a certain goal to experience personal intactness, these emotions are manifested."

-- Anxiety and fear indicate uncertain goals. "We are uncertain that we can reach the goal and often this uncertainty reveals itself in a fear of failure."

In his book, Hughes guides people through the steps they need to take to re- establish or maintain a close relationship with God.

"Our problems can be resolved and overcome only when we decide to put Christ where he belongs, at the center," Hughes writes. "Christ must be master of our minds and he must be master of our wills."

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Quotes On Perspective

"Here is the secret of inspiration. Tell yourself that thousands and tens of thousands of people, not very intelligent and certainly not more intelligent than the rest of us, have mastered problems as difficult as those that now baffle you."

-- William Feather (1889 - 1981), writer, cited in BITS & PIECES (B&P)

"To different minds, the same world is a hell and a heaven."

-- Ralph Waldo Emerson, QFTM 2/15/03

"Difficult times have helped me to understand better than before, how infinitely rich and beautiful life is in every way, and that so many things that one goes worrying about are of no importance whatsoever..."

-- Isak Dinesen, author, QFTM 4/26/03

"It is well to remember that the entire universe, with one trifling

exception, is composed of others."

-- John Andrew Holmes, Wit & Wisdom 12/13/03

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Choose To Maintain Joy

Philippians 1:12

A seasoned pastor encouraged seminary students to maintain their joy in the ministry even in difficult times by exercising the power of choice. Paul chose joy DESPITE HIS CHAINS, critics, and crisis, said John Powers, pastor of First Baptist Norfolk, Virginia.

Preaching from Philippians 1:12-30, he said that Paul chose to look at his chains as an instrument clearing a way for advancing the gospel, starting with the praetorian guards who took turns watching his every move.

"With each new guard came an opportunity for the apostle Paul to share his faith," said Powers, adding that they heard him pray, preach, and dictate letters for two years.

"He had joy in spite of his chains," said Powers. "And because of that, his joy created a confidence in others to speak the word of God with boldness."

Paul also chose joy DESPITE HIS CRITICS, Powers said.

Some Christians in Rome had selfish desires and agendas, which included undermining Paul's ministry and creating problems for him, he noted.

"You cannot hurt a computer's feelings, and you cannot grieve a theological concept, but you can destroy a man." he said. "Paul was destructible, but he was not destroyed ... because he chose joy."

The Southwestern graduate advised current students to avoid pettiness because most of the things that create problems in the ministry are not worth the trouble.

"A lot of joy could occur in ministry if we would learn to leave [alone] a few differences between people," he said.

Paul also chose joy DESPITE BEING IN A CRISIS.

Choosing joy will create a positive attitude, said Powers, joking that an optimist goes fishing with a camera and a frying pan.

However, he warned about Satan, who wants to steal joy from God's servants in four ways -- problems, people, possessions, and pressures.

"Problems and ministry are synonymous," he said, emphasizing that understanding the difference between happiness and joy is paramount.

Joy is different from happiness because the latter depends on "happenings," said Powers. "People have a way of stealing your joy, if you let them. There is one constant in ministry: people are going to be people."

Powers warned against depending on people for joy.

"Also, possessions will steal our joy," he said, "when you focus on stuff, things, [and] what somebody else has you may not have."

Pressure is great from the outside because of lost people "hurling" toward hell, he said, adding that expectations from inside the church and personal struggles within have the potential to "siphon" joy from ministers.

Then Powers warned seminary students and faculty about the seven siphons of spiritual joy. JOY IS LOST WHEN:

-- Christian servants have words without actions;

-- Christian servants become busy without purpose;

-- relationships fail to provide mutual nourishment;

-- Christian servants serve without a Sabbath;

-- spiritual gifts are used without God's power;

-- Christian servants possess great theology without adequate spirituality;

-- Christian servants exercise faith without self-examination and

accountability.

Paul refused to allow joy from his heart to be siphoned, and he chose joy in the midst of the crisis he faced, said Powers.

"This discomfort that he was experiencing could not compare with the ultimate experience that Christ was being exulted in his body," he said, concluding that for Paul, "...to live is Christ and to die is gain."

Drug abuse biggest problem facing kids, poll finds

02:17 PM ET 12/08/97

Drug abuse biggest problem facing kids, poll finds

WASHINGTON (Reuters) - People think drug abuse is the biggest single problem facing American children today, according to a survey published on Monday.

The survey, commissioned by the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation and the Harvard School of Public Health, found that despite dramatic media coverage of incidents of child abuse, most Americans do not think it is an overwhelming threat.

"Three issues dominate the public's concern about the future of children in this country -- drugs, crime and home life breakdown," said Robert Blendon of Harvard University, who directed the study. "Almost every other concern about the problems facing children has been overwhelmed by these issues."

Asked what the two or three most serious problems facing American children today were, 56 percent said drugs or drug abuse, 24 percent said crime, 17 percent said poor quality education and 16.6 percent the breakdown of home life.

Only 1.2 percent said child abuse and 0.2 percent said sexual abuse were the most serious problems,

"These numbers contrast dramatically with what was reported by a Harris survey in 1986, when drugs were mentioned 52 percent of the time, home life 46 percent, child and sexual abuse 28 percent, poor quality education nine percent and alcohol abuse nine percent," the foundation, a health care charity, said in a statement.

AIDS and drugs were the top health problems named by the 1,500 adults surveyed for the poll.

Most thought American children were better off or about the same in terms of health than 10 years ago, but 53 percent thought they were worse off when it came to parental care and attention.

The survey of adults nationwide, conducted by Survey Research Center for Harvard, found most believe children's health is the responsibility of parents, but 60 percent said they would personally be willing to pay more taxes to provide health insurance for children who lack it.

^REUTERS@

A Very Lousy Day

Job 1

Barb Trenchi, 50, of Everett, Washington, was crossing a street in Seattle when a car sped through a red light and nearly ran her down. A police car was in hot pursuit. "I was in the middle of the intersection and saw the police lights and thought, 'What else could happen to me today?'" she says.

It had indeed been a bad day for her: she had reported her car stolen from her home that morning, about 30 miles away. It was about then that she realized that the car being chased was hers. The pursuit ended shortly after -- when the guy driving her car crashed into someone else.

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May We Always Have:

Enough happiness to keep us sweet;

Enough sorrow to keep us human;

Enough faith to give us courage;

Enough wealth to meet our needs;

Enough trials to keep us strong;

Enough failure to keep us humble;

Enough friends to give us comfort;

Enough determination to make each day a good one.

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Memo From God

I am God.

Today I will be handling all of your problems. Please remember that I do not need your help. If life happens to deliver a situation to you that you cannot handle, do not attempt to resolve it. Kindly put it in the SFGTD (something for God to do) box. It will be addressed in My time, not yours. Once the matter is placed into the box, do not hold on to it.

If you find yourself stuck in traffic; Don’t despair. There are people in this world for whom driving is an unheard of privilege. Should you have a bad day at work; Think of the man who has been out of work for years. Should you despair over a relationship gone bad; Think of the person who has never known what it’s like to love and be loved in return. Should you grieve the passing of another weekend; Think of the woman in dire straits, working twelve hours a day, seven days a week to feed her children.

Should your car break down, leaving you miles away from assistance; Think of the paraplegic who would love the opportunity to take that walk. Should you notice a new gray hair in the mirror; Think of the cancer patient in chemo who wishes she had hair to examine. Should you find yourself at a loss and pondering what is life all about, asking what is my purpose? Be thankful. There are those who didn’t live long enough to get the opportunity. Should you find yourself the victim of other people’s bitterness, ignorance, smallness or insecurities; Remember, things could be worse. You could be them!

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When Our Blemishes Become Assets

The story is told of a friend by the name of Webb Young. Webb Young grew beautiful apples, and he advertised them to a very select clientele as "perfect." One year just before time to harvest his apples, a heavy hail storm came. It did not harm the apples, but it left unsightly brown spots on them. He felt hopelessly defeated. He could not afford to send his apples out with those brown spots on them.

A lesser man would have given up, but he kept thinking until he came up with a saving idea. He harvested the apples and packed them in boxes, as he normally did. Then in each box he placed a card which stated that these apples were grown in high altitude and that the chill of the mountain made the apples firm. He also explained that in these high altitudes they often have hail storms. Then he said that if one will look closely at the apples, hail marks upon them can be observed. It is a matter of record that the next year the overwhelming majority of his orders were for "hail-marked" apples.

For Webb Young and his apples-the blemishes became assets.

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This Too Shall Pass

Romans 8:18

"What is your favorite Scripture?" someone once asked an elderly woman. "My favorite Scripture is, '...and it came to pass...." When asked why she chose this one she said, "Because it does not say, '...it came to stay...."

Everything is temporary. What will not be changed by the passing of time will be changed by the end of time. The biblical principle is that we are to look beyond any problem, suffering, and confusion of this time and look to the future reward. Paul said, "I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us" (Romans 8:18).

We can live with present problems because of their temporal nature.

Why bother to fuss, fume and stew over something that will be gone sooner or later? Instead, concentrate all your energy on what you can influence, and attempt to make a better life for yourself and those in your circle of influence.

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The Big and the Small Souls

The great soul prays, "Lord, make me as big as my problem." The little soul prays, "Lord, let me off easy."

The giant soul asks, "Lord, give me strength sufficient for a hard day," while the small soul begs, "Lord, let me have a lighter load."

The busy soul prays, "Lord, stand with me until I finish my task," while the weak soul says, "I got tired and quit."

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Giants In the Land

I stood on Jordan’s shore,

As my eyes the horizon scanned;

I longed to cross the river,

But feared the giants in the land.

Though God said milk and honey

Were waiting there for me,

The shadows of those giants

Were all my eyes could see.

But then He whispered gently,

“Rise up and take a stand,

For in Me you have more power

Than all the giants in the land.

For I will give you every place

Where you will set your feet;

In faith just cross on over

And put your trust in Me.”

I stepped into the water,

At my feet it rolled away;

A path opened up before me,

A straight and narrow way.

And just as He had promised,

According to His plan,

When I fixed my eyes on Him

I saw no giants in the land.

Death is life’s crowning adventure.

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The S F J T D Box

[If a problem comes to] you that you cannot handle, do not attempt to resolve it. Kindly put it in the SFJTD (something for Jesus to do) box. It will be addressed in my time, not yours.

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Quotes On Problem Solving

“Don’t dwell on what went wrong. Instead, focus on what to do next. Spend your energies on moving forward toward finding the answer.” — Denis Waitley

“The problem is not that there are problems. The problem is expecting otherwise and thinking that having problems is a problem.” — Theodore Rubin

“Every problem has in it the seeds of its own solution. If you don’t have any problems, you don’t get any seeds… “ — Norman Vincent Peale

“To solve any problem, there are three questions to ask yourself: First, what could I do? Second, what could I read? And third, whom could I ask?” — Jim Rohn

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Daily Challenge

1 Corinthians 10:12

”So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don’t fall!” (1 Corinthians 10:12, NIV).

It has been said that, “Everybody either has a problem, lives with a problem, or is a problem!”

How true this is. Everybody has a problem, a challenge, or a difficulty to live with. And if they don’t right now, just wait a while.

In my experience, the people who claim they don’t have any problems are often in denial and sometimes have the biggest problems of all. People in denial can’t be helped.

It’s only as we admit our weaknesses, struggles, failures, and problems can we get help from anyone, including from God.

You’re probably familiar with the following prayer:

Dear Lord,

So far today, I’ve done all right, I haven’t lost my temper. I haven’t been greedy, grumpy, nasty, selfish or overindulgent. I’m very thankful for that Lord. But in a few minutes, I’m going to get out of bed. And, from then on, I’m probably going to need a lot of help.

While this is a tongue-in-cheek prayer, there is much truth in it. Without God’s help, none of us can live a life that will fully glorify him. True, some may be able to do much better than others, but those of us with “feet of clay” surely need the Lord’s help to manage our difficulties and to live the Christian life.

Suggested prayer: “Dear God, I surely do have feet of clay and need your help to overcome my problems, weaknesses, and the sins ‘that so easily beset me.’ Also, please help me to learn how to accept and manage creatively the challenges in my life that can’t be changed. Gratefully in Jesus’ name. Amen.”

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Uncontrolled Heart

Mark 2:18

We continue focusing on the thought that one of the reasons why we go through the same difficulties and problems year after year is that we never stop to examine ourselves and find out what makes us act the way we do. The psalmist examined himself in the presence of God and discovered that three things had led him astray.

First, he saw that he had allowed his heart to rule his head: “When my heart was grieved and my spirit embittered, I was senseless and ignorant” (Psa. 73:21-22). Notice the psychology of this — he put the heart before the head. Many of our troubles are due to the fact that we are governed by the feelings that arise in our hearts rather than the clear thinking that should be going on in our heads. When the heart gets in control, it bludgeons us into believing things that are not true. It makes us stupid.

The psalmist thought that his feelings about the ungodly were facts, but this was nothing more than what psychologists call “emotional reasoning” – believing that what you feel is the way things really are. The moment the psalmist’s feelings were corrected by the facts, the feelings disappeared. There was no real problem at all. He had “worked himself up”, as we say, into a self-induced frenzy. I have done this myself (and so, I am sure, have you) when I have allowed my feelings to dominate me to such an extent that I have begun to believe that molehills were mountains. The real trouble in the psalmist’s life was not what was going on in his outer world, but what was going on in his inner world. In other words, the real source of his trouble was himself.

PRAYER:

Father, I see more clearly every day that most of my problems are the ones I make for myself by my wrong thinking and wrong perceptions. Help me keep my heart under control by biblical thinking. In Jesus’ Name I ask it. Amen.

FURTHER STUDY:– Mark 2:1-8; Heb. 3:12; 2 Pet. 2:14

1. What did the teachers of the law fail to realize?

2. What are we to watch out for?

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Solving Problems Through Prayer

1 Thessalonians 5:24

Jehoshaphat had admonished Israel to return to the Lord, reminding a rebellious nation of the God who had freed it from bondage in Egypt and sustained it through much adversity. Then came the report that three tribes were mounting an attack on Israel.

Jehoshaphat’s response was a godly example not only for Israel but also for us today. The king’s first act was to immediately seek the Lord. By doing so, Jehoshaphat inherently demonstrated the knowledge that God is interested in all of man’s problems and that nothing is bigger than God.

Becoming a Christian does not give us a free ride from the problems of life. When we encounter trouble, our first response always should be to seek the Lord.

God will give us a solution to the problem-in His timing. We may have to wait for His answer. The wait may be long. He often uses such times to mold our character and to teach us principles He knows we lack. Sometimes, we’re not ready for His perfect answer, so He has to prepare us.

Finally, God’s answer to our Christ-centered (not problem-centered) prayers usually requires an act of faith on our part. Sometimes-as with having a choir lead an army into battle-His plans won’t immediately make sense. But they are perfect. “Faithful is He who calls you, and He also will bring it to pass” (1 Thess. 5:24).

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Know Your Bible: Job

Job 1:1

INTRODUCING THE OLD TESTAMENT — JOB — by Dr. W. Graham Scroggie

From ‘Know Your Bible’ © Pickering and Inglis Ltd., London

Keyword: Tested

Chapters: 42

The author of this writing is unknown, as are the time of writing and the period in which Job lived. That the hero of the poem was a real person and not the creation of imagination is evident from such references as Ezekiel 14:14, 20, and James 5 :11, as well as from internal evidence.

The dramatic form in which the story is cast in no way invalidates its historical trustworthiness.

So little is there in the poem to indicate the age in which Job lived that opinions have varied by as much as 1,000 years. Some take the view that he lived be-fore Abraham, and would place the story between the eleventh and twelfth chapters of Genesis; and others would place him in the captivity or post-captivity period. This shows that the value of the writing is quite independent of date, and is indeed, as to its great message, dateless.

MAGNIFICENT DRAMA

The first thing that claims our attention is the form of the story. There are epic and lyric elements in the composition, but the poem is a magnificent drama, in which no element of dramatic effect is wanting.

This book might well be placed with the poetical writings, for as to its form, it is a poem; but having regard for its theme, we place it with the wisdom writings the Proverbs and Ecclesiastes. These three books deal with the fundamental principles of the Bible and of all religious philosophy.

In Job we see a man who “was perfect and upright, one that feared God, and eschewed evil.”

The mistake of Satan was in thinking that Job served God for what he could get. The mistake of Job’s wife was in thinking that with the loss of the visible and human all was lost. The mistake of Job’s friends was in thinking that Job‘s suffering was the direct outcome of his sin. The mistake of Elihu was in thinking that he was right, and that all the others were wrong; and the mistake of Job was in thinking that God was unkind.

THE DIVINE GREATNESS

The problem of pain is not solved in this book, but we are shown what kind of a God God is. We are shown first his power in creation,

and man’s weakness; and then, his wisdom in government, and man’s ignorance.

At the end of the mighty drama Satan is routed, the friends are rebuked and Job is rewarded. “The Eternal does not answer our insistent questions; God does not explain, but he does give to the anguished spirit such a sense of the divine greatnessthat questioning ceases in the peace of submission.”

This poem has manifold values. There is a philosophic value in its discussion of the underlying meaning of life as a whole; a scientific value in its observation of nature; a prophetical value in its authoritative divine message; a biographical value in itsdelineation of character; a rhetorical value in its many and marvellous speeches.

There is a historical value in its references to places, people, and customs; a literary value in its whole concept and form; a providential value in its view that God allows his people to suffer for their good; a spiritual value in its revelation of another world and superhuman beings; and a practical value in its teaching on fearing and trusting God.

THE THEME OF THE DRAMA

The theme of the drama in the book of Job is “The Mystery of Suffering,” or “The Problem of Pain,” and in the discussion of this are introduced God, Satan, Job, the friends and Elihu.

The prose prologue begins with Job and God, and the prose epilogue ends with them. Between the prologue and the epilogue is the drama describing the struggle.

A KEY TO HISTORY

The book, it has been said, is a key to the whole Bible and to man’s history from creation to completed redemption:

(1) Man unfallen and tried;

(2) sinning and suffering;

(3) seeking human help in legality, morality, philosophy;

(4) needing and receiving a revelation from God;

(5) humbled, penitent, believing; and

(6) restored to a better estate than at first.

The poem teaches that suffering is not always penal and retributive, but may be disciplinary and educative.

Of Job, Thomas Carlyle has said :

“I call this book, apart from all theories about it, one of the grandest things ever written. One feels, in-deed, as if it were not He-brew; such a noble universality, different from noble patriotism or sectarianism, reigns in it. A noble book, all men’s book! It is our first, oldest statement of the never ending problem

man’s destiny and God’s ways with him here on this earth. And all in such free, flowing outlines; grand in its sincerity, its simplicity, its epic melody and repose of reconcilement.

NOTHING OF EQUAL MERIT

“There is the seeing eye, the mildly understanding heart. So true every way; true insight and vision for all things, material things no less than spiritual. … Such living likenesses were never since drawn. Sublime sorrow, sublime reconciliation; oldest choral melody, as of the heart of mankind; so soft, and great; as the summer midnight, as the world with its seas and stars! There is nothing written, I think, in the Bible or out of it, of equal literary merit.”

THE FIVE GREAT PROBLEMS

The central part of the Old Testament, comprising the wisdom and poetical books, treats of the five great problems of all ages: Job, the problem of suffering; Psalms, the problem of

prayer; Proverbs, the problem of conduct; Ecclesiastes, the problem the chief good; Song of Solomon, the problem of love.

The solution of all thse problems is found only in Christ. He suffered, he prayed, he behaved perfectly, he revealed God, and he is love.

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God Will Sustain

Psalms 55:22

Cast thy burden upon the Lord, and he shall sustain thee. — Psalm 55:22.

Do we hesitate to take our problems and burdens to God in prayer because we feel they are so small He cannot be interested in them? We need not fear that our troubles — even those that may appear insignificant in the eyes of the world — are unimportant to God. Did not Jesus say that the very hairs of our heads are numbered? God is the God of all things, both great and small. Therefore, whatever concerns us is of concern to Him. According to the inspired apostle, we are to cast “all our care” not some of it, but all of it upon Him, “for He careth for you.” An English poet has recently expressed God’s thought in these words:

“Your smallest trials are not small to Me;

Pray on; your simplest prayer will reach My ear;

An earthly father pitieth the fear

Of children … And you are My child,” saith He.

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Trustful Prayer

Isaiah 38:14

0 Lord, I am oppressed; undertake for me. — Isaiah 38:14.

If you have any trial that seems intolerable, pray. One disabled from duty by sickness may pray for health, that he may do his work. Or one hemmed in by internal impediments may pray for utterance; but the answer to the prayer may be, as it was with Paul, not the removal of the thorn, but instead, a growing insight into its meaning and value. — J. F. Clarke.

Being perplexed I say,

Lord, make it right!

Night is as day to Thee,

Darkness is light.

I am afraid to touch

Things that involve so much;

My trembling hand may shake,

My skilless hands may break:

Thine can make no mistake. — Anna Warner

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Got Problems?

Mark 8:36

Due to my trade, I read a lot of biographies on the stars. Like many others, I’m fascinated by Hollywood’s constellation. People like Bogey and Sinatra and John Wayne have captured the imagination of many a film watcher for many a decade. Including me.

These people seem bigger than life. Some, like Errol Flynn or Marilyn Monroe, were exquisite. Others were gifted with almost everything –- from looks to talent to long-lasting fame. Remember Dean Martin? At his height of coolness, the handsome crooner had conquered nightclubs, radio, TV and movies. And though much of his screen time was wasted on dreadful D-movies such as the Matt Helm series, he occasionally wowed critics with performances in films such as “The Young Lions,” “Rio Bravo” and “Some Came Running.” (Oh, and as bad as those Matt Helm movies were, they made Dean a fortune.) A great singer, considered the best straight man in the business, he also had a quick, hilarious wit. He even had great hair. Dean simply had it all.

Dean Martin’s easygoing manner made it difficult to associate him with everyday problems the rest of us mere mortals must endure. The truth, however, is that even Dean Martin had his trials and tribulations. And because his career always took precedence, his family (seven kids and three ex-wives) suffered added ordeals.

In latter years, poor health took its toll on the once great-looking guy. He became frail, emaciated, like a skeleton of his former self. He suffered from pain and also from heartbreak. His son Dino, a pilot for the California Air National Guard, died in a jet crash. It is reported that Dean never recovered from that loss.

Countless movie stars lost fortunes through bad business ventures or crooked money managers. Dean lost tons of money. So did John Wayne. So did Errol Flynn. So did Jerry Lewis. These were lucky; their fame endured long enough for them to make new fortunes. Others weren’t so lucky. Comedians Abbot and Costello and bandleader Woody Herman (showbiz giants in their day) got in trouble with the IRS and spent their remaining years struggling with finances.

MGM leading lady Lana Turner married seven times and had countless lovers. She searched her whole life for the right man, only to find the right man for the moment. Marlon Brando, considered by many as the greatest actor ever, lost one child to suicide, while another went to prison for shooting his sister’s abusive boyfriend. There was even question of Brando’s sanity through much of his life. Debonair David Niven, perhaps the wittiest actor of his generation, was abandoned by an unfeeling second wife during his final years.

I have yet to read a bio of an actor who didn’t suffer from turmoil and mental distress at some point in his lifetime –- usually at the end, finding little if any satisfaction from worldly success.

Even the rich, good-looking and famous are unable to escape problems. And no matter how much they obtain, there’s just a little more outside their reach. Conclusion: Life is about more than gaining the whole world –- or even the little cottage with the white picket fence. Life is a fleeting moment in time, an obstacle course filled with mountains and valleys. And each obstacle we face has to do with character development and faith.

Colossians 3:2 says, “Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.”

James 1:2-4 says, “Consider it pure joy, my bothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.”

There are those, even in the Christian community, who associate success with fame or financial abundance. The last line in the film “Patton” refutes that theory, “All glory is fleeting.”

Just ask a 16-year-old, “Who’s Dean Martin?”

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Giant-killing 101

1 Samuel 17:4

Sermon on overcoming giants in our lives. 1 Samuel 17:4-10, 40-45

GIANT-KILLING 101 (*)

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I. Everybody has their giants.

II. David, the giant-killer.

A. Summary of his confrontation with Goliath.

B. Goliath's attributes.

C. David took him on with five smooth stones.

III. Rock #1 -- Assess your giant.

A. Don't overestimate him.

B. Don't underestimate yourself.

IV. Rock #2 -- Take action.

A. Just talking doesn't solve problems.

B. The J-D-I strategy: JUST DO IT.

V. Rock #3 -- Attack the first giant you meet.

A. Philistines were not their only enemy of Israel.

B. Focus on your biggest problems first.

VI. Rock #4 -- Use the weapons at hand.

A. Everyone has ideas on how to kill your giant.

B. Use what you have.

VII. Rock #5 -- Remember that it is God's fight.

A. David had great courage because he had a great God. 17:45,47

B. Our Father knows how to protect his kids.

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(*) Adapted from the article "Giant-Killing 101" by Jeris E. Bragan; Discipleship Journal #59, Sept-Oct 1990, pages 6-11.

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The Perfect Storm

1 Timothy 1:19

[Hold] on to faith and a good conscience. Some have rejected these and so have shipwrecked their faith. –1 Timothy 1:19

Sebastian Junger’s book The Perfect Storm tells the gripping story of deep-sea fishermen caught in monstrous seas. Billy Tyne captains the Andrea Gail, a swordfish boat making a risky late-season foray into the unforgiving Atlantic. They have a hatch full of fish, a failing ice machine that threatens to spoil the catch, and a crew bent on getting home–circumstances that combine with three converging, howling storms to spawn a disaster.

The Andrea Gail’s problems were compounded by an ever-narrowing set of choices. Deceptively calm weather lured the veteran captain into a gathering gale. By the time he realized he was sailing into the heart of the Perfect Storm, he was out of options.

Life can be more vicious than the nastiest nor’easter or Gulf Coast hurricane. While we’re young, it seems we have an inexhaustible set of options. We can play, work, and watch stupid TV shows. We can squander our money and still get fed. We can choose a bad set of friends, acquire destructive habits, and take the easy way out every time. But eventually we’ll find our options narrowing. And somewhere out there, ominous weather patterns are forming, which will soon test our integrity and batter our beliefs, for we’ll be on our own.

The story of Samson shows us the result of making all the wrong choices. You can read his entire story in four brief chapters (Judges 13-16). Because of his supernatural strength, Samson thought he was invincible, so he ignored God. He willfully violated every vow he had taken and brought disgrace to his family. But Samson’s bad choices led him into the hands of the enemy. It cost him his eyes, his dignity, his freedom, his magnificent strength, and his life. What a pathetic end!

What’s ironic is that Samson, for all his gross foolishness, is still held up as a hero of the faith who “administered justice, and gained what was promised” (Hebrews 11:32-33). That’s God’s incredible grace! Still, no one wants to become a tragic hero like Samson.

Perhaps you’re struggling with a disturbing pattern of bad, or merely less than good, choices. Don’t lose heart. With the Holy Spirit’s guidance, you can do the right thing, starting right now. Before the storm hits, learn now to rely on the One who gives us perfect peace. –TG

REFLECTION

• What primary principle governs my decisions? Maximum fun? Materialism? Power? Or serving God?

• Do I squander my time, or invest it in a God-centered future?

Wise choices now bring good results later.

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Responding To Life

Romans 8:28

”… we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” (Romans 8:28)

Before going on to examine some of the major ways in which life breaks us, we pause to review what we have been saying over these past few days. We said that while the same things may happen to us all, they do not have the same effect upon us all. Life’s blows make some people querulous and bitter; others, they sweeten and refine. We also saw that the reason some respond to life positively and turn their problems into possibilities is because of right inner attitudes.

There are many non-Christians who put us to shame when it comes to the question of rightly responding to life, and it is high time, therefore, that we Christians got our philosophy of living sorted out once and for all. If, as the Scripture teaches (1 Corinthians 10:13), God will let nothing happen to one of His children without supplying the necessary grace to turn the stumbling block into a stepping stone, then we ought to be ahead of the world in demonstrating how to meet whatever life sends us with confidence and faith. Be quite clear about this: no one can fully represent the Christian way of living until they commit themselves to believing that, though God may allow what appears to be a disaster in the life of one of His children, He does so only if He can turn it to good effect. If transformation is not possible, then God would never have allowed it to happen in the first place.

So let this truth sink deep into your spirit – God only allows what He can use.

PRAYER: Father, I come to You now to ask that this truth be so impressed upon me during the weeks ahead that never again will I have to be reminded of it. For Your own dear Name’s sake. Amen.

FURTHER STUDY: — 1 Peter 4; Psalm 30:5; Psalm 40:1-3; Isaiah 43:2

1. What is God’s promise during trials?

2. How does Peter encourage us to respond to them?

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Doing What Is Right

Luke 12:11

“… continue to work out your salvation … for it is God who works in you to will and to act according to his good purpose.” (Phil 2:12-13)

We ended yesterday by saying that the biblical response to all of life’s problems is to take advantage of the unfailing grace of God, and turn our setbacks into springboards. I know that some will respond to that statement by saying, “It sounds good in theory, but it’s hard to put it into practice. What about the hurts that some people carry inside them, that make it difficult or sometimes impossible for them to make use of God’s grace to turn their problems into possibilities?”

I do understand and sympathize with the wounds that people have, which sometimes militate against their desire to respond to life in a biblical way. I know from firsthand experience the arguments that people can put forward to avoid doing what God asks in His Word. However, I must take my stand, and so must you, on the authority of Scripture, and affirm that God never asks us to do what we are incapable of doing.

Much of evangelical Christianity, I am afraid, is man-centered. We need a return to a God-centered position which does exactly what God asks, whether we feel like it or not. I freely confess that there are times when I don’t feel like obeying God. I know, however, what is right – that God has redeemed me and that I belong to Him – and I do what He wants me to whether I feel like it or not. What controls you in your Christian life – your feelings or what you know God asks and expects you to do? Your answer will reveal just who is in the driver’s seat!

PRAYER:

Gracious and loving heavenly Father, teach me the art of responding to life, not with my feelings but with a clear mind and a clear resolve. Help me to do what is right – whether I feel like it or not. For Jesus’ sake. Amen..

FURTHER STUDY: — John 14:15-31; Luke 12:11-12; 1 Corinthians 2:13

1. How do we express our love for Christ?

2. How are we enabled to do this?

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Two Men - Different Reactions

2 Corinthians 12:9

“… ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’” (2 Corinthians 12:9)

We must spend another day examining this very important issue of why it is that some non-Christians seem to respond better to life’s problems than many Christians. Just recently I heard of two different people whose business ventures collapsed. One was a Christian and the other an agnostic. The agnostic responded to the situation by saying, “I cannot determine what happens to me, but I can determine what it will do to me. It will make me better and more useful.” He struck out in another direction, and his new venture prospered to such a degree that he won an award.

The Christian responded to the collapse of his business by saying, “Life is unjust. What’s the point of trying? I shall withdraw from the cutthroat world of business and concentrate on my garden.” He had to undergo some in-depth counseling before he was on his feet again, and after six months he felt strong enough to rebuild a new and now prosperous business.

What can explain the different reactions of these two men? We could explain it in terms of temperament, upbringing, and so on, but there is one thing that must not be overlooked — the Christian had access to the grace of God which, if utilized, should have enabled him to view the situation even more positively than the non-Christian. As a counselor, I understand why people respond wrongly to life’s situations. However, my understanding of it does not prevent me from recognizing that the true biblical response to life’s problems is to take full advantage of the grace of God and turn every setback into a springboard.

PRAYER:

Gracious Father, help me to respond to everything in the way a Christian should. Help me to see that not only do You lift the standard high, but You also supply the strength for me to attain it. For Jesus’ sake. Amen.

FURTHER STUDY: — James 1:1-15; Ephesians 3:16; Isaiah 41:10

1. What does James teach us about trials?

2. What was Paul’s prayer for the Ephesians?

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Living Again After Divorce

Romans 12:18

”If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone” (Romans 12:18, NIV).

If we live in the Western World and don’t already know someone who has gone through divorce, sooner or later we will. Sadly, it is happening far too much … and Christians aren’t immune from it.

Both Joan and Brad thought divorce was the answer to their problems. But it wasn’t. They left each other, but both took their own problems with them. It also created a lot of new problems — ones they hadn’t fully considered, such as severe financial problems especially for Joan who was left to take care of the three children when she became a single working parent. Then there was the problem of loneliness and bitter disappointment — especially at holiday seasons such as Christmas — with memories of happier days and now living with shattered dreams of what was or might have been.

It is true that God hates divorce. Who doesn’t? There are many other things God hates, too, such as legalism, gossip and a judgmental attitude and anything else that is destructive of human personality. That also includes destructive marriages where there may not be divorce, but there is bitterness, envy, cheating, dishonesty, fighting, physical abuse, emotional abuse, unresolved problems that hurt each other and the children, parents who are emotionally distant from each other and the children, and spouses who are already emotionally divorced from each other., etc., etc.

If divorce has happened to you, as shattering as it is, it doesn’t have to be a self-defeating experience. It can be God’s wake-up call to help you face what you contributed to your marriage breakup. And then, with God’s help and that of an understanding counselor and/or supportive friends, in time you can pick up the pieces of your shattered dreams, grow to overcome any unresolved character issues and/or personal problems you may have, and become a much healthier person as a result.

In divorce and any other disappointment or failure, the enemy will want to use it to make us bitter, disillusioned and resentful, but God wants to use it to help us grow and become the persons he envisioned us to be. We can become bitter or better. That choice is ours.

Suggested prayer: “Dear God, please help me not to be judgmental of those whose marriages have failed and where the partners have divorced, but to be an under- standing and supportive friend. And help me in all of my relationships to be the loving, kind and understanding person you want me to be. Gratefully in Jesus’ name. Amen.”

And for those who have been divorced …

“Dear God, it saddens me to know that my marriage has failed and where I have failed, please forgive me. Help me to see what I contributed to my marriage breakup. Please lead me to the help I need to heal my broken heart and to overcome my character defects and weaknesses so I can become a healthier person. Gratefully in Jesus’ name. Amen.”

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