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Criticism in Christian preaching often highlights the tension between human judgment and divine grace, urging believers to avoid harsh fault-finding and to exercise humility and love instead (James 4:11-12). Illustrations frequently portray public figures, churches, or individuals facing unfair scrutiny, using images of trials, misunderstood efforts, and the call to respond with grace rather than retaliation.

Any Future For the Church?

The Church is, at any season, an easy target for criticism. There always and inevitably is a wide gap between the performance of human beings who comprise congregations and the Christian ideal of selfless love which the church espouses.

But to acknowledge that the church has many shortcomings is not the same as saying that it is an evil or expendable institution, as some of its harsher critics seem to be suggesting these days.

The most savage attacks on the church seem to come from people who profess to stand within the Christian tradition and to judge the church by Christian standards.

To such persons, if not to outsiders, it should be germane to note that the church is not a human invention which men may feel free to dismantle at will. It is a fellowship called into being by Jesus Christ himself, and the New Testament clearly indicates it is an integral part of God’s continuing effort to achieve reconciliation with an alienated world.

Obviously the church is now going through a period in which it is being confronted with its failures and called back to its true mission. It is not the first such period of course correction, and it probably won’t be the last. It will be a traumatic experience for members of the body -- it always is.

But those who predict its demise are ignoring the testimony of 2,000 years of history as well as the Bible’s firm promise that the church will endure, because it belongs not to men but to God.

Is the Bible In Danger?

Is the Bible in Danger?

The Bible is not in danger because:

1. It has already survived the attacks 1800 [1900] years.

2. It meets and satisfies the deepest needs of man in every generation.

3. There is nothing else to take the place of the Bible.

4. It has a hold that cannot be shaken, on the confidence and affection of

the wisest and best men and women.

5. Any honest and earnest seeker after truth can find out for himself that

the Bible is God's Word.

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from Biblical Evangelist · R. A. Torrey via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database criticism

Why Bother To Answer?

Abraham Lincoln, the 16th president, was a continuous target of the press both in word and picture. Even his Gettysburg Address was lambasted by the experts at the time it was delivered. A Pennsylvania paper called it "silly remarks." A Chicago paper described it as an insult to the memory of the brave men who had fallen in battle. The criticism even spanned the Atlantic and one London paper painted it "dull and commonplace."

No one thinks that today! It is hailed as one of the greatest speeches ever made by a mortal, especially because it said so much in so few words. At any rate, Honest Abe learned early to roll with the punches. Here's how he described his philosophy about criticism:

"If I were to read, much less answer, all the attacks made on me, this shop might as well be closed for any other business. I do the very best I know how, the very best I can; and I mean to keep on doing so until the end. If the end brings me out all right, then what is said against me won't matter. If the end brings me out wrong, then 10 angels swearing I was right would make no difference."

A good philosophy, but difficult to follow.

[President Ford quoted this when pardoning Richard Nixon.]

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As used Aug 27, 1989:

A number of years ago one of our Presidents gave a speech at a dedication ceremony for a cemetery. It was not well-received. A Pennsylvania paper called it “silly remarks.” A Chicago paper described it as an insult to the memory of the brave men who were buried there. The criticism even came from across the Atlantic - a London paper called the short speech “dull and commonplace.”

Abraham Lincoln’s Gettysburg Address took a while to be appreciated. Now that we know so much about him, we idolize him. But in his own day he faced constant criticism and second-guessing. Here is how he described his philosophy about criticism:

“If I were to read, much less answer, all the attacks made on me,

this shop might as well be closed for any other business. I do

the very best I know how, the very best I can; and I mean to keep

on doing so until the end. If the end brings me out all right,

then what is said against me won’t matter. If the end brings me

out wrong, then 10 angels swearing I was right would make no

difference.”

Piety On Fire

Jonathan Edwards outlines 5 marks of a genuine Christian movement in “The Distinguishing Marks of a Work of the Spirit of God”:

1. Jesus exalted as Savior and Son of God.

2. Opposes Satan and sin.

3. Teaches people to revere and trust Bible.

4. Makes people aware of eternity and their lostness without Christ.

5. Stirs up in them new love of Christ and others.

The Great Awakening had these marks. Packer then applies them to charismatic movement.

Become An Episcopalian

Jude 1:22

Cecil Osborne, an American Baptist pastor, talks about dealing with problem people in churches. Sometimes the best approach is surgery - kick them out. One woman told the pastor's wife she was in love with him; did he reciprocate, the wife asked? "Yes, I can tell he does because of the way he looks at me from the pulpit." He went to her with his associate and suggested she become an Episcopalian. Sometimes he is tough, sometimes gentle.

from Your Church · Cecil Osborne (Interview) via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database disciplinecriticism

Do We Have the Right To Judge?

Matthew 7

”From the fact that God’s judgment threatens man it is often deduced that no man has the right to judge another, (Mt. 7:1f; Jm 4:11; Rom 4:4,10; 1 Cor 4:5.) This does not imply flabby indifference to the moral condition of others nor the blind renunciation of attempts at a true and serious appraisal of those with whom we have to live.

• What is unconditionally demanded is that such evaluations should be subject to the certainty that God’s judgment falls also on those who judge, so that superiority, hardness and blindness to one’s own faults are excluded, and a readiness to forgive and to intercede is safeguarded. The emphatic way in which Jesus extended the law of love in this direction has far-reaching consequences.

• It means that the Church cannot practice discipline with merciless severity (2 Cor 11:24). It means that the Church cannot take up a hard, contemptuous and supercilious attitude towards those whom it regards as sinners.

• It means that Church discipline must make predominant, if not exclusive, use of means which promote edification and pastoral care. Precisely the unreserved seriousness with which the community takes the concept of judgment in the Gospel is that which enables it to overcome a mere legalism in its religious and moral life.”

– (Buchsel) – [3:929]

They Look Like Unsavory Characters

John 7:24

Many years ago an Episcopalian bishop was sailing to Europe on one of the great ocean liners. When he got on board, he was told he would have to share his room with another passenger. He checked out the room, then went up to the information desk and asked if he could put his gold watch and wallet in the ship's safe. The Bishop explained that he didn't do this ordinarily, but he had been to his cabin and didn't like the looks of his roommate.

The clerk took the valuables and said, “No problem, I'll be glad to take care of them for you. Your roommate has already been here and left his stuff for the same reason.”

No One Expected Me!

Luke 14:15

Poem from newsletter:

I dreamed death came the other night

And heaven's gates swung wide.

With kindly grace an angel gently

Ushered me inside.

And there to my astonishment

Stood folks I'd known on earth.

Some I'd judged and labeled to be

Unfit or of little worth.

Indignant words rose to my lips

But never were set free,

For every face showed stunned surprise -

NO ONE EXPECTED ME !

(Unknown)

from Succasunna Methodist Newsletter · Unknown (submitted by Karen McCollum) via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database criticismsalvationheaven

The Aids Center

Hope House gives non-judgmental care to those with AIDS. Their lifestyle is not condemned or condoned. Spiritual care is offered. "We reverence the value of our clients on the level of their personhood, and are therefore sensitive to, but do not identify ourselves with any one particular lifestyle."

from Hope House In Dover, New Jersey via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database judgmentcaring

Carrying the Donkey

Luke 11:46

Old story: A man and his son were riding on their heavily-burdened donkey when a passer-by rebuked them. "Why are you burdening that poor beast? Don't you know that he is as much a creature of God as you are?" The man, ashamed, got down off the donkey. A few yards later, the boy got off. When they entered the town, each of them was carrying the donkey's burdens. By the time they left the town, they were carrying the donkey.

Some people are overly sensitive to suggestions and criticism.

from Christian Radio Program via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database criticismguilt

You Won't See A Statue To a Critic

Luke 6:37

A young musician's concert was poorly received by the critics. The famous finish composer Jean Sibelius consoled him by patting him on the shoulder and

saying, "Remember, son, there is no city in the world where they have erected a statue to a critic."

from Leadership · Haddon Robinson, Denver, Colorado via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database

Killer Soaps

Mark 14:5

At their school carnival, our kids won four free goldfish (lucky us!), so I went Saturday morning to find an aquarium.

The first few I priced ranged from $40 to $70. Then I spotted it - right in the aisle: a discarded 10 gallon display tank, complete with gravel and filter - for a mere five bucks. Sold! Of course, it was nasty dirty, but the savings made the two hours of clean-up a breeze.

Those four new fish looked great in their new home, at least for the first day. But Sunday one had died. Too bad, but three remained. Monday morning revealed a second casualty, and by Monday night a third goldfish had gone belly up.

We called in an expert, a member of our church who has a 30 gallon tank. It didn't take him long to discover the problem: I had washed the tank with soap, an absolute no-no. My uninformed efforts had destroyed the very lives I was trying to protect.

Sometimes in our zeal to clean up our own lives or the lives of others, we unfortunately us "Killer soaps" - Condemnation, criticism, nagging, fits of temper. We think we're doing right, but our harsh, self-righteous treatment is more than they can bear.

from Leadership · Richard L. Dunagin, Denton, Texas via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database criticismjudging

One Talent To Bury

Acts 11:2

On Christians who have only one talent:

One person told a pastor he thought he couldn't accomplish anything for God because he only had one talent. The pastor said, "Don't be discouraged, God can use it. "What is your talent, anyway?"

"My only talent is criticizing people."

"In that case," the pastor said, "you'd better do what the servant did - BURY IT."

from Tan's Encyclopedia of 7,700 Illustrations via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database

In Search of Heroes

Education in the past focused on exemplary lives – heroes – but modern society does all it can to debunk heroes. Biographies always find dirt on their subjects. Our children are being raised by an enemy culture interested in amusement, titillation and consumerism. Irreverence, skepticism and mockery permeate our scholarship and culture.

Sir Richard Livingstone, a 20th century educator, said, “True education is the habitual vision of greatness.”

Suggestions to correct the problem:

1. Portray old heroes as human beings, but let them remain heroic.

2. For a shabby age, find new heroes and heroines.

3. Give moral and ethical education the same importance as the

presentation of reality.

4. Be less mocking and disdainful of those in authority.

5. Hollywood and popular culture must be fought. It glorifies violence,

excitment and aberration.

6. Parents must try to make their lives exemplary for their children.

Giving In Secret

John 7:24

God alone knows the heart. One of the most famous preachers of the 1800's was Charles Spurgeon. He was Queen Victoria's favorite preacher, and he was a Baptist. Spurgeon and his wife had a practice of selling, but refusing to give away, the eggs their chickens laid. Even close relatives were told, "If you want them, you have to pay for them."

Since he had a huge church and a salary to match, some people labeled the Spurgeons as greedy. Sort of like how television evangelists are labeled today. The Spurgeons accepted the criticisms without defending themselves. It was only after Mrs. Spurgeon died that the whole story was revealed: All the profits from the sale of eggs went to support two elderly widows.

The critics never knew this; HOW OFTEN DO WE? There are many times when it is best to leave our doubts about others to Almighty God. He is still in charge of the universe - he'll know what to do with them.

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Another version, formerly #2001:

SOURCE: Leadership

TITLE: Giving In Secret

AUTHOR: Charles Spurgeon

PAGE: 49

DATE: Winter 1985

Charles Spurgeon and his wife, according to a story in The Chaplain magazine, would sell, but refused to give away, the eggs their chickens laid. Even close relatives were told, "You may have them if you pay for them." As a result some people labeled the Spurgeons greedy and grasping.

They accepted the criticisms without defending themselves, and only after Mrs. Spurgeons died was the full story revealed: All the profits from the sale of eggs went to support two elderly widows. Because the Spurgeons were unwilling to let their left hand know what the right hand was doing (Matt 6:3), they endured the attacks in silence.

from Leadership · Charles Spurgeon via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database judgingcharity

A Lesson In Insects

John 7:24

Walter Wangerin, in his collection of short stories “Ragman and Other Cries of Faith,” begins one of his stories with what seems to be a lesson in entomology, the study of insects (specifically spiders). But he surprisingly turns it into an unforgettable metaphor of spiritual truth.

He explains that a female spider is often a widow for embarrassing reasons – she regularly eats those who come her way. Lonely suitors and visitors alike quickly become corpses so that her dining room is a morgue. A visiting fly, having become captive, will be granted the illusion of wholeness, but she will have drunk his insides so that he has become his own hollow casket. Not a pleasant thought, especially if you have a touch or arachnaphobia!

The reasons for this macabre procedure is that she has no stomach and so is incapable of digesting anything within her. Through tiny punctures she injects her digestive juices into a fly so that his insides are broken down and turned into a warm soup. “This soup she swills,” says Wangerin as he makes the point, “even as most of us swill souls of one another after having cooked them in various enzymes: guilt, humiliations, subjectives, cruel love – there are a number of fine, acidic mixes. And some among us are so skilled with the hypodermic word that our dear ones continue to sit up and to smile, quite as though they were still alive.”

This is a gruesome but effective metaphor to describe the destructive power of evilly intended words. Words do not dissolve mere organs and nerves but souls! This world is populated by walking caskets because countless lives have been dissolved and sucked empty by another’s words.

Slander and fault-finding elevate us above God. When we acknowledge our sin, the lowly spider has another lesson for us. Sometimes a tiny famine descends upon the mother spider and her offspring. There are no flies to eat, and the spiders will die. Says Wangerin:

“But then, privately, she performs the deed unique among the living. Into her own body this spinster releases the juices that digest. Freely they run though her abdomen while she holds so still, digesting not some other meat, but her own, breaking down parts of her that kept her once alive, until her eyes are flat. She dies. She becomes the stomach for her children, and she herself the food.”

There is, of course, no morality in this. The spider, whether swilling the life of another or becoming soup for her children, is simply acting according to instinct. Nevertheless, it is a picture of what Christ did for us on the cross when “God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God” (2 Cor 5:21). It was our sin that Christ took upon himself. He cooked on the cross in the juices of our sins!

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from James, Faith That Works · R. Kent Hughes (Walter Wangerin, Ragman..., Harper & Row, 1984, P. 26) via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database judging

"Who Made You A Judge?"

John 7:24

Sermon in James series. Criticism and fault-finding. James 4:11-12

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WHO MADE YOU A JUDGE?

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I. Guilty as sin!

II. Run 'em down.

A. The literal Greek of this verse forbids more than slander.

B. Why do we run people down?

III. The truth is no defense.

A. Most agree that we should not slander people.

B. Many think it is okay to tell negative information if it is TRUE.

C. Face to face is no excuse.

D. Truth alone is not good enough. Only LOVE is.

IV. We can, and must, make judgments.

A. The Bible is full of human judgments.

B. Matthew 7:1 is often interpreted to forbid all judgments.

C. We have a duty to make judgments.

D. Making RIGHT JUDGMENTS is the rub. John 7:24

V. Why judgmentalism is wrong.

A. We elevate ourselves above the Bible.

B. We elevate ourselves above God.

C. There is a worst sin than being judgmental - denying it is so.

VI. Acknowledging our sin.

A. Only God can save and destroy. Matt 10:28

B. God prefers to save.

C. God will judge, fairly but eternally.

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from Condensed sermon outline (handout) by Rev. David Holwick · Serm94za.pco via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database slanderwordsjudging

"To Quote..."

Job 34:4

Oswald Chambers: "God never gives us discernment in order that we may

criticize, but that we may intercede."

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from Leadership · Oswald Chambers via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database criticismintercession

"Well, I Don't Mean To Criticize, But..."

It's all too easy to slip into slander. Slander is the utterance of false charges or misrepresentations which defame and damage another's reputation (Webster's). The Bible is even broader.

1. Dressing up sin.

2. Why do we slander?

a. We are sinners.

b. Slander is an acceptable sin.

3. How to stop spewing slander.

a. Allow God to search our hearts.

b. Truly love people and build them up.

c. Concentrate on purity and positive thoughts.

d. Ask these questions first:

- Who is the right person for me to speak to about this?

- What will the outcome of the conversation be?

- Where is my heart? What is my motivation?

4. Heart search.

from Discipleship Journal · Monica Whiting via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database criticism

Who Are We To Judge?

Luke 6:31

What did Jesus mean when he said not to judge others?

1. When we need to judge.

2. Don't judge motives.

3. Be fair.

4. Don't condemn.

5. Why did Jesus say "judge not"?

from Discipleship Journal · Barbara Tetlow Beevers via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database criticismdiscernment

Give Me What That Bull Dog Had

Ruth 1:15

Dr. Bob Shuler was a fighting Methodist preacher who for 60 years declared war on the devil and sin back when the Methodists still believed in the devil and sin. He had a long pastorate in one church and, at this particular time, was going through a period of great criticism. He was sitting on the front porch when two dogs came down the street. The first was a great old big bull dog whose strong muscular legs and shoulders must have weighed 75 pounds. His head was big and heavy; his teeth hung out between his lips. He was trotting sort of sideways, in that lopsided sort of way that some dogs do.

About twenty feet or more behind there was a little Fox Terrier about 7 inches high and the little insignificant thing was gnashing and hollering, yapping and screaming, barking and shouting at Mr. Great Big Powerful Bull Dog. He was scolding and criticizing something fierce. The fine preacher began to wonder if the big fellow was ever going to pay little Foxy even the respect of a backward glance. Well, the bull dog turned the corner and kept going – never wavered — never looked to one side or the other.

And the great preacher Dr. Bob Shuler says he went into the house, got down on his knees and said, “Lord, give me what that bull dog had!”

Only Jesus Can Clear Our Name

Job 20:3

It is no secret that American culture in 2016 is rife with hostility.

The glittering technoculture that supposedly heralded a new era of transparence and good feelings has instead fostered new platforms like Instagram on which people trade ad hominem putdowns via words and emojis.

What are Christians to think about our current moment? More urgently, how should we handle such invective when it comes our way?

The stories of two public figures have made me think of late. They are an unlikely pairing: LeBron James and Alexander Hamilton.

NBA rookie Ben Simmons shared with The New York Times recently that he has learned from LeBron not to respond to critics. “I’ve learned a lot just being around LeBron,” Simmons said. “People say things about him all the time, but he would never say anything back. That’s what I learned from him: Don’t retaliate to articles or pieces or to things that are said about me.”

Maybe LeBron doesn’t always follow this policy, but hearing about it took me aback. The amount of criticism that a megastar like James takes would boggle the mind of a normal person. His advice to a much younger athlete was, however, not to prove everybody wrong by one’s words, but to take the hit, essentially. As Simmons said, “Don’t retaliate.”

Other celebrities take a different approach. I recently finished Ron Chernow’s excellent “Alexander Hamilton,” the book that spawned the now-famous musical. Chernow’s study of the architect of the American financial system shows that when it came to taking fire, Hamilton often shot back at his critics. He penned missives, newspaper pieces, and challenged numerous adversaries to affairs of honor, episodes that could easily lead to dueling -- literally, the two opponents shooting pistols at one another.

This, in fact, is how Hamilton met his earthly end. Aaron Burr, grandson of Jonathan Edwards, killed Hamilton with one shot in 1804. Hamilton’s beloved son Philip had died a few years before him in a duel, leaving an almost impossibly tragic stamp on the house of one of America’s greatest statesmen.

Christians today may not fight a duel, but many of us will not fail to find our honor besmirched, our name taken in vain. This is particularly true for leaders. The best way to raise opposition to one’s views is to hold them publicly. Leadership in Christ’s church, then, will mean weathering many storms, including many instances when one’s character is impugned and one’s doctrine is reproached. Too often, those who disagree with us will declare us guilty without a trial.

Many of us will be grieved at the disagreements and criticism we must face in a fallen world. We will be tempted to lash out at those who seek to wound us. In this sense, we at a human level know very well what Alexander Hamilton felt as he tried, over and over again, to clear his name. Sometimes he acted rashly, but in other cases, his opponents spread malicious falsehood against him. Reading his story, such attacks troubled him greatly for as long as he lived.

We understand why. But we also recognize that, in Christ, we are offered something better than a hot-take opportunity. By his blood, Jesus Christ makes us His own, adopting us into his Father’s house, clearing our guilt and giving us a new name. In Christ, we no longer need to perform image maintenance and reputational management. The world may hate us, but if we are held secure by Jesus -- and every believer is (John 10:27) -- that is enough, fathoms more than enough, for us.

This does not preclude any response to critics. At times, one must speak up. There are real falsehoods that deserve a response. But we will never be able to undo opposition in a total and final sense by our own strength. Important as it is for us to engage in select discussion, there simply is no ultimate vindication of ourselves we can accomplish. Only Jesus can clear our name. Only Jesus can overcome our enemies. Only Jesus can quiet hate, and destroy evil, and right every wrong ever done to His people (and every wrong we ourselves have done, sadly).

We need this. Living in a sin-cursed world means that the wind is often in our faces. If we doubt this, we should engage a member of Christ’s church who lives in a country without religious freedom and find out their perspective on the matter. Bare-knuckled opposition may be a new experience for many American Christians, but it is not a new experience for the global church, let alone the historic church.

You can be the best athlete in the world, like LeBron James, and you will still draw unending criticism. You can be a key architect of American politics, and you will often be roasted, not celebrated (as Hamilton was). The same is true for every believer, impressive or not. Every person must reckon with an angry, divisive, tear-you-down world. The question before us is this: In such moments, will we allow insecurity and worldly fears to rule us?

Is Jesus our reputation, the custodian of our image -- or are we?

The good news is this: If Jesus is our all, we can take the heat, for we will soon gain the world. Somebody tell Instagram, because that is a truth worth creating an emoji over.

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Owen Strachan is associate professor of Christian theology and director of the Center for Public Theology at Midwestern Baptist Theological Seminary in Kansas City, Missouri.

Scalia: Devout Christians Are "fools"

Luke 23:11

On April 9, 1996, U.S. Supreme Court Justice Antonin Scalia delivered an historic address at the invitation of the Mississippi College School of Law, a Baptist school. His speech generated a firestorm of criticism among indignant members of the liberal press. Scalia's address dealt with the ridicule of Christians in the United States and the disdain in which their cherished beliefs are held by the cultural elite. Perhaps his comments on that day were motivated by cover stories in Time, Newsweek and US News and World Report, each questioning the historic validity of Jesus' resurrection. Not surprisingly, those stories ran during or near Easter week, when Christians were celebrating the risen Savior.

Scalia's speech was reported in this manner: "Devout Christians are destined to be regarded as fools in modern society." "We are fools for Christ's sake," the conservative jurist said, giving a glimpse of his private views. We must pray for courage to endure the scorn of the sophisticated world." Scalia said intellectuals through history have rejected miracles and the Easter story. "The wise do not investigate such silliness," he said sarcastically. "They do not believe (in the resurrection of the dead)," it's "irrational" to reject miracles. "One can be sophisticated and believe in God. Reason and intellect are not to be laid aside where matters of religion are concerned." He took note that the word "Cretin" or fool, is derived from the French word of "Christian."

To be honest about it, that is the view of Christians taken by modern society. "Surely those who adhere to all or most of these traditional Christian beliefs are to be regarded as simple-minded," he told 650 persons. "To many Americans, everything from Easter morning to the Ascension had to be made up by the groveling enthusiasts (disciples) as part of their plan to get themselves martyred."

from Focus On The Family Newsletter · James Dobson via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database easterfool

To Illustrate: Marriage & Criticism

Luke 6:37

The space shuttle Discovery was grounded recently -- not by technical difficulties or lack of government funding, but by woodpeckers. Yellow-shafted flicker woodpeckers found the insulating foam on the shuttle's external fuel tank irresistible material for pecking.

The foam is critical to the shuttle's performance. Without it, ice forms on the tank when it's filled with the super-cold fuel, ice that can break free during liftoff and damage the giant spacecraft. The shuttle was grounded until the damage was repaired.

Marriages are frequently damaged not by big things -- infidelity or abuse or abandonment -- but by the little things. Criticism, lack of respect, and taking each other for granted peck away at the relationship and keep us from reaching the heights.

from Online Leadership Journal (America Online) via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database criticismrespect

Things Are Not Always Black Or White

Luke 6:37

When I was in elementary school, I got into a major argument with a boy in my class. I have forgotten what the argument was about, but I have never forgotten the lesson I learned that day.

I was convinced that "I" was right and "he" was wrong - and he was just as convinced that "I" was wrong and "he" was right. The teacher decided to teach us a very important lesson. She brought us up to the front of the class and placed him on one side of her desk and me on the other. In the middle of her desk was a large, round object. I could clearly see that it was black. She asked the boy what color the object was. "White," he answered.

I couldn't believe he said the object was white, when it was obviously black! Another argument started between my classmate and me, this time about the color of the object.

The teacher told me to go stand where the boy was standing and told him to come stand where I had been. We changed places, and now she asked me what the color of the object was. I had to answer, "White." It was an object with two differently colored sides, and from his viewpoint it was white. Only from my side was it black.

My teacher taught me a very important lesson that day: You must stand in the other person's shoes and look at the situation through their eyes in order to truly understand their perspective.

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by Judie Paxton from Chicken Soup for the Kid's Soul Copyright 1998 by Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen, Patty Hansen and Irene Dunlap

from Internet: Chicken Soup Of The Day · Judie Paxton via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database humilitycriticism

Critical Condition

Mark 14:3

Do you find yourself picking apart other people's ministry?

Too many times we attack things we don't like, not things that are wrong.

A. She did WHAT? Mark 14:3-9

B. Are we slow to bother?

1. Is this person's ministry motivated by love for God? Jam 1:19

2. Is our condemnation based on truth or personal preferences?

Rom 14:4,10,12-13; 1 Cor 12:4-6, 18-21, 24-25

3. Look at others through the eyes of Jesus.

C. Dandelion Theology.

RESPONDING TO CRITICISM

A. Don't assume you're wrong.

B. Analyze yourself. Prov 10:17, 12:1, 13:18, 15:32

C. Look to Jesus for commendation. Acts 7:55,59-60

from Discipleship Journal · Todd D. Catteau via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database judging

What We Don't Know

Jude 1:22

It was F. B. Meyer, I believe, who once said that when we see a brother or sister in sin, there are two things we do not know: First, we do not know how hard he or she tried not to sin. And second, we do not know the power of the forces that assailed him or her. We also do not know what we would have done in the same circumstances.

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Stephen Brown, Christianity Today, April 5, 1993, p. 17

from Christianity Today · Stephen Brown, Christianity Today, April 5, 1993, P. 17 via Kerux Sermon and Illustration Database rebuketemptationperspective

Shake It Off and Step Up

A parable is told of a farmer who owned an old mule who accidentally fell into an open well shaft. After carefully assessing the situation, the farmer decided neither the mule nor the well was worth saving; so, he called his neighbors together to help haul dirt to bury the old mule in the well.

At first, the mule was hysterical. But then it occurred to him that every time a shovel of dirt hit his back he could shake it off and step up. So, he did - shovel full after shovel full. "Shake it off; step up," he repeated to himself. "Shake it off; step up." It wasn't long before the old mule stepped triumphantly over the top to safety. The dirt he thought would bury him turned out to be a blessing.

Comments: Whenever life throws dirt on you, do what the old mule did ... "Shake it off and step up."

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Attribution: Provided to Laughlines by Skai Rusis; http://www.laughlines.com 11/13/99; edited for publication.

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A parable is told of a farmer who owned an old mule. The mule fell into the farmer's well. The farmer heard the mule 'braying' -- or -whatever mules do when they fall into wells. After carefully assessing the situation, the farmer sympathized with the mule, but decided that neither the mule nor the well was worth the trouble of saving.

Instead, he called his neighbors together and told them what had happened...and enlisted them to help haul dirt to bury the old mule in the well and put him out of his misery. Initially, the old mule was hysterical! But as the farmer and his neighbors continued shoveling and the dirt hit his back...a thought struck him.

It suddenly dawned on him that every time a shovel load of dirt landed on his back...HE SHOULD SHAKE IT OFF AND STEP UP! This he did, blow after blow.

"Shake it off and step up...shake it off and step up...shake it off and step up!" he repeated to encourage himself.

No matter how painful the blows, or distressing the situation seemed the old mule fought "panic" and just kept right on SHAKING IT OFF AND STEPPING UP! You're right! It wasn't long before the old mule, battered and exhausted, STEPPED TRIUMPHANTLY OVER THE WALL OF THAT WELL!

What seemed like it would bury him, actually blessed him...all because of the manner in which he handled his adversity. THAT'S LIFE! If we face our problems and respond to them positively, and refuse to give in to panic, bitterness, or self-pity...THE ADVERSITIES THAT COME ALONG TO BURY US USUALLY HAVE WITHIN THEM THE POTENTIAL TO BENEFIT AND BLESS US!

Bush's Choice : A Candidate Speaks the Forbidden Name

Acts 2:38

Any one looking for a good indication of how secularized America has become got a very good indication the recent Republican debate. When asked to identify the thinker who had the greatest effect on his life, George W. Bush named Jesus Christ -- because, as he put it, "He has changed my heart."

The uproar was fast and furious. You would have thought Bush had invoked the Marquis de Sade, or perhaps Larry Flynt. The New York Times found a Bishop to denounce Bush's choice. Superlawyer Alan Dershowitz went on television to complain that Bush's answer was totally out of line. The chorus of critics sang from the same hymnal. Bush had spoken the forbidden name in American politics.

The single most important thing you can know about anyone is the priorities he sets for himself in life. What does he value most?

Knowing that a man or woman is a believer in Jesus Christ tells you about his or her priorities. It gives you the most crucial information about that person.

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Copyright (c) 1999 Prison Fellowship Ministries. Reprinted with permission. "BreakPoint with Chuck Colson" is a radio ministry of Prison Fellowship Ministries.

Overt Anonymity Or Covert Animosity!

Job 20:3

Your organist has bad breath, but you're certain of the consequences if you tell her, your deacon chairman hugs the ladies a little too enthusiastically, but to tell him is one step away from updating your resume. Well, finally there's a way to tell them without all of the potential conflict.

Several Internet companies will anonymously inform anyone about anything, for a price. The put-downs come in plain envelopes with phony return addresses. [Gillmartin's note: You'll have to search out the URLs yourself, since I don't agree with this approach to problem solving.]

APPLICATION: Few things are more painful among members of the Body of Christ than anonymous criticism.

It comes in all forms and sizes: "Well, John, I'd love to tell you who told me but they asked not to be identified." Or: "I'm sorry, pastor, but I just can't remember who told me you were having an affair." Or: "Ordinarily I wouldn't pass on stuff like this, but we're such good friends I just had to tell you." Or: "I assure you, several people told me. And, no, I can't remember who!" Or: "Pastor, you really ought to give this some thought. After all, I've heard EVERYBODY is talking about it." Or: "Personally, I think you're a fine teacher. I just thought you'd like know a lot of others don't agree."

Nevertheless messages clothed in the armor of anonymity are stealth pipe bombs, intended to inflict the greatest damage at the least cost by a cowardly enemy.

The evil foundation of such criminal communication is the bedrock of Hell itself. People involved in rumor mongering, backbiting and gossip are misguided missiles from Satan himself.

We must not only abstain from evil [1 Thessalonians 5:22] but avoid even the hint of it [Ephesians 5:3].

Source/Attribution: John Gillmartin

En boca cerrada no entran moscas (A closed mouth catches no flies.) [Spanish Proverb]

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Quotes On Words, Praise, Criticism, Encouragement

Luke 6:37

"It's a rare person who wants to hear what he doesn't want to hear."

-- Dick Cavett, television personality, cited in BITS & PIECES

"All you'll get from strangers is surface pleasantry or indifference. Only someone who loves you will criticize you."

-- Judith Crist, film critic

"The trouble with most of us is that we would rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism."

-- Norman Vincent Peale (1898-1993), minister and motivator, B&P 2/19/03

"Words can sometimes, in moments of grace, attain the quality of deeds."

-- Elie Wiesel, writer and Nobel Peace Prize Laureate, B&P 2/20/03

"If you are not being criticized, you may not be doing much."

-- Donald Rumsfeld, QFTM 3/15/03

"You can get more with a kind word and a gun than you can with a kind word alone."

-- Al Capone (http://www.bigwacko.com/quotes2.html)

"There are two ways of exerting one's strength; one is pushing down, the other is pulling up."

-- Booker T. Washington, QFTM 5/10/03

"The real art of conversation is not only to say the right thing at the right time, but also to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment."

-- author unknown

"It is better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to open your mouth and remove all doubt."

-- Abraham Lincoln

"I have never been hurt by anything I did not say."

-- Calvin Coolidge

“Remember not only to say the right thing in the right place, but far more difficult still, to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment.”

-- Benjamin Franklin

"Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great ones make you feel that you too, can become great."

-- Mark Twain, QFTM 3/13/04

"You can tell more about a person by what he says about others than you can by what others say about him."

-- Leo Aikman, writer and newspaper editor, Guideposts, March 2005

“In everyone’s life, at some time, our inner fire goes out. It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being. We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit.”

-- Albert Schweitzer

“Show me the man you honor, and I will know what kind of man you are.”

-- Thomas Carlyle

"If you've done big things in life you must expect to have excited some criticism. It's only people who've done precious little who get no criticism at all."

-- Margaret Thatcher

Blame is easier

"The reason people blame things on previous generations is that there's only one other choice."

-- Doug Larson

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Instead of "previous" one could insert "other"--RKC

Blame Is Easier

Calvin & Hobbes are riding a wagon. Calvin philosophizes: "When I grow up, I'm not going to read the newspaper and I'm not going to follow complex stories and I'm not going to vote. That way I can complain that the government doesn't represent me. Then when everything goes down the tubes, I can say the system doesn't work and justify my lack of participation."

Hobbes: "An ingeniously self-fulfilling plan."

Calvin: "It's a lot more fun to blame things than to fix them."

Hillary Clinton & scandal

BAIL TO THE CHIEF: Hillary Clinton, desperate to find something external to blame for her husband's political problems, now says bigotry against people from Arkansas is behind the ongoing attacks on the president. "I think a lot of this is prejudice against our state," she complained in an interview with the Arkansas Democrat-Gazette newspaper. "They wouldn't do this if we were from some other state." The first lady previously claimed a "vast right-wing conspiracy" was behind Clinton's legal and political problems. (UPI) ...Face it, Hillary: the only outside thing to blame is Bill's zipper.

Search for perfect one

The search for the perfect church is an illusion. Appetite by itself is the sepulcher, the death of reason, judgment, and discipline. Some form of satisfaction doesn't even stand a chance unless one settles down at a place and serves. The church is a feast, not a taste, a meal, not a nibble. One sits and serves with the same people week after week, receiving and being received, disappointing and being disappointed, hurting and being hurt, caring and being cared for. Church people are in it for the long haul, not the short term. The ordinary is more crucial than the extraordinary. The glory of the church is in the routine, not the exceptional.

-- C. John Weborg

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Snappy comeback

The then New York Giants were playing an exhibition game at West Point. Leo Durocher was coaching at first base, and one noisy cadet kept shouting at him, trying to upset him. Finally he hollered, "Hey, Leo, how did a little squirt like you get into the major leagues?" Without missing a beat, Leo shouted back, "My congressman appointed me."

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Bullets You Can't Get Back

Proverbs 12:18

They had just gotten the call to go to Afghanistan. Warriors from America's 101st Airborne were, with relatively short notice, on a plane transporting them to the unpredictable and still dangerous military environment in post-Taliban Afghanistan. The news report on their assignment was describing their long flight to their mission - and the moment in their flight when the atmosphere suddenly got more intense. It was late in their journey when their ammunition was handed out to them. One man described the sobering reality of holding his ammunition in his hand. Here's what he said: "Once you pull that trigger, there's no way to get that round back."

Well, I'm Ron Hutchcraft and I want to have A Word With You today about "Bullets You Can't Get Back."

A bullet is so easy to fire. A bullet can do so much damage. A bullet can't be taken back ... even if it's a verbal bullet. Maybe especially if it's a verbal bullet.

Proverbs 12:18, our word for today from the Word of God, actually likens our words to weapons. Since there were no bullets when it was written, God uses a sword to describe how destructive our words can be. Here's what He says. "Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing." Now, we all know that's true - we've all felt the wounding power of someone's reckless words.

Then why do we do the same thing - often to people we actually care about? Our angry, or reckless, or critical words are bullets - and it's all too easy to pull that trigger. In fact, it takes the help of God and our personal discipline to keep from firing off a round of wounding words. But once you pull that trigger, there's no way to get that round back. Long after you've forgotten what you said, that person is still feeling the hurt of it ... still hearing it over and over again in their heart. The words take a moment; the wounds can last for years.

I guess the beginning of disarming this weapon called our tongue is just to realize the power your words have! According to Proverbs 18:21, "The tongue has the power of life and death!" By what you say, you can literally make someone feel more alive or more dead inside. Maybe you need to stand back and recognize the tremendous effect your rash words are having on people around you, on people you love, people you work with, people at church, anyone who's close to you.

Then, it's time to consciously, consistently start controlling your words - specifically making this a major Lordship issue with you and Jesus. Repenting is always a good place to start changing. And our verbal sins need to be repented of before our Lord. If we don't recognize the seriousness of what we're doing with our words, then we'll just keep firing randomly and wounding people in our line of fire. David actually gives us a specific prayer that we can pray every day, maybe throughout the day - it might be worth memorizing. It's Psalm 141:3 - "Set a guard over my mouth, O Lord; keep watch over the door of my lips." This is not a battle you can win alone - but it's a battle your Lord is very anxious to help you win.

We've all wounded enough people with our verbal bullets. It's time to learn to hold our fire, because once you pull the trigger, there's no way to get that round back.

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Copyright © Ron Hutchcraft Ministries, Inc., PO Box 400, Harrison, AR 72602. Used by permission. Written by Ron Hutchcraft. 'Practical Answers to Real Life Issues'

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6 phases of A project

SIX PHASES OF A PROJECT 1. Enthusiasm and Happiness About the Great Idea 2. Disillusionment 3. Panic 4. Search for the Guilty 5. Punishment of the Innocent 6. Praise, Honors and Great Joy for the Non-Participants

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Belling the Cat

Belling the Cat, Aesop's Fables

Long ago, the mice had a general council to consider what measures they could take to outwit their common enemy, the Cat. Some said this, and some said that; but at last a young mouse got up and said he had a proposal to make, which he thought would meet the case. "You will all agree," said he, "that our chief danger consists in the sly and treacherous manner in which the enemy approaches us. Now, if we could receive some signal of her approach, we could easily escape from her. I venture, therefore, to propose that a small bell be procured, and attached by a ribbon round the neck of the Cat. By this means we should always know when she was about, and could easily retire while she was in the neighbourhood."

This proposal met with general applause, until an old mouse got up and said: "That is all very well, but who is to bell the Cat?" The mice looked at one another and nobody spoke. Then the old mouse said:

"It is easy to propose impossible remedies."

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Captain & First Mate

A ship captain one day recorded in the ship's log, "First-mate

drunk today." It was a true statement, but was the first

incident where the mate had been drunk while on duty. The mate

pleaded with the captain to ammend the statement, but the captain

refused, saying it was a true statement. The next time the

First-mate was in charge of the ship, he recorded in the log,

"Captian sober today."

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Easy to be A critic

"Anything You Can Do I Can Do Better." I remember watching the Olympic divers. They would jump so high, twist, turn & flip, then gracefully enter the water with just a little splash. It was so easy! I could even begin to see how it could be done better. All I needed was a swimming pool. Then the Olympic ice skaters would do their thing; jumping, spinning & skating backwards. After watching for a while I could begin to see how it could be done better. All I needed were some skates and a little ice. Then the gymnasts would do their thing; hand stands, cart wheels, flips, and tumbling. After watching for a while I could begin to see how it could be done better. It was so easy! All I needed were some tights and a mat.

I went swimming, and I did a belly flop.

I went ice skating, and I fell on my face.

I went to a gym and I looked like an idiot.

I learned that it is easier to watch someone else and be critical of them than it is to go out and do it myself."

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Famous "failures"

Think you're the only one that's made mistakes? Hardly. Imagine if you had been the president of a Michigan bank who advised Henry Ford's lawyer not to invest in the new motor company, assuring him, "The horse is here to stay, but the automobile is only a novelty."

Or there was Gary Cooper's comment about Clark Gable accepting the role of Rhett Butler which he had turned down: "`Gone With the Wind' is going to be the biggest flop in Hollywood history. I'm just glad it'll be Clark Gable who's falling flat on his face and not Gary Cooper."

Or the Boston sportswriter who summed up young Ted Williams by saying, "I don't believe this kid will ever hit half a singer midget's weight in a bathing suit." Whatever that meant, he was most certainly wrong!

We all make mistakes, including the experts. The key is not to live in the mistakes of the past, but to move forward learning from those mistakes.

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Feeding the 5,000

People are critical by nature. Someone has said that when Jesus fed the 5,000 there were people there who were upset because Jesus didn't serve any tartar sauce or lemon with the fish or give enough butter for the bread!

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Handling criticism

THE OYSTER:

There was once an oyster whose story I tell,

Who found that sand had gotten under his shell;

Just one little grain, but it gave him much pain,

For oysters have feelings although they're so plain.

Now, did he berate the working of fate

Which had led him to such a deplorable state?

Did he spend endless hours in self-pitying reflection?

Did he curse out the government, call for an election?

No, as he lay on the shelf, he said to himself;

"If I cannot remove it, I'll improve it."

So the years rolled by as the years always do,

And he came to his ultimate destiny--oyster stew!

And this small grain of sand which had bothered him so,

Was a beautiful pearl, all richly aglow.

Now--this tale has a moral--for isn't it grand

What an oyster can do with a morsel of sand?

What couldn't we do if we'd only begin

With all the things that get under our skin?

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I'll honk your horn!

Woman was having trouble getting car started after it had stalled in traffic. Man behind her got mad & started honking his horn every few seconds. Finally woman got out, went back and said, "I'm having some

difficulty getting my car started. If you'll go see what the problem is I'll stay here and honk your horn for you."

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Ignoring it--3 illust.

Nehemiah 4:3

1. Illust. When Nehemiah was rebuilding the walls of Jerusalem, he had his critics: Sanballat & Tobiah. They said things like: "If a fox climbed up on it he could break down their wall" (Neh. 4:3). Five times they sent word up to Nehemiah saying, "Come down and talk about this project--we do not approve of what you are doing." Nehemiah sent word back down saying: "I am doing a great work and I can't come down." Responding to critics takes time and energy away from what ought to be done.

2. Illust. Jesus usually ignored his critics, but occasionally he responded. Once, when he was accused of casting out demons by the power of Satan he said: "The devil is not going to cast himself out! A house divided against itself cannot stand." The critics were silenced.

3. Illust. A reporter once saw Billy Graham get off the luxury liner Queen Mary. He said to a Graham associate: "When Jesus was on the earth he rode a donkey. I can't imagine Jesus arriving from England on the Queen Mary." The Graham associate said: "Find me a donkey that can swim the Atlantic Ocean and I'll buy it." Sometimes criticism needs to be answered, but most of the time it needs to be ignored.

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Miller, Son, & Donkey

Proverbs 14:15

THE MILLER, HIS SON, AND THEIR DONKEY

"The simple believes everything, but the prudent looks

where he is going" (Proverbs 14:15). This fable is adapted from

Aesop's collection.

A miller and his son were traveling to market with their donkey. They had not gone very far when they overheard three women at a well. "Have you ever seen anything so strange? Two men are walking when they could ride. Why do people have donkeys?"

Responding to the women, the miller quickly put his son on the back of the animal and continued on the journey. Soon they met two men in the midst of a fierce debate. "I say the present generation shows no respect for its elders." cried the older man. Spying the miller and his son, he continued, "There, that prove what I am saying. The young, healthy lad rides while his old father is forced to walk."

Immediately the father told his son to dismount, and he climbed on the animal's back. They hadn't gone very far when they met a man and his wife walking down the road. "Look at that mean father," the woman exclaimed. "He rides while his little son has to walk." Embarrassed, the miller took his son by the are. "Come up here with me. We will both ride the donkey." Together they rode toward the market. Soon they met a group of men loading hay beside the road. "Shame on you," a fat man cried, "overloading the

poor donkey. "Why, the two of you are strong enough to carry that poor animal."

Bother the miller and his son quickly got off the animal and walked along until they found a large log. They tied the legs of the donkey together and slipped the log between the animal's legs. Then they attempted to carry it over the bridge that led to the market.

People on the other side of the bridge roared with laughed when they saw two men trying to carry a donkey. The noise frightened the animal that he kicked loose and fell into the river and drowned.

- William R White STORIES FOR TELLING p74-75

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Robt. E. Lee's control

General Robt. E. Lee was once asked what he thought of a fellow officer in the Confederate Army--an officer who had made some mean-spirited remarks about him. Lee thought for a moment, then rated him as being very satisfactory. The person who asked the question seemed troubled. "But general, I guess you don't know what he's been saying about you." "Oh yes," answered Lee. "I know. But I was asked my opinion of him, not his opinion of me."

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Spurgeon comeback

The ministry of British preacher Charles Spurgeon was often marked by controversy, as journalists and other groups carped at his work. One day a friend of Spurgeon's remarked, "I hear you are in hot water again." "I'm not the one in hot water," Spurgeon answered. "The other fellows are. I'm the man who makes the water boil." How's your spiritual temperature lately? Is it causing anybody to boil?

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