Proverbs 31
OGCOUTLINE OF THE VIRTUOUS WOMAN
I.
She is married to a good man (Proverbs 31:23).
II.
Her husband has no fears of her unfaithfulness to him (Proverbs 31:11-12).
III.
She gets up early, cooks breakfast for the family, and gets the day underway (Proverbs 31:15).
IV.
She lives a busy, industrious, useful life:
A.
She clothes her family in a commendable way (Proverbs 31:13; Proverbs 31:19; Proverbs 31:21).
B.
She raises some of their food (Proverbs 31:16), but she buys those things that she cannot raise (Proverbs 31:14).
C.
She looks after every need of her household (Proverbs 31:27).
D.
She is strong and healthy as a result of her work (Proverbs 31:17).
E.
She likes nice things and makes them (Proverbs 31:22).
F.
She makes extras and sells them (Proverbs 31:24).
G.
She puts in a long day (Proverbs 31:26).
V.
She is known for her kind speech (Proverbs 31:26). VI. She looks nice (Proverbs 31:22), but she steers away from feminine vanities (Proverbs 31:30).
VII.
She is not afraid of the passing of years but will grow old gracefully (Proverbs 31:25).
VIII.
She should and shall be praised (Proverbs 31:28-31).
Proverbs 31:1-9
CHAPTER 31 TEXT Proverbs 31:1-9
The words of king Lemuel:
The oracle which his mother taught him.
Why, my son? and what, O son of my womb?
And what, O son of my vows?
Give not thy strength unto women,
Nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings.
It is not for kings, O Lemuel, it is not for kings to drink wine;
Nor for princes to say, Where is strong drink?
Lest they drink, and forget the law,
And pervert the justice due to any that is afflicted.
Give strong drink unto him that is ready to perish,
And wine unto the bitter in soul:
Let him drink, and forget his poverty, And remember his misery no more.
Open thy mouth for the dumb,
In the cause of all such as are left desolate.
Open thy mouth, judge righteously,
And minister justice to the poor and needy.
STUDY QUESTIONS OVER 31:1-9
Who was Lemuel (Proverbs 31:1)?
What three things did Lemuel’s mother call him in Proverbs 31:2?
How did kings behave (Proverbs 31:3)?
What city in the U.S.A. is said to consume the most liquor per capita (Proverbs 31:4)?
Why should rulers especially leave strong drink alone (Proverbs 31:5)?
How did ancients use alcohol besides as a beverage (Proverbs 31:6)?
Is strong drink really for well people to drink to forget their sorrow (Proverbs 31:7)?
What does open thy mouth mean in Proverbs 31:8?
Why have the poor and needy often suffered in court (Proverbs 31:9)?
PARAPHRASE OF 31:1-9
These are the wise sayings of King Lemuel of Massa, taught to him at his mother’s knee:
2, 3.
O my son, whom I have dedicated to the Lord, do not spend your time with womenthe royal pathway to destruction.
4-7.
And it is not for kings, O Lemuel, to drink wine and whiskey. For if they drink they may forget their duties and be unable to give justice to those who are oppressed. Hard liquor is for sick men at the brink of death, and wine for those in deep depression. Let them drink to forget their poverty and misery.
8, 9.
You should defend those who cannot help themselves. Yes, speak up for the poor and needy and see that they get justice.
COMMENTS ON 31:1-9
Proverbs 31:1. This chapter is another supplement (just like Chapter 30). History has not preserved, nor has archaeology uncovered, information that would help us identify king Lemuel. If his father was a king with a harem of wives, the rearing and teaching of his sons became the work of his own mother. Oracle indicates a divine message. We are glad for this supplement that closes out the book of Proverbs, especially the material about the virtuous woman (Proverbs 31:10-31).
Proverbs 31:2. The thrice repeated…-‘what-’, which Luther appropriately rendered by -Ach!-’, is plainly an impassioned exclamation expressing the inward emotion of the mother’s heart at the thought that the son might possible fall into an evil way (Lange). The preciousness of this son to his mother is evident from her three expressions concerning him: (1) my sonher very own son, one of the dearest possessions that any woman can have; (2) son of my wombnot adopted by her but born by her, the fruit of her own body as blessed and enabling by God; (3) son of my vowsshe, like Hannah (1 Samuel 1:2; 1 Samuel 1:8; 1 Samuel 1:10-11), may have been barren, earnestly prayed for a child, and vowed that if God granted her a child she would rear the same to His honor and glory. Her teaching these important things to Lemuel were likely part of her fulfilling those vows.
Proverbs 31:3. Her first plea was for him not to sacrifice his strength (Hebrew: vigor) to women (kings kept harems). Her second plea concerning that which destroyeth kings was likely referring to strong drink, which she goes on to discuss in succeeding verses. She was warning him against wine and women.
Proverbs 31:4. Solomon rightfully prayed for wisdom that he might be capable of ruling Israel (1 Kings 3:9), but strong drink can affect man’s reasoning powers. A king needs all of his mentality (and then some!) all the time, so his mother correctly said, It is not for kings, O Lemuel. Ben-hadad and the thirty-two kings with him were drinking themselves drunk, and the Israelites defeated them that day (1 Kings 20:16-21). Belshazzar was having a drunken feast when the handwriting appeared on the wall, telling him that that very night his kingdom would be given to the Medes and Persians (Daniel 5:1-5; Daniel 5:25-28). Ecclesiastes 10:17 observes, Happy art thou, O land, when thy king is the son of nobles, and thy princes eat in due season, for strength, and not for drunkenness!. It is too bad that our own capital city (Washington D.C.) has been consuming more alcoholic beverages per capita than other city in the U.S.A.
Proverbs 31:5. A drinking monarch will not be a good king: he will forget the law and pervert…justice. Matters that need attention will be neglected because of drinking. As was observed, boozing affects one’s mental powers, judgment-ability and general direction. Hosea 4:11 says, Whoredome and wine and new wine take away the understanding.
Proverbs 31:6-7. Another case of Hebrew parallelism in which the latter statement is but a restatement of the first. In other words, the bitter in soul is the same as him that is ready to perish. We do utilize drugs and alcoholic-based medicines to relieve the afflicted in their final sufferings. If one overlooks the Hebrew parallelism here, he would end up having God advising the sorrowful to turn to booze. But life has proven that people who do that don-’t drown their sorrows; it is more as Archie Word observes: They only give them swimming lessons.
Proverbs 31:8. The -dumb-’ is any one who for any reason whatever is unable to plead his own cause; he may be of tender age, or of lowly station, or ignorant, timid, and boorish; and the prince is enjoined to plead for him (-Pulpit Commentary). The next verse continues the subject.
Proverbs 31:9. The command to judge righteously is found elsewhere in the Bible also: Ye shall do no unrighteousness in judgment: thou shalt not respect the person of the poor, nor honor the person of the mighty; but in righteousness shalt thou judge thy neighbor (Leviticus 19:15); I charged your judges at that time, saying, Hear the causes between your brethren, and judge righteously between a man and his brother, and the sojourner that is with him. Ye shall not respect persons in judgment; ye shall hear the small and the great alike (Deuteronomy 1:16-17); Judge not according to appearance, but judge righteous judgment (John 7:24). But often the poor and afflicted had no one to see that they received justice. The Bible speaks elsewhere on that also: Judge the fatherless, plead for the widow (Isaiah 1:17); He judged the cause of the poor and needy; then it was well (Jeremiah 22:16); I delivered the poor that cried, The fatherless also, that had none to help (Job 29:12).
TEST QUESTIONS OVER 31:1-9
Why is Lemuel’s mother teaching him instead of his father (Proverbs 31:1)?
Comment on each of the ways Lemuel’s mother spoke of him in Proverbs 31:2.
Lemuel was not to dissipate his strength upon –. (Proverbs 31:3).
What else was Lemuel warned about in Proverbs 31:3?
What instruction is given again in Proverbs 31:4?
Suppose Lemuel drank as a king (Proverbs 31:6).
What use for wine is mentioned in Proverbs 31:7?
Who all would be included under dumb in Proverbs 31:8?
What does the Bible say about judging righteously (Proverbs 31:9)?
Proverbs 31:10-21
TEXT Proverbs 31:10-21
A worthy woman who can find?
For her price is far above rubies.
The heart of her husband trusteth in her,
And he shall have no lack of gain.
She doeth him good and not evil.
All the days of her life.
She seeketh wool and flax,
And worketh willingly with her hands.
She is like the merchant-ships;
She bringeth her bread from afar.
She riseth also while it is yet night,
And giveth food to her household.
She considereth a field, and buyeth it;
With the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
She girdeth her loins with strength,
And maketh strong her arms.
She perceiveth that her merchandise is profitable;
Her lamp goeth not out by night.
She layeth her hands to the distaff,
And her hands hold the spindle.
She stretcheth out her hand to the poor;
Yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
She is not afraid of the snow for her household;
For all her household are clothed with scarlet.
STUDY QUESTIONS OVER 31:10-21
Would such a woman be put into the slave market (Proverbs 31:10)?
Trust in her in what sense (Proverbs 31:11)?
Good and not evil in what ways (Proverbs 31:12)?
What was flax used for (Proverbs 31:13)?
How far (Proverbs 31:14)?
What about her and late-morning sleeping (Proverbs 31:15)?
Was she acting independent of her husband or for her husband (Proverbs 31:16)?
How does Proverbs 31:17 contrast her with many women?
Why goeth not out (Proverbs 31:18)?
What are the distaff and spindle (Proverbs 31:19)?
Did this busy woman think only of her family (Proverbs 31:20)?
What is the connection between the two statements in Proverbs 31:21?
PARAPHRASE OF 31:10-21
10-21.
If you can find a truly good wife, she is worth more than precious gems! Her husband can trust her, and she will richly satisfy his needs. She will not hinder him, but help him all her life. She finds wool and flax and busily spins it. She buys imported foods, brought by ship from distant ports. She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household, and plans the day’s work for her servant girls. She goes out to inspect a field, and buys it; with her own hands she plants a vineyard. She is energetic, a hard worker, and watches for bargains. She works far into the night! She sews for the poor, and generously gives to the needy. She has no fear of winter for her household, for she has made warm clothes for all of them.
COMMENT ON 31:10-21
Proverbs 31:10. From here to the end of the chapter sets for the beautiful description of a virtuous woman, wife and mother. It is the Bible’s longest and best description of her. It has been a favorite of many Christian women, and every Christian girl should know it well. Each of the verses of this detailed description begins with the different letters of the Hebrew alphabet. To describe it in English, Proverbs 31:10 begins with A, Proverbs 31:11 with B, Proverbs 31:12 with C, etc. to the end. Other passages on the virtuous woman: A worthy woman is the crown of her husband (Proverbs 12:4); A prudent wife is from Jehovah (Proverbs 18:22); Whose adorning let it not be the outward adorning…but let it be the hidden man of the heart, in the incorruptible apparel of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. For after this manner aforetime the holy women also, who hoped in God, adorned themselves (1 Peter 3:3-5).
Proverbs 31:11. The first part of this description relates her to her husband, and the first thing it says is that he can trust her. The husband of such a wife goes forth to his daily occupations, having full confidence in her whom he leaves at home that she will act discreetly and promote his interests while he is absent (Pulpit Commentary). See the contrast in Proverbs 7:18-19. The man is not at home; He is gone on a long journey…Come, let us take our fill of love until morning. His confidence in her integrity and her attention to the family’s interests shows up in he shall have no lack of gain. Proverbs 31:13 onward shows the important part she plays in the sound financial condition of the home. Contrast her relationship to this with the spendthrift wives who fairly wreck their husbands financially.
Proverbs 31:12. She is altogether an asset to him and in no sense a liability. Again, she brings him joy and not sorrow by her behaviour and by her contributions. Her good is unmixed: she will do him good and not evil…Her good is…constant and permanent…all the days of her life (Clarke). All the days of her life shows that she will still be his wife in years to come; she will be faithful to the marriage vow: Until death do us part. She will not only do good to him while he is strong and able but also when he is older and infirm.
Proverbs 31:13. Wool and flax (from whence comes linen) were made into yarn or thread, the yarn or thread into cloth, and the cloth into garments. This made it a big job to make clothes for the family, but she did it willingly and cheerfully. She was neither lazy nor complaining.
Proverbs 31:14. Even as she sought wool and flax (Proverbs 31:13), evidently wanting good materials to work with, even so she provides her family with good food, some of which came from distant places. Their markets contained items made possible by merchant-ships. She had planned mealsnot just thrown-together ones or krick-krack eating.
Proverbs 31:15. We notice three things: (1) she gets up earlyis no late-sleeper who is only concerned about herself instead of her family; (2) she cooks a good breakfast for the familya good breakfast is a good foundation for the family’s day’s activities: they do not leave the house with empty stomachs; (3) she gets the family’s maidens busy with their work for the day. By that time some of our society-loving women finally get out of bed, she has a half-day’s work already done. She is filling her God-indended role in the home.
Proverbs 31:16. In this she is probably not acting independent of her husband, but since he is one of the elders of the land (Proverbs 31:23), she acts as his agent to investigate the worth of a particular field, to purchase it, and to plant it with vines for a vineyard.
Proverbs 31:17. All of this activity and working with her own hands elevated her out of being a weak, sickly woman. She was strong and healthy and able to uphold her part of the family’s work and projects. And she didn-’t think she needed to be liberated!
Proverbs 31:18. She is a busy woman. She not only gives tasks to the maidens (Proverbs 31:15), but she herself works. She not only works outdoors, planting vineyards, etc. (Proverbs 31:16), but she makes garments and sells them (Proverbs 31:24). No wonder her lamp goeth not out by night! Yet she is not just a slave who works but has no responsibility to see that the business is profitable: she so manages things that her merchandise is profitable.
Proverbs 31:19. In Proverbs 31:13 we saw that she seeketh wool and flax (the raw materials). In this verse she is using the distaff and the spindle to make the thread or yarn. Proverbs 31:24 tells of her going on to make the actual garments and delivering them to the merchant to sell to the public. The distaff-and-spindle system of making thread preceded the spinning wheel: The spindle and distaff are the most ancient of all the instruments used for spinning, or making thread. The spinning wheel superseded them (Clarke). The distaff held the wool to be made into thread or yarn, and the spindle was what the finished thread or yarn was collected on. Before the spinning wheel, which mounted both of these on its solid framework, they were two independent pieces that had to be held and handled by the hands, under the arm, on the lap, etc. during the operation.
Proverbs 31:20. More Hebrew parallelism: stretcheth out her hand is the same as reacheth forth her hands; to the poor is the same as to the needy. She works for her family (Proverbs 31:20), but she does not forget others who are needy. Again, she is interested in business (personal, legitimate gain), but in so doing she is not unmindful of those who are having financial difficulties. We are taught to remember the unfortunate also: Matthew 25:34-36; Acts 11:29; 1 Corinthians 16:1-2; Ephesians 4:28; 1 John 3:17.
Proverbs 31:21. They did not have the severe winters that we do; on the other hand, they didn-’t have the weather-tight houses and furnaces that we have. So they had to have warm clothing to cope with their times of colder weather. Her children were well and comfortably clothedthey were not neglected waifs of the street. The scarlet color would be warmer than plain white garments and dressier too. Every good mother wants her family to look nice.
TEST QUESTIONS OVER 30:10-21
What subject is discussed in these verses (Proverbs 31:10)
How does each verse from Proverbs 31:10 to the end of the chapter begin (Proverbs 31:10)?
What is the first thing affirmed of the virtuous woman (Proverbs 31:11)?
What does Proverbs 31:12 say of her goodness to her husband?
What caused making clothing to be such a big job in those times (Proverbs 31:13)?
What is said of her spirit in Proverbs 31:13?
How concerned was she that her family was well fed (Proverbs 31:14)?
What three things are affirmed of her in Proverbs 31:15?
Why is she doing all this work instead of her husband (Proverbs 31:16)?
Why is she a strong, healthy woman (Proverbs 31:17)?
Comment upon the busy life that she leads (Proverbs 31:18).
What was made with the distaff and spindle (Proverbs 31:19)&
What does Proverbs 31:20 tell us about this busy woman?
What about her family’s clothing (Proverbs 31:21)?
Proverbs 31:22-31
TEXT Proverbs 31:22-31
She maketh for herself carpets of tapestry;
Her clothing is fine linen and purple.
Her husband is known in the gates,
When he sitteth among the elders of the land.
She maketh linen garments and selleth them,
And delivereth girdles to the merchant.
Strength and dignity are her clothing;
And she laugheth at the time to come.
She openeth her mouth with wisdom;
And the law of kindness is on her tongue.
She looketh well to the ways of her household,
And eateth not the bread of idleness.
Her children rise up, and call her blessed;
Her husband also, and he praiseth her saying:
Many daughters have done worthily,
But thou excellest them all.
Grace is deceitful, and beauty is vain;
But a woman that feareth Jehovah, she shall be praised.
Give her of the fruit of her hands;
And let her works praise her in the gates.
STUDY QUESTIONS OVER 31:22-31
What kind of man did the virtuous woman marry (Proverbs 31:22)?
Why would she work (making and selling things) when her husband was one of the leaders of the city (Proverbs 31:24)?
Why does she laugh at the time to come (Proverbs 31:25)?
Why give special attention to her speech in Proverbs 31:26?
What is meant by the ways of her husband (Proverbs 31:27)?
How long has it been since you praised your wife (or been praised by your husband if you are a woman) (Proverbs 31:28)?
She has excelled whom (Proverbs 31:29)?
What is grace in Proverbs 31:30?
Why is beauty vain (Proverbs 31:30)?
What is meant by in the gates in Proverbs 31:31?
PARAPHRASE OF 31:22-31
22-24.
She also upholsters with finest tapestry; her own clothing is beautifully madea purple gown of pure linen. Her husband is well known, for he sits in the council chamber with the other civic leaders. She makes belted linen garments to sell to the merchants.
25-29.
She is a woman of strength and dignity, and has no fear of old age. When she speaks, her words are wise, and kindness is the rule for everything she says. She watches carefully all that goes on throughout her household, and is never lazy. Her children stand and bless her; so does her husband. He praises her with these words: There are many fine women in the world, but you are the best of them all!
30, 31.
Charm can be deceptive and beauty doesn-’t last, but a woman who fears and reverences God shall be greatly praised. Praise her for the many fine things she does. These good deeds of hers shall bring her honor and recognition from even the leaders of the nation.
COMMENTS ON 31:22-31
Proverbs 31:22. The virtuous woman continues to be described in her relationship to different aspects of life. This verse shows that she likes nice things (Carpets of tapestry) and is gifted at making them. She not only likes outdoor work (she planteth a vineyardPro 31:16) but indoor work (needlework) as well. But she doesn-’t go overboard on making nice thingsshe doesn-’t neglect her family making them. Our verse also shows that this healthy, hardworking woman also likes to look nice (her clothing is fine linen and purple). Her wearing purple and fine linen shows that the family was not poor (compare Luke 16:19).
Proverbs 31:23. And what about her husband? Is he a lazy, no-good type of man? No, she was married to a prominent man, a successful man, one of the rulers of the land. Instead of a courthouse where legal transactions were recorded, their legal business was transacted in the city gates in the presence of the elders: Rth 4:11; Deuteronomy 25:5-10. He was one of them.
Proverbs 31:24. Reference has already been made to her business enterprises: see Proverbs 31:16; Proverbs 31:18-19.
Proverbs 31:25. Clothes, we are told, express the person. In this sense this woman is expressed by two qualities: strength and dignity. These two qualities are evident in all that has been said of her. This -laughing at the future-’ is of course not to be understood as expressive of a presumptuous self-confidence, but only of a consciousness of having all appropriate and possible preparation and competence for the future (Lange).
Proverbs 31:26. Special mention is here made of her speech habits. An idle woman will often get herself into tongue-trouble: Withal they learn also to be idle, going about from house to house; and not only idle, but tattlers also and busybodies, speaking things which they ought not (1 Timothy 5:13). The busy, useful life lived by Proverbs-’ virtuous woman would help keep her from the above. Titus 2:3 instructs womanhood to be not slanderers. This will be foreign to the virtuous woman, for she is both wise and kind in her speech. When she speaks, it is wisdom that comes forth, and the law of kindness governs her lips also.
Proverbs 31:27. Her thorough care of her household is again emphasized (we might say in contrast with those women who are neglectful of their households, not seeing that they have proper meals, not seeing that their clothing is in good order, not keeping up the house, etc.). And her busyness in their behalf is again emphasized (we might say in contrast with those women who are lazy, sleeping in far beyond the proper time to get up, and then not working with diligence after they get up).
Proverbs 31:28. And her household notices her care of them and her work in their behalf, and she is greatly appreciated. Her husband does not overlook her good life and work, but he praiseth her (to herself, privately, to others upon appropriate occasion, and to God who gave her to him). And he teaches the children to appreciate her many efforts too, and the longer they live and the older they get, the more they rise up and call her blessed, making Mother one of the sweetest and dearest words in all the world to them. Mother and goodness and Mother and love go together in their minds. You men have good wives, tell them so, and you children who have good mothers, tell them so.
Proverbs 31:29. Many daughters means many women (or many daughters of men). Yes, the husband admits that there are many women who have done worthily, but to him his own is the very best of all! And isn-’t this the way it should be? Thinking of her in this way, he will be happy and satisfied with her. He will not be thinking of other women nor leaving her for them.
Proverbs 31:30. He realizes that others may have grace, and others may display beauty, but it is better to be married to a woman who feareth Jehovah. Such a woman as he has will be praised, but to fall for the grace of the other woman will be found to be deceitful, and he will see how empty (vain) her beauty can be when she lacks the important qualities of womanhood. Oh, that all women realized how deceitful grace can be and how vain mere physical beauty is! Concerning elegance of shape, symmetry of features, dignity of mien, and beauty of countenance, Clarke says, Sickness impairs them, suffering deranges them, and death destroys them.
Proverbs 31:31. Psalms 128:1-2 speaks of the righteous person getting to eat the product of one’s hands: Blessed is every one that feareth Jehovah, That walketh in his ways. For thou shalt eat the labor of thy hands. God’s final message concerning her to us is that we should give her what she deserves, what she has rightfully earned, especially praise and public recognition (in the gates). Let us listen to Clarke in his rather eloquent close: Let what she has done be spoken of for a memorial to her; let her bright example be held forth in the most public places. Let it be set before the eyes of every female, particularly of every wife, and especially of every mother; and let them learn from this exemplar what men have a right to expect in their wives, the mistresses of their families and the mothers of their children.
TEST QUESTIONS OVER 31:22-31
What new thoughts concerning the virtuous woman are found in Proverbs 31:22?
Tell of her husband (Proverbs 31:23).
What items did she make to sell (Proverbs 31:24)?
What two qualities stand out in her (Proverbs 31:25)?
How is her speech described (Proverbs 31:26)?
What does Proverbs 31:27 re-emphasize concerning this good woman?
Besides the satisfaction that she receives from a job well done, what does Proverbs 31:28 tell us of her reward?
How does her husband express his feelings concerning her great worth (Proverbs 31:29)?
Proverbs 31:30 says, …….. is deceitful, and ……… is vain.
What is God’s final message concerning her to us (Proverbs 31:31)? NOTE: Noticeable Groupings within a chapter are found only in those Chapter s made up of 1-verse sayings (Chapter s 10-29).