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| My Source:
| THE INFORMER
| Volume VIII, #IV, April 1996
| Munford church of Christ
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| Author: John G. Shaver
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GRUDGES
by John G. Shaver
The area assigned for this particular article is the ungodly subject of "grudges." I, for years have thought, and still do, that the Bible is its own best commentary. And, in most cases, if one has a problem understanding what God has said, I have told those folks, "Read on." With this suggestion in mind, let us go to God's infallible, plenary, and verbally-inspired word concerning this subject.
"Thou shalt not avenge, nor bare any GRUDGE
against the children of thy people, but thou shalt
LOVE thy neighbor as thyself: I am the Lord"
(Leviticus 19:18).
"Let them wander up and down for meat, and
GRUDGE if they be not satisfied" (Psalms 59:15).
"GRUDGE not one against another, brethren,
lest ye be condemned; behold, the judge standeth
before the door" (James 5:9).
"Every man according as he purposeth in his
heart, so let him give; not GRUDGINGLY, or
of necessity; for God loveth a cheerful giver"
(2 Corinthians 9:7).
"Use hospitality one to another without
GRUDGING" (1 Peter 4:9).
In his NEW WORLD DICTIONARY, Webster states concerning the word "grudge"...
1) To envy and resent (someone) because
of his possession or enjoyment of (something);
begrudge (to grudge a person his success).
2) To give with reluctance (the miser grudged
his dog food).
3) A strong, continued feeling of hostility or
ill will against someone over a real or
fancied grievance.
Why would a Christian feel hostility toward another Christian? To this question, a myriad of replies might be made. But I have found in many cases one reason with more than a few underlying issues. In my estimation, the outstanding reason is MALICE! As the astute reader understands, the word "malice" can branch off to other sinful areas. Concerning "malice," Webster gives this definition...
1) Active ill will; desire to harm another or
to do mischief.
2) Evil intent; state of mind shown by
intention to do, or intentional doing of,
something unlawful (malice afterthought);
a deliberate intention and plan to do
something unlawful, as murder.
Malice implies a deep-seated animosity that delights in causing others to suffer or in seeing them suffer; ill will and the more formal "malevolence" imply hostile or unfriendly feelings such as depose one to wish evil to others; "spite" suggests a mean desire to hurt, annoy, or frustrate others, usually as displayed in petty, vindictive acts; "rancor" implies an intensely bitter ill will that rankles; "malignity" suggests extreme and virulent malevolence that is relentless in expressing itself; "grudge" implies ill will inspired by resentment over a grievance.
The idea of "grudges" and the aforementioned words in most cases are the results of matters of opinion rather than matters of doctrine. Every one of those matters of opinion can be resolved by the Master's instructions in Matthew 18:15-17. All that is needed is two honest and sincere hearts, believing and obeying the teaching of our precious Jesus. In my experience as a gospel preacher, I have never seen the second step in the Lord's instructions taken when the brethren meet together with honest and sincere hearts concerning the first.
The existence of "grudges" and the terrible cost of the attitudes of some brethren have one deep-seated problem attached to them; a far-reaching and devastating problem--the loss of souls by hindering God's word! Paul states that he suffered all things lest "the gospel of Christ be hindered" (1 Corinthians 9:12). In the immediate context he has reference to his not accepting the financial support from the Corinthians. The reason for this --"lest the gospel be hindered." He states to the Galatians that they had run well, but asked, "...who did hinder you that ye should not obey the truth" (Galatians 5:7)? Once again, this is a reference to the truth's (the gospel's) being hindered. Thus, it should be obvious to all that the truth can be hindered and that there are Biblical examples of God's work being hindered in all ages. As an illustration of this, consider the events recorded in the book of Ezra.
King Cyrus issued a decree that the people of Judah could return and rebuild the temple (Ezra 1). But God's adversaries attempted to "hinder" the building by their interference (Ezra 4). This they sought to do in three ways. FIRST, they tried to deceive the Jews into compromise (Ezra 4:2). SECOND, they "hindered the hands of the people" (Ezra 4:4). THIRD, they misrepresented Israel (Ezra 4:5). The work was halted until Darius issued his decree allowing the work to resume (Ezra 6). In like fashion, the work of rebuilding the walls was also hindered (Nehemiah).
From these and other examples it can easily be seen that the work of the Lord can and often is hindered in every generation. The work of the church is being hindered today. Division is one of the greatest hindrances to the work. As the Lord's church, we ought to be a people firmly united upon God's word (John 17:20-23; 1 Corinthians 1:10-13; Ephesians 4:3-6). Where division begins, unity, of course, ceases. We should have the strong desire to resolve problems that cause division (Isaiah 1:18). We need to search God's word and allow it to solve any problems which exist among us (Isaiah 1:18; 2 Peter 1:3). Division causes separation in God's family, the church (1 Timothy 3:15), just as it causes division in our own families. Congregations that pull against one another cannot work together.
The church will never grow as God intends until she corrects the division within. If we refuse to do so, we will lose the respect of the communities of which we are a part. Would that it could be said of us as Paul said to the Philippians, our brethren of old, "Only let your conversation be as it becometh the gospel of Christ: that whether I come and see you, or else be absent, I may hear of your affairs, that ye stand fast in one spirit with one mind striving together for the faith of the gospel" (Philippians 1:27). Dearest beloved brethren, we need to be united upon God's word, and not be divided by grudges, malice, malevolence, malignity, rancor, or spite; for division is displeasing to God and, therefore, it is sinful (Psalms 133:1; Proverbs 6:16-19).
Many other factors tend to hinder the work and influence of the church today as well. Many of the problems can be traced to elderships. Power struggles, unqualified men serving, the lack of concern for godly living among members, and other such matters among the elders themselves hinders greatly the work of the church. However, when good and godly men are doing the work of the Lord in the capacity of elders and are not esteemed nor respected as they should be, the work of the church is hindered, though through no fault of their own. The lack of spiritual growth by Christians is another great hindrance to the work. Hypocrites and backsliders greatly hinder the cause of Christ and the work the Lord's people are trying to accomplish. The failure to obey the commands of church discipline concerning such members is also a hindrance (Romans 16:17-18; 1 Corinthians 5; 2 Thessalonians 3:6,2 Thessalonians 3:14,2 Thessalonians 3:15). Too, the lack of "holding fast the faithful word" (Titus 1:9) and the lack of teaching of sound doctrine are grievous hindrances to the Lord's church today. Many problems can also be traced to preachers. God demands doctrinal preaching, edifying preaching, benevolent preaching, and that preaching be done with love and compassion (2 Timothy 4:1-8; Ephesians 4:15).
So many of these areas upon which we have touched (and others as well) often lead to grudges. Grudges carry us away from the Lord and the work He would have us to accomplish Grudges, and their many companions, are sinful. Let us respect and "hold fast the faithful word."
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